Get Rich Slowly reader Drake says, “I thought you’d be interested in a portion of an email I sent to my college-age nephew several months ago. It expresses my attitude about money.”
Money is very important, but only if it is understood properly. Most people don’t understand it at all. They don’t understand how money fits into a full and complete life, how it needs to be controlled, how one should relate to it.
Money is a servant, not a master. It’s a tool, a vehicle to get you from one place to another. It is not a good in itself, nor is it an evil in itself. It is simply useful, and even then only up to a point. A certain amount of money gives freedom, the freedom to choose alternatives, the latitude to control your life. Above all, understanding the purpose of money gives the freedom to focus on things other than money.
Many people misquote the Bible when they say, “Money is the root of all evil.” But what the Bible actually says is, “The love of money is the root of all evil.” There is a huge difference between the two. Love of money is a common disease. After all, how many people do you know who are focused on buying and having things? Lots, right? For some people, it even seems that’s all they think about. Clothes, car, apartment, watch, electronics, whatever. It consumes their every waking hour. It’s a very common and pernicious disease, and our culture encourages it. It’s the love of money, not money itself, that enslaves people, that controls their behavior and makes them self-centered, angry, and always dissatisfied.
What we want from money is happiness. But money can’t give happiness any more than a weed-whacker can. It simply helps clear obstacles out of the way. That’s where people get confused. It’s not true to say there is no relationship at all between money and happiness. But it’s also not true to say money is happiness. Money is a tool. It’s helpful in getting happiness just as a hammer is helpful in building a house. But no one would mistake a hammer for a house. By the same token, we shouldn’t mistake money for happiness.
Because money is a tool, you want to always keep some around. That means saving money. You save it. You don’t spend it as soon as you get it. The more you save, the more freedom you have. It’s possible — even fun — to think of ways of being happy without spending money. You know, for example, that I like hiking. I like it in and of itself. But I also like how little it costs. I like the thought that I’m out there having a great time, enjoying beautiful nature, getting exercise, being together with good friends, seeing new things, and all the while I’m spending zero dollars. I’m sure other people get an equal amount of happiness playing golf or sailing in their sailboats. But I’m spending less money per unit of happiness, and I like that.
That’s a concept I have, you see: “Unit of happiness.” I have no idea how you measure happiness, or what one unit of it would be. But I know when I’m happy, and I know when I’m spending money, and I know that there isn’t necessarily a relationship between the two. Sometimes I spend money and I’m happy, like going out to a fine restaurant. Sometimes I don’t spend money and I’m happy, like hiking. So I devote more time to the inexpensive things that make me happy, only occasionally spending money on other things.
That, I think, is the proper attitude toward money. You save it. It gives you freedom. And with that freedom every now and then you spend a bit of it, just because you want to.
Outstanding advice. If all uncles gave advice as sound as Drake’s, young people would be in better financial shape.
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In my labor economics class in college the professor was fond of the term “util” as a unit of Drake’s “Unit of Happiness”. He did all kinds of computations involving utils to illustrate various theories of why people work, how much they choose to work, and what they do with their earnings.
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Good advice. Slight misquote of the bible tho; it actually says “The love of money is a root of all kinds of evil” Its only A root, not THE root, and not of all evil, but of all kinds, ie, many varieties of evil.
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There’s an old joke that might summarize this article succinctly:
Money won’t buy you happiness, but it will buy your favorite type of misery.
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Sometimes I spend money and I’m happy, like going out to a fine restaurant. Sometimes I don’t spend money and I’m happy, like hiking. So I devote more time to the inexpensive things that make me happy, only occasionally spending money on other things.
During one of AskMe’s relationship threads, someone commented that there are many roads to happiness in this life and you ought to be able to find one that doesn’t hurt someone else. Same principle. Good advice in both cases.
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I’m agree with your ideas. Money is only a tool. The motivations behind getting money is to help you achieve your dreams and visions in life.
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My copy of the Bible says that the love of money is the root of all sorts of injurious things. It also says that money is for a protection.
The key is moderation and not to let money be your master.
How many people have leveraged themselves into debt to buy the big beautiful house, the expensive car, etc. They overdo it, and that’s one way they get themselves into a mess.
I am a Jehovah’s Witness who’s read the Bible thoroughly. However, I’ve also read the Millionaire next door and other things. Believe me, most of the real millionaires live VERY modestly.
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I commend the uncles advice and would only add that money is also a very useful tool to make money. Learning how to leverage and invest money as per the Bible (parable of the talents) is one of the best ways I can think of using money to buy freedom.
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I think the key here is to be happy whatever the situation and not let external forces dictate ones internal environment. What is most important is to secure the basics: Food, shelter, clothing. Nobody is happy without these but once one has shelter, food and clothing, what becomes most important next determines happiness or an constant striving for more. For me, it is household harmony. My husband and I are close and make all decisions together. The premise is two heads are better than one. Where one of us might make a mistake, the other is there to make suggestions and help in the process. We think about what we are doing and how it will imapct not just today but the future as well. I am a jewelery hound and sometimes lament not being able to buy something ( especially if it is a great buy and I do know prices) but then I stop and think. It all becomes less important and I know other opportunities will present themselves. when the time is right, we will buy everything we want, at the price we want and it will all fall into place. that is how our entire married life has been and so far, it has produced pretty good results.
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