How to Save a Dollar Print
Monday, 9th July 2007 (by J.D.)This article is about Frugality, Funny Money, Real-Life, Shopping
Here’s a guest-post from my cousin, Mrs. Darling. She previously shared information on how to raise a family on one income (here’s part two). The third part to that series will appear here in August.
It’s another gorgeous morning filled with birdsong.
It’s also the beginning of another busy week. We spent all Sunday afternoon running from store to store in search of a TV. Now we didn’t just go out all willy-nilly. Oh no! My husband has a charted plan in his complicated head every time he shops for something. He already knew exactly where the sales were from pouring over the paper. You say, “Oh yeah, he looked at the Sunday paper and pulled out the ads.” No my friend, he looked at months worth of Sunday papers. He’s been all over the internet. He’s stopped many times on his way home from work to check out sales. That’s how my husband shops!
So we went to Best Buy for a great deal on a 30″ HDTV. He actually may have bought that TV, so convinced was he by his research that the TV and price were superior. But you see he took me along. I don’t want a 30″ TV. I want nothing less than a 37″ model.
Our downstairs living room is strange, comprising two sets of glass sliding doors, the hallway door, the door into the front entry, a brick wall for the stove, and openings on both sides of the brick wall that lead into another room. Do you see where I’m going with this? There are no walls to put any furniture on! The only full wall in that room is on the opposite side of the room from the TV.
Our little 26-incher is hard to see from across the room. I’m always trying to compensate by moving the furniture in a circle around the TV. It looks ridiculous to say the least.
Now of course, we’re getting a new TV for other reasons than just that it’s too small. Oh my, yes. The size of the TV would never warrant a new one in hubby’s book, although it’s more than enough reason for me. Nope, the real reason he’s looking for a new TV is because this one is 24 years old and the light is going out on it. It has a sensor that is old and aged.
You can’t watch the TV in a dark room because you cant see the pic. Daytime is usually fine but even with the lights on in the evening the TV can suddenly decide it doesn’t want to work. The other night I wanted to see Primetime so badly that I watched the entire thing with a flashlight pointed at the sensor to fool the TV into thinking there was more light in the room. Now that, my folks, is primitive!
Oh yes, we have a 52″ HDTV upstairs in the family room but it gets the satellite dish and hubby was watching a show so I couldn’t use it. So, having established months ago that we need a new TV, we leave the store without one because I refuse to be comforted by a 30″ model.
I knew that by not agreeing to the size, I was delaying the purchase of a TV by many months. But my dear husband also knew that I have always said we needed to go bigger in that living room. So why did he spend all his time researching the 30″ ones? I’ll never know!
We left Best Buy without a TV. God forbid that we should just buy a bigger one that was on sale too. He had not researched the bigger ones, and in high definition the pic quality lessens the bigger you go, or so says my husband. We dare not purchase something without further investigation.
So we leave to go to G.I. Joe’s. My husband is looking for a bike rack for the back of the Expedition. Ah, now you’re thinking he just decided to buy a bike rack instead of the TV? Wrong. The bike rack had been researched almost as much as the TV and you guessed it: bike racks were on sale at G.I. Joe’s. He knew this. He had checked the ads! After wiggling the bike rack back and forth and examining the welding and the screws hubby pronounces to no one in particular that he could make a better bike rack than that.
That was the end of the bike rack for that day. He will wait for another sale or make his own. No one’s work is on the same par as my husbands! I used to think this was all in hubby’s mind until he built 1400 square feet onto this house and every inspector that showed up gasped in amazement at the craftsmanship. So I no longer doubt that his work is superior. However there is a problem with him doing it himself. He never gets it done! Sshh, that’s our secret.
My darling lives on his own timetable. He marches to a different drummer than most anybody I know! It’s now been eight years since we started the remodel, and the old part of the house lies in various degrees of “undoneness”. If you mention this to him he blinks like a groundhog seeing daylight in February! He’s certain time is holding still for him to finish.
