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I’ve made great progress with my personal finances over the past year. I am paying off debt. I established an emergency fund. I even opened a Roth IRA. But I’m not out of the woods yet — I still do stupid things from time-to-time.
Spending for the sake of spending
For example, I just returned from a trip to the bank. I deposited a couple of checks which caused my balance to increase to what, for me, is an enormous sum. (Next week I’ll share my dilemma over what to do with this money.)
Rather than come directly home, I had to stop at the comic book store. This isn’t necessarily bad. I’ve been training myself to buy only comics I genuinely want, not to buy for the sake of buying. Today there wasn’t anything that I had to have. I should have left empty-handed. I didn’t. Instead I found a couple of books that looked mildly interesting. I spent $50.
This is stupid. I know perfectly well that the several new collections I want are due out later this month. I should have saved for them. But because I was feeling flush, I craved the rush of a new purchase. So I spent $50.
Past due
Last summer I wrote about paying bills as they arrive. This money hack has works well for me. By paying bills when they arrive, I don’t feel pinched. The money goes to necessities first, so I know anything left over is mine to do with as I please.
This works like a charm. Mostly.
The one bill I haven’t been paying as it arrives is the home equity line of credit. Instead, I wait as long as possible so that I can accumulate cash to throw at it. The problem is that sometimes I forget to mail it. Last month, for example, the bill was due on the 18th. On the 19th, I was sorting my financial papers for something else, and noticed my home equity bill had not yet been paid.
Fortunately, I was able to make a bank transfer that day, which meant the money cleared in time to avoid late fees. (I have some unknown number of days beyond the due date in which to pay.)
Again: this is dumb. I could easily have missed the payment completely, resulting in late fees or (worse) an increased interest rate.
Easy come, easy go
I have a lot of books. I’m sometimes reading five or six books at once. To mark my place, I usually grab whatever piece of paper is at hand. Sometimes, apparently, I mark my place with $140 checks.
In February, I was gathering a stack of books to return to the library. One book slipped and crashed to the floor. As it did, its pages ruffled briefly and a check fell out. It was a check I’d received in the mail the day before. If I weren’t so clumsy, I would be $140 poorer. (And four years from now, some library patron would have opened the book to discover $140!)
Nobody’s perfect
Everyone makes mistakes. The recovery process — moving from a life of debt and compulsive spending to a life of responsible money management — takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight.
When I used to make these sorts of mistakes all the time, I’d let them get me down. Doing something dumb like spending $50 on comics that I didn’t really want would have been enough to send me into a tailspin. I’d feel bad, which would cause me to spend, which would make me feel bad, which would cause me to spend. And so on.
These over-reactions are rare now. I accept the fact that I’m going to do stupid things. I trust that I’m on the right path, that my financial situation is improving. Little errors aren’t enough to draw me off-course anymore. I have my goals, and I’m sticking to them.
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April 6th, 2007 at 5:25 am
Speaking of comics, do you have any favorite comic company? i.e. Marvel, DC, Darkehorse, etc. As a fellow comic book fan, I’m curious why you don’t have a blog dedicated to it…
April 6th, 2007 at 5:50 am
Hey J.D. could I borrow a book or two or three?
As long as you’ve learned your lesson you can take the right approach next time. Perhaps instead of going to the comic store, you can look online for the release dates of those you really want and mark them on a calendar. That way you can’t impulsively walk out with $50 of extra purchases.
April 6th, 2007 at 5:54 am
I used to prefer Marvel. I grew up reading Marvel/DC in the late-70s and early-80s. However, nowadays I only purchase collected editions, never actual comics. With time, I’ve learned that I love old comic strips (from before 1950) more than I do comic books, so that’s my primary collecting focus. And I do have a comics blog. I just don’t have time to write there. Since starting GRS, I’ve done a very poor job of writing about comics.
April 6th, 2007 at 7:08 am
Over the past few years I’ve been able, for the most part, to conquer my impulse to spend for the sake of spending. My main area of impulse spending has been food and wine: some imported, sharp Gorgonzola here; some Spanish serrano ham there; a French pastry in addition; a $15 bottle of vouvray; and so on.
I’ve been trying to lose weight recently, and this has helped me minimize the food and wine purchases. However, I still occasionally have the urge to spend for the sake of spending, especially since a Trader Joe’s and Whole Foods have opened nearby.
So I’ve begun to factor impulse/wanton spending into my budget. I allow myself around $40-$50 of impulse food spending per month, and I allow myself around one bottle of wine (at or below $15) per month.
It should be noted that this money is not the same as my regular grocery budget. You could, similarly, have a separate comics budget (which you seem to have already). The “mad money” allotment would apply to all “organized” impulse spending beyond the comics budget.