I want a tree-fort built for Peter. I’m worried. Folks, he hasn’t even started researching it! The research could take months because of course he will never just build a Huck Finn-type tree fort! I remind him that he can’t take eight years to build it or poor little Peter will be 13 years old and no longer in need of a fort!
Where was I? Oh yes, at G. I. Joe’s, and now the kids are looking at helmets so they can ride four-wheelers. Daddy looks at them with the kids, but you guessed it — there’s no purchase. Why not? Lets say it together, “He hasn’t done the research yet!” Good. You’re getting the idea.
On the way out, I spied some darling camp chairs in cute little football and soccer ball shapes. I knew better than to mention a desire to have one for the kids. I determined to come back later and buy them with my own money. They were only $29.95 a piece! (I saw them later at Walmart for $17.88!)
Out we went without a single purchase: no bike rack, no bike helmets, and no camping chairs. It’s on to Walmart! My sweetheart has seen a good deal on a bigger swimming pool for the kids, so we go to check it out. While we’re there he checks on bike racks and TVs for good measure!
Gas is $3.19 a gallon. It would cost one dollar to come back if one happened to lose track of why one had really gone to the big city to begin with. My husband never gets distracted by all the bright colored patio dishes on sale, or the cute little kids swimsuits and sippy cups. He’s on a mission and never loses sight of what he came for. We left Walmart empty handed, too. Well, not totally empty handed. His money was still carefully fisted away in his wallet so one could never use the term empty handed.
From Walmart we continue to Costco. My husband is hitting all these stores in the order they come. That’s right. You’ll never see him going back-and-forth like a bat in broad daylight. His course has been carefully charted at the kitchen table in such a way that he saves both time and money. No matter how I try to take it all in order, it never happens, but he accomplishes it.
At Costco we check the swimming pools again. The pool he wants is 18′ in diameter and 4-1/2′ deep. It says so on the box! And we’re in luck. One of the pools of just that size is set up as a floor model. Now I trust what the box says. Dont you? I mean if it says it’s 18′, then I assume it’s 18′. Not my husband. I hear him muttering to himself, “I cant believe I didn’t bring my tape measure. Eighteen feet. I wonder if that’s exactly 18 feet.” I walk away. My sanguine, impulsive self has seen too much today.
We leave Costco without a swimming pool and without the cute playhouse the kids wanted so badly or the big fluffy beach towels I had drooled over. Three hours after leaving the house we are back home.
My husband’s money is safe! No frivolous purchases have been made. No sirree! In fact, no purchases have been made period.
We have been shopping for three hours and we have only spent one dollar, and that was on gas! Is it any wonder that with only one income, everything we own, including our house, is paid for in full?
We get in the door and hubby walks to the table and rechecks the ad on the bike rack. He hates false advertising and this was a sure case of it if he ever did see one: cheap, flimsy, bike rack. He’ll make one of his own. It will be beautiful and every weld will be perfect. It should be finished in roughly two years…if we’re lucky.

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July 9th, 2007 at 5:44 am
I’ve got to forward this to my wife. Maybe she’ll see that I’m not winning the penny-pinching contest after all!
July 9th, 2007 at 5:44 am
Yep, this would drive me absolutely mad. For me, its not necessarily important to get the best deal, as long as its a good deal. But then I’m only looking after myself on a single income, so…
July 9th, 2007 at 6:22 am
Madness! Three hours wasted being dragged around from store to store for absolutely nothing. Sometimes you lose when shopping. Sometimes *no one* has exactly what you’re looking for, and, that’s fine.
Being frugal is fine and good, but, your own time and sanity are valuable as well. Particularly when you add in the *months* of research. Let’s look at it in terms of that playhouse for the kids. If they realize he’s never going to “get around to” making it, they may decide to buy it instead. If he hadn’t spent *months* researching the best deals on a television, he might have had the time to *make* the playhouse.