Perhaps developing this strategy wouldn’t work for comics. Some of my “impulse” money for food goes to ostensible essentials such as organic apples; it may be hard to define “essentials” for comics…. But allowing myself some budgeted “mad money” per month allows me to remain disciplined with the rest of my budget.
If you do something similar (perhaps you do already), maybe you should develop a system whereby you “fine” yourself if you go over your “mad money.” Say you’ve depleted your comics allotment for the month, and you’ve gone over your impulse allotment: fine yourself some money from your checking account, depositing it into a less accessible account. At some point, if you’re considering making a purchase beyond your comics and impulse categories, ask yourself if you can afford the $29 “fine” for exceeding your budget lines. You could even “get official” with this technique and mail a letter with bill to yourself, as a post-impulse reminder of your excess. (or perhaps get your wife to mail it!) It may not work, but perhaps it’s worth trying.
April 6th, 2007 at 7:11 am
So return the books today and save the money for the comic books later.
Jennifer
April 6th, 2007 at 7:24 am
heh, I’m with Jennifer! While that may not be possible, is there any chance you could turn your comic book fetish into something a bit more challenging and fun? For instance, the store where you typically shop, can you negotiate prices? If not, can you find a cheaper source?
That’s part of the fun for my wife and me. Whenever we need something, it makes the process a bit more enjoyable if you can barter with sellers or find a cheaper (perhaps more creative) alternative. Heck, I feel like I’m preaching to the choir…this site and Ramit’s are what got me started down that path.
Glad to hear that you’re on the right path with your accounts…I wouldn’t worry about the occasional slip-up.
April 6th, 2007 at 7:32 am
I use an online calendar like 30boxes.com, have all my monthly bills on there, and have alerts sent do my email. I get an email saying hey you have this appointment which actually means Hey pay your bills you moron.
April 6th, 2007 at 8:11 am
J.D. — does your library not carry comics??? My wife is a librarian here in New Mexico, the 2nd poorest state in the union, but even our libraries carry all kinds of comics, hardback collections, and even the regular “soft back” individual titles. Is it that you have to actually OWN the books? But why? I used to collect comics when I was a teen, but my collection was hidden away in my closet in these long white boxes w/ lids. I never even took those lids off to even look at the covers of those books again or even run my fingers over the plastic bags I kept the comics in. I didn’t display my comics, share my comics, or even ever re-read/look at my comics because they were too “valuable.” Ha! Anyone who’s ever sold comics back to a dealer knows that comics ain’t the stock market. Point is, that collection didn’t reward me or others in any way. In the end I was just getting a “buzz” from acquiring the damn things, but I had long stopped appreciating the comics themselves. Now I just pretend that the library is an extension of my house, and I got a huge collection of books and music and dvd’s that I can enjoy anytime I want, and my “collection” doesn’t rob me of any time, space, or energy.
April 6th, 2007 at 8:31 am
I just came over here from http://www.adistantsoil.com/blog
Comic book artist Colleen Doran is also blogging about money, only she is talking about money issues for creators. There’s a link to your blog, so this is the first time I came here. It looks like good advice all around. There is a lot to think about! Thanks!
April 6th, 2007 at 8:35 am
Ah, JD needs to read Aslett’s books on collecting stuff
April 6th, 2007 at 8:37 am
I get about 95% of my books from the library, but I think that comics are a great splurge when you need a little treat– they’re a little bit frivolous, but that’s the point, and $5 (not $50!) isn’t much to spend for lying in the sun, eating a sandwich, reading a comic books, and feeling wonderfully frivolous.
April 6th, 2007 at 8:37 am
Well I know all about being stupid with money, but things are MUCH better than they were a couple of years ago.
Unfortunately because of past stupidity, our credit isn’t so hot, so one thing we are doing to try and re-build it is allow ourselves about $60 per month of splurge items, which we put on our credit card and then pay it all responsible and adult-like. We are boosting our credit score with the on-time payment history, plus, we get that little rush of “haha, I got something new, and I didn’t even pay for it!” Of course we pay when the bill arrives, but we get to enjoy our “free” stuff for a couple of weeks, and we make sure to keep the price down so it’s not so bad paying the bill when it comes in.
April 6th, 2007 at 8:38 am
I’m going to the library today to look for checks!!!! Seriously though, I need to implement the paying bills when they arrive technique. Right now my bills get piled onto my computer desk…….. recipe for disaster. I have recently started pulling just the first page of the bill with the amount due and due date out and throwing the rest of the mess away. At least that way I don’t have envelopes and special offers cluttering the desk as well.