So… if you save $25 but lose $100, what have you really saved? Worse, if you promise your kids something & never follow through (obviously we don’t actually know whether this has been promised to the kids), what have you really gained here?
July 9th, 2007 at 6:54 am
Ha ha ha…. this is a great article. I see a bit of myself in your cousin’s husband! Fortunately I don’t go so far overboard. But I will delay purchases for months waiting for a “good deal.”
July 9th, 2007 at 7:16 am
I’m not sure if we’re supposed to feel sympathy for the wife here, but the impression *I* got is that the wife just wants to impulse buy any old thing she comes across, while the husband wants to be careful and deliberate about his purchases. He wants to make sure he knows what he’s buying before he commits to the purchase…that makes a lot of sense to me!
July 9th, 2007 at 7:25 am
Well, I can tell you that the reason I thought this story was funny (and I did find it hilarious) was the juxtaposition between the penny-pinching husband and the impulse-spending wife. I thought both of them were over the top.
July 9th, 2007 at 8:04 am
WOW How can you live with that man??????????
July 9th, 2007 at 8:06 am
This sounds very belittling to me. Maybe they should look into seeking the help of a marriage therapist?
Maybe its just how it sounds and because I don’t know them, but I would be kind of upset if my wife was talking about me like that.
July 9th, 2007 at 8:25 am
This sounds a little obsessive. As other commenters have pointed asked, at what point of bargain shopping do go over the apex into diminishing returns? When do the costs of bargain shopping outweigh the bargain itself?
July 9th, 2007 at 8:48 am
This made me laugh because this is the way that I tend to shop, even though I’m female. My best friend (a guy) has told me more than once that I shop like a guy–research sales, plan purchases in advance, plan trip, get in and get out. (Yes, it can take me months to decide to buy something.) I can’t stand shopping and being dragged from store to store so I try to get it over with as quickly as possible.
July 9th, 2007 at 8:54 am
“We have been shopping for three hours and we have only spent one dollar, and that was on gas! Is it any wonder that with only one income, everything we own, including our house, is paid for in full?”
Why did you waste the $1 on gas? I think the saying goes, “Penny wise, pound foolish.” I guess if your idea of fun is “researching every minuscule purchase for months without buying anything” and “driving around stores for three hours” then you must have a dreamy life.
Personally, if I have three hours to kill, I would rather take a walk around the park, play with my daughter, and cook-out on my patio, but that’s me, I like to keep things simple. Dragging my wife and children around stores for three hours and not buying anything seems like a complete waste of time. I would dare to say that it is worse than spending frivolously. The “L” in LBYM is passing you by and you are driving from store-to-store being “frugal”.
For all the time this guy spends “researching purchases he will never make”, I wonder how much time he spends researching investments or perhaps learning new marketable skills that could improve his position at work. It’s a wonder that people will spend countless hours to save a few hundred on a one-time TV purchase, but don’t bother get some training that might increase their earning potential by $100s/mo. There are two sides to the LBYM equation people, don’t obsess over one side too much.
-Toby
July 9th, 2007 at 8:59 am
So the key to living on 1 income is to just never buy anything, ever?
This guy is a nut. Who does months of research and decides on a 30″ HDTV? Who pinches every penny and drives an Expedition?
This woman sounds really bitter toward her husband. I hope people don’t read this and think this is how you have to live to get out of debt or live on 1 income.
July 9th, 2007 at 9:09 am
Hmm…
Apparently this story doesn’t work well without context. It’s meant to be funny because it highlights the foibles of two people who are very close. Rest assured that this couple is happy and that they love each other. They’re frugal and successful with their money. I thought the story was a funny “culture clash” between two ways of shopping, but I guess that’s because I know the participants. Lesson noted!