April 6th, 2007 at 8:52 am
On the library queue, as I think you know.
@Emily
I buy comic compilations rather than the comic books themselves, so my costs are higher. But still — you’ve got a point.
For the record, the two books I went home with were the new Classic Alpha Flight and a Drawn & Quarterly book: Oh Skin-Nay! The Days of Real Sport, which is a fascimile of a book from 1913. The latter is awesome. I love it. Well worth the $25. (But then I’m a huge fan of pop culture from 1890-1920.) Oh Skin-Nay delves into the lives of boys growing up c1890. There’s about one vignette per week, each one comprising a short verse and a full-page illustration. For example, one of the pages for summer has a verse about going to the swimming hole followed by a full-page illustration of a couple dozen naked boys frolicking in the water, playing games, and climbing trees. This is marvelous stuff. (So, obviously, I’m not completely disappointed with my stupid expenditure.)
April 6th, 2007 at 8:59 am
Thanks for sharing your mistakes! I’m a new reader of your blog, and I REALLY appreciate it. What I like most is that you share genuinely useful information, but you seem to be an average person. What I mean is that you aren’t some financial genius the rest of us can never hope to be. Your site makes me believe it is possible to learn what I need to know about finances. THANKS!
April 6th, 2007 at 9:11 am
As far as timely payment of bills, have you investigated online payment services such as http://www.mycheckfree.com? This is a free service that I have utilized to pay my utilities. You can schedule your payment when you want and the service will deduct it from the account you specify. I’ve been using it for years, I love it!
Also, Citibank is a great online bank (www.citi.com) that I have signed up with. The best deal is when you open up a checking and a savings account. That way, you get a savings account that pays you 4.75% interest with no minimum balance. The account also has online bill payment features similar to checkfree.
Check to see if your creditors accept payments from Checkfree or Citi. If not, many have an online payment option.
To fully maximize the above, I have online services (checkfree, citi, etc.) deduct my payments on the due date. In the meantime, these funds are earning interest and my payments are always on time!
April 6th, 2007 at 9:15 am
Good to hear that you are making progress in putting the right priorities in focus as there isn’t much that is more important than financial independence!
One suggestion I would give is to open a savings account which you can put any extra money in. Try not to look at the balance of this account. That way, you are always saving and you won’t really feel like you have money to waste. Another is to open an index fund acconut that lets you contribute small sums without charging you crazy fees each time.
If that doesn’t keep you from knowing you are rich, then I would really suggest contributing in your 401k and IRAs. Once you put them in, you can’t really withdraw them unless you want to pay a penalty, so it becomes like a safe vault for you to deposit money. You never have to worry about using it because most people probably won’t withdraw knowing they will pay a penalty (at least until you are 60 years old, when hopefully you won’t have as many impulsive buys).
My Own Millions Blog
April 6th, 2007 at 9:25 am
@Dickey — one thing that I so, so LOVE about Don Aslett is how he even “warns” people against “motivators” such as himself … you know, when he talks about how “engines don’t run on starter fluid,” and that motivational books can become an addiction, like a drug, that people need “fixes” of all the time. I love how he tells people that spending too much of their time reading his books will actually KEEP THEM FROM ACHIEVING THE STUFF HE’S TALKING ABOUT. Amazing.
April 6th, 2007 at 9:53 am
My vice is original art. A few years ago I started buying original art here and there. On average I probably go to an opening or two a month. Recently my wife and I have started trying to watch our spending much closer (she’s much better at this than I am) as we’ve had a kid and purchased a house.
All that said I still slip up regularly. A couple months ago we went to an opening and the gallery had not only new stuff by the featured artist but a variety of other new stuff from artists I hadn’t seen before. I went through there going “oh man, I totally love this. and this. and that” and then I ended up spending almost a grand on three pieces (note that I did NOT put those pieces on credit and used my debit card as we had the funds in our checking account).
I’m getting better but some things die harder than others.
April 6th, 2007 at 10:29 am
Paying Bills as they come in? Why oh why?
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People act as if this is an end all be all strategy for paying your bills on time. But we’re human. Machines are much better than we are at doing this sort of thing.
Beyond Electric, Gas and Water, most bills are fixed these days (phone used to vary, but for most people no more).
Make sure you have three bank accounts at your local brick and mortar bank. One we’ll call “Deposit/Variable”, one we’ll call “Check Cashing”, and one we’ll call “Savings”.
Put $100 buffer into Check Cashing (in case you make a mistake)
Put $1000 as a mini-emergency, oops my paychecks didn’t line up fund, into savings.
Setup direct deposit into the checking account, or make your deposits into there.