July 9th, 2007 at 9:17 am
Guys, don’t be so hard on the guy. The tone of the post is humor, not frustration. They aren’t misers, and it’s obvious to me that despite the the wife’s (mock) exasperation, she’s quite happy that the big things–like the house–are taken care of.
And why do so many people think that spending three hours in a shop without buying something is “wasting time”. Is it necessary to buy something–anything?–in order for time to be productive?
July 9th, 2007 at 9:38 am
I used to have the same problem. I have little or no time to waste on shopping. I work full time and have plenty of things that need to be done at home. So what I did was stop going along on these research trips. I ask point blank if he intends on purchasing or researching. If he lies to me, I simply decline outright the next time. I shop alone and with a list.
On the rare occasions that I do a research shopping trip, I do so on my own time, leaving stores empty handed if necessary. I don’t drag the kids along. Frankly, gas is too expensive for this. When I do shop (not go shopping mind you) I get in, and get out, buying just the things we need (groceries, supplies).
I don’t have the luxury to waste time nor money on gas running around from store to store doing research that can be done online. My time is very valuable.
July 9th, 2007 at 9:41 am
I think it comes down to what your time is worth. Sure, I can change my own car oil and save $30, but it would cost me approx. 2 hours of my time (at $30/hr) to accomplish the task. I can better use that time to involve myself in quality time with my family. Three hours of shopping without any gain is throwing money out the window.Your wasting time and burning up gas. Research, then buy on the Internet and have it delivered to your door.
July 9th, 2007 at 9:43 am
ah, rereading it in a funny context is a little better, but I would still probably divorce her (j/k)!
July 9th, 2007 at 9:50 am
Well theres some redemption here in that this whole story is about disappointment and not getting anything you want, and wasting tons of time. It really does not make this whole subservient wife (man gets to make all the money spending decisions), single income, distant suburbs life sound at all appealing. Mr. Darling gets the added bonus of having his Donna Reed wife praise his patriarchial miserliness on the internet!
July 9th, 2007 at 10:11 am
@ luneray: No, going to the store does not require a purchase. But spending three hours “shopping” when you know you won’t crack open your wallet sure is a waste of time. Why bother? Most reasonable people could find something better to do with their precious time, don’t you think?
July 9th, 2007 at 10:17 am
I think this post/story is great! I spent a year and a half researching and test driving cars before I bought one. And in the meantime I saved money up in some CD’s and a high-yield savings account. When I bought my car, I had a $10k downpayment, was able to pay it off in less than 6 months, and know I got the best deal, the best car (I did test drive about 15), and am happy with the decision. It sounds like the items shopped for aren’t necessities, so I don’t see a problem with taking time to research and look at the options before buying. I do have to admit, though, rather than spending time driving around I tend to read up reviews and research online and only go “window shopping” once I’ve narrowed everything down to a couple options and a couple stores.
July 9th, 2007 at 10:55 am
How much gas is used driving around looking for the best deal? Add up the miles, then calculate your true savings (or not-savings).
July 9th, 2007 at 11:08 am
This guy is my hero. When I wanted a new computer last year, I realized there was nothing that existed that had the right mix of price and specifications. So, I did 3 months of parts research and learned how to build a computer. It was one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done.
Still, this reminds me of your “Perfect is the enemy of Good” theory. At some point you have accept sometimes you won’t get the best deal ever and that 80% is good enough.
July 9th, 2007 at 11:16 am
Who’s being penny-wise and pound-foolish: the person concerned over the waste of gas and time, or the person concerned over a very large ticket purchase, the consequences of which the family will be stuck with for the next decade?
July 9th, 2007 at 11:33 am
I laughed. I know too many people like these (that are happily married–they choose to be amused by each other rather than mad).
July 9th, 2007 at 11:38 am
I’m glad they are a happy couple and they work well together, but I would go NUTS walking around stores for 3 hours and not buying a single thing we set out to buy. Not that I HAVE to buy stuff, I’m saying I’d rather stay home and read or go for a hike if my significant other isn’t seriously going to buy anything. This might be why I do all my bargain shopping on the Internet. Driving from store to store looking at stuff (esp. with young kids, who I suspect would rather be playing in the backyard or at the park) would drive me nuts.