Calculate the total fixed expenses for the month. Setup an automatic transfer from “Savings” into “Check cashing” for that amount. Have it occur on the 28th or so of every month (shortly before your biggest bills are due)
Setup automatic payments to each of your fixed bills. You *really* don’t need to include the bill, just your account number on the memo line.
Now here is the beauty of the system. All your bills will be paid on time without you doing anything. Set an automated payment to occur for the day before they’re due (most banks mail appropriately to get them there by the date specified; some still mail on the date you specify, in that case, set it with ample time to arrive).
If you have direct deposit with work, setup the amount of your monthly fixed expenses to go into that savings account (+ whatever you’d like to actually save in there). Set the rest to go to your “Deposits/Variable” account.
Pay your variable bills out of the Variable account. A trick I use to never miss a payment is set a small, yet sufficent ammount to go to each CC that has a balance, each utility that I’ll definitly use, etc with all the fixed expenses.
Then after a check clears (such as today), I go make some bigger payments to pay off CC’s, etc. I even can set an “alert” to come out of my bank when a check is deposited to my account (so I know when Direct Deposit occurs) so I can go make these bigger payments.
I *never* miss a bill this way or pay a balance transfer fee. You always can pay more to an account somewhere then they’ve asked yet. Bills are simply what you’re sent when you have a balance. You don’t have to have one before you pay.
Also, quickly putting all the money into the Check Clearing account means it look like I have drastically less sitting in my accounts, thereby making spending look much less appealing.
–Michael
April 6th, 2007 at 10:34 am
JD:
I recently fretting on my blog about my impulse purchase of the complete DS9 series — I still feel guilty. They have arrived. They are sitting there unopened while I take a few days to contemplate a) returning them b) reselling them c) just enjoying them.
I was able to pay for them with “found” cash — the issue is I could have also paid off debt with that found cash. Now, this is in the same month as having already put close to $2K at the debt so it’s not like I’m a debt-payment slacker.
I think ultimately that it’s important to have and live on a budget, but also to just know that sometimes you have to slip off track a little. I mean — you are going to get pleasure out of those purchases, right? And they weren’t extravagant.
You have to be careful with this line of thinking and not excuse too many impulse purchases, but we aren’t bill paying machines either.
DB
April 6th, 2007 at 11:30 am
Of all of the bills you SHOULD be paying the day you receive it is probably should be your HELCO, seeing as how each day you wait to pay it the more interest that gets to accrue.
I recently paid off my HELOC, but when I had it I would mark the day the bill was generated on my calendar and make the payment online that day to save interest expense. Also there’s nothing to say you can’t pay the bill the day you receive it and then send a 2nd payment when you got more cash available for it. Any debt bill should be the first ones paid each month, stuff like utilities can technically wait because they are giving you a mini interest free loan.
April 6th, 2007 at 11:34 am
You might consider two things.
First, an allowance. So that “extra” money is not for spending, and every month you know how much you have to splurge or save up for things.
Second, a replacement for buying new things. For myself, looking forward to when new books and movies show up at the library works well. Also, if I didn’t find anything I want at the book store, stopping by the library if I don’t want to go home without something new to read.
April 6th, 2007 at 11:36 am
April 6th, 2007 at 11:40 am
relax dude.. it’s only $50 =D
April 6th, 2007 at 11:42 am
Well, sometimes I think you need to spend some money just to let yourself remember that you can–as long as it’s money you’ve actually GOT, and not revolving credit. Sometimes we get so caught up in NOT spending money and the thrill of saving and watching interest accumulate that we start feeling deprived when we’re actually not. In the long run, $50 on something you truly enjoy and will continue to enjoy for a long time (my husband is a comic collector, and often goes digging through the longboxes in the attic for something he’s read 40 times since 1986, so I know how long the enjoyment can last) isn’t that much. It’s not like you went out and charged a $2000 plasma TV when the bills aren’t paid yet.
You want dumb? I forgot to send in the rebate forms on our new PC in a timely manner, and they expired. The rebate would have been more than $160. Now THAT was dumb.
April 6th, 2007 at 12:40 pm
I would make a good habit of sticking any check into my wallet immediately
April 6th, 2007 at 12:47 pm
JD: I know how you feel about comics. If I happen to step foot inside a comic book store, I happen to gobble up any Jim Lee books I still don’t have in my collection. So what I decided to do is to limit my trips to comic book stores. But I know once SD comic con comes around, I can get better deals on books from the vendors there offering huge discounts.
I think it’s ok to reward yourself once in a while. For me, going to SD comic con is it. =) ’nuff said.