If it’s a big purchase, I do some research and get on with it. I don’t think anyone’s money should own them, whether that means avoiding credit card debt or the other end of the spectrum, which would be researching purchases for months on end and never actually buying anything.
July 9th, 2007 at 11:44 am
This post was a rambling mess that did not tell me how to save a dollar, and I hardly found it humorous.
You say you spent all afternoon going from store to store looking for a TV to buy. You’re beloved hubby had already done all his research (I do it, too), including PREVIOUS TRIPS to those stores. If he has already gathered his facts and physically looked at the units, why do you need to go to those stores AGAIN? Maybe he needs to take you to one store to convince you that 30 inches is big enough. Having failed that, what’s the point of the rest of the post?
Having looked at one bike rack, and concluding that he could build a better one, why waste any more effort on researching that particular product?
I could think of a half-dozen better ways of spending my Sunday afternoon with my family than by looking at things I want but will not buy.
July 9th, 2007 at 11:46 am
Also, this reminds me of some of the best advice my uncle has ever given, which is that he succeeded in business because he was willing to do what so many others couldn’t–make a decision. Maybe that’s why I couldn’t deal with that sort of shopping excursion. I’m all for checking out a product, but make an (informed) decision and be done with it.
Also, at first I thought the comment from K about subservient wife was a little harsh, but actually I don’t understand why she has to go back for the camp chairs later. If she has her own money, which she stated that she does, why can’t she buy the chairs? He might choose to research for months, but shouldn’t she be able to make her own decisions about her own money without having to go back later when he isn’t around? Makes me want to burn my bra.
July 9th, 2007 at 1:47 pm
Isn’t it funny how everyone agrees that trooping through stores for three hours is a horrible experience?
Whether they sympathized with the husband or the wife or whether they “got” the humor–one thing we all agreed on is that just being in stores (buying or not buying) is pretty much hell.
Are you listening, retail? Anyone? Anyone?
July 9th, 2007 at 2:10 pm
What are we supposed to take away from this post?
I see typical consumer driven, suburban family that drives everywhere (rather than walk) in one of the largest, and least fuel efficient SUV’s ever made. They live in a McMansion and take their TV watching VERY seriously.
I don’t see one financially healthy thing to take away from this post.
I imagine that the “one income” they live on is as large as their HDTVs.
July 9th, 2007 at 2:13 pm
I just read the first 6 comments and nobody *got it*.
Oh well. Subtlety is lost these days. Nice satire.
July 9th, 2007 at 3:45 pm
Ted I have to agree with you. It’s funny to read these comments. Most of the people are not getting it. For some reason satire is hard for people to understand.
As for Seans comment, I’m not sure why you assume we could walk 15 miles to the town I was speaking of in this article or why you assume we drove our SUV. Actually we drove our 1993 Honda Accord that gets 35 gallons to the mile. Thats why the days gas amounted to $1.00. Our SUV is a 1997 model and it has 40,000 miles on it so that should show you how little we use it. We bought it to pull our three thousand dollar boat bought off of Craigs list and to have greater comfort when we travel long distance.
To Posco I say this; we had not been to those stores previously checking for the TV and the bike rack etc. I said he stops many times on his way home from work to check out sales. His job is in the opposite direction of where we were this day.
Many people have wondered why we dont just stay home and purchase the TV and pool and such over the internet. The answer should be obvious. Its cheaper to go to the store and purchase an item than it is to pay the shipping and handling over the internet.
luneray you hit the nail on the head!
Above all, people remember this; I am very happy with my penny pinching husband. We’ve been together 21 years and havent regretted a day of it! This whole thing is meant to show the humorous side of frugality.
My husband read it a long time ago and laughed with me. Maybe we’re both nuts but we are debt free and we are happy. Thats more than you can say for most people.
And for people who have hinted at a huge income that makes it possible to live on one income I can assure you it does not exist. My husband is a blue collar union worker working in the trades. He’s a pipefitter. So there’s no huge income here. Sorry, but I have to dispel that myth lest someone thinks they need a doctors income before they too can free themselves of debt.
July 9th, 2007 at 4:59 pm
To each their own, Mrs. Darling — doesn’t sound like my idea of a fun Sunday — but I’m very glad you corrected all the literal minded twits passing judgement on you without all the facts!!
July 9th, 2007 at 5:24 pm
JD, you can do better than this. I come for education and the power to continue the battle against lifestyle inflation. This post amused a few readers, confused a bunch of us, inflamed several, and left us without a moral.
What’s the moral? If read literally, it’s “Marry a controlling, conservative man, take your pittance, and be happy there’s a roof over your head, you impulsive ninny.” If read as satire, it’s “Save by not spending! You people think too much!” I think what you’re shooting for is “Don’t go to extremes”, or “take it all with a grain of salt”, but it didn’t come through. If it’s humor only, you might have to warn some of us stodgy worriers upfront.
We all know that money is a huge hurdle in most relationships, and that attitudes toward money are different for everyone. I think the literal interpretation of this post is too close for comfort for anyone fighting about money at home, and Mrs. Darling’s follow-up post shows that there’s truth to the extremes she wrote.
I don’t feel educated or strengthened in my fight like I usually do after visiting the site. You can do better.
July 9th, 2007 at 5:49 pm
I got it! I thought it was funny! I am an English major, though.
I totally research everything to death, too!
It reminds me a little of Oscar Wilde. No one gets out unscathed, including the author herself.
Cheers!
July 9th, 2007 at 5:49 pm
I was catching up on my feeds when I read this post, Mrs. Darling, so I had not yet read your previous post where you explain your lifestyle in greater detail.
If I had read this post in the proper context I would not of had the same reaction.
You have to look at your post from the aspect of some of the readers of this blog. Many of us are on strict financial “diets” and a first read of your post describes the type of activity that got us into this situation in the first place.
Again, without the benefit of context, all that stood out was an entire day spent searching for a bigger TV to go with the already huge HD to put in a house that you just added 1400 square feet to. The only vehicle mentioned was an Expedition which you were looking to get an accessory for.
I wasn’t passing judgment, Kate, just commenting that it seemed inappropriate to post a story about a shopping junket on this blog. It is unfortunate that this type Sunday activity is all to common in this country.
July 9th, 2007 at 7:51 pm
I see your point Sean. This post is further explained by reading the two links that JD put at the beginning. They link to more detail of our lifestyle and others would understand it better too if they read the other posts.
For those of you that expect JD to do better I do hope you remember that it wasnt JD who wrote this. I wrote this on my lowely blog that sees only about 200 people a day. Most of those are long term readers and half of those I know personally. So they totally got this in the way it was meant.
There is no way that I can write like JD. I dont even try. So dont blame him for the substandard quality. I take full blame. However, I do think if you all really read this with more background info it would read differently.
July 9th, 2007 at 9:49 pm
I feel that Mrs. Darling’s entry is very germane to the entire theme of getting rich slowly. I have read her blog and so I know that her family’s finances are unusually sound compared to those of many Americans these days. While she was writing somewhat tongue-in-cheek, the money-spending style she and her husband have adopted works for them. Perhaps it is more patriarchal and less liberated in a feminist sort of way than some women would be comfortable with, but it doesn’t bother Mrs. Darling (who BTW is my niece) or her husband, and their marriage is sound and above all, considering the theme of this blog, solvent.
I don’t know if I would be able to live with a man who behaves in the realm of spending money like Mr. Darling does, but to me that’s not the point. Mrs. Darling is happy