April 6th, 2007 at 1:35 pm
Bill Paying (not comics)
I moved all our bills to be due at the same time each month. All of our bills arrive before the 28th of the month and they are due about the 15th of the month.
We get paid on the first of each month. On the first, I pay all of our bills.
This greatly simplifies the whole bill paying process.
I called each of the companies and asked to have my billing date moved. The only one that was a (slight) problem was the gas/electric bill since they actually come out and read your meter. But they did a average charge that we pay monthly that they correct with actual meter readings twice a year.
April 6th, 2007 at 1:57 pm
JD- For the comics, once you’re done with them, could you sell it to one of your comic-loving friends? If not, perhaps you could donate it to a hospital or something. I’m sure there are sick teenagers who would love to have something like that to read.
I am really impressed with this post. It takes a big man to stand up in front of the entire internet and reveal your mistakes! It takes an even bigger man to not let those mistakes turn into huge failures. This is proof to me of your becoming more responsible financially. Thanks for the insight into your process, it is very motivating for me!
April 6th, 2007 at 11:34 pm
I’ve been trying to beat my finances into shape. I’ve been reading this site for about three weeks now, and find it an interesting mix of strategies.
My most recent example of dumb was being too rushed to write down an entry in my register when an ATM failed to print a receipt. This came back to bite me when I realized that I was short and my car insurance payment was about to bounce.
I called my credit union and was able to set up an overdraft line of credit. I had to haggle a bit when they said it was required to be an auto-pay. I got into the mess by doing something stupid, going on to something insane was not on my list of good ways to get out of the mess. They let that go and I got the LOC in, which was a good thing, the insurance cleared that night and ate $37 into the LOC. A week later a woman had a seizure at a traffic light and wrecked my car, to the point where I’m in deeper debt because repair was over double the value of the car. (I bought another car.) I’ll deal with that loan when I finish the others I am paying down.
I recently have finished my home mortgage, and am starting serious savings (that I should have done years ago, but, such is life, I’m getting in gear now).
My current strategy for paying bills is: I have a spreadsheet with all my recurring bills and approximate amounts listed. I am on a locked two-week payroll, so most months I get two paychecks a month, and twice a year, I get three paychecks (well, direct deposits really). For each of the two regular paychecks, I have a list of which bills are to be paid out of them. If a bill fails to show up on time or at all, I still have the reminder in the spread sheet. On months when I get a third check, I send it to my savings.
I use an old form of Checkfree for my payments, it costs $5.95/month, but I can pay anyone in the US and have fine control over when my payments are processed. However, one drawback is that they do their own fee as an auto-pay. This has come close to wrecking me several times, I hate to think what the consequences would have been if I’d had a large amount on that system. This is why auto-pay is on my insane financial acts list.
On the plus side, it makes some tricks easier to do with on-line payment. I am paying off one debt (Discover) with two payments a month, easier than with paper, and less problematic that holding money for a payment in the future.
I have learned to value separation of functions in accounts. Despite the auto-pay risks, using Checkfree this way does not leave me at the mercy of a credit-union/bank specific e-payment solution. Nor am I subject the the peculiarities of having the vendors pull from my account, and screwing it up. (Yes, this happened to me once, another entry on my insanity list.) If I absolutely have to have an auto-pay like process, I run it through my debit card.
I have a separate account for my debit card. I regard it as insane to put a debit card on the household checking account. Aside from the increased risk of undercutting yourself by accident, one card scammer can trash your critical payments. While some banks offer the same protections on a debit card as a credit card, they are less willing to cover the hundreds to thousands the bounced payments can run up. (This one I learned from the experiences of others.)
Not having goal-based savings until recently was one of my long-term dumbnesses. Now I am using two on-line savings accounts (risk spreading) with spreadsheets documenting “mini-accounts” within those as goal-tracking tools.
I have lots more dumbness that I’ve been curing myself of, but there’s only so much space on the server here.
April 6th, 2007 at 11:37 pm
And THAT is why I stay away from the shops, no matter how much I want a new TPB. It’s just not safe! As with Francis, for the most part my comic splurge is limited to Comic Con, otherwise the temptation would inevitably outlast my willpower.
April 7th, 2007 at 4:18 pm
Paying your bills as they come in only works if you open your mail. Unfortunately my husband does not open his mail. He just leaves it laying around in piles. This is one very big reason for us to have separate finances.
April 9th, 2007 at 7:12 am
I’ve found that automatic billpay, free through my bank, has been a savior in the area of late payments.
On whichever debt I’m paying down, I set the billpay for weekly and make weekly payments that seem much more doable that one large monthly sum.
No more late payments for me and no more expense on checks or postage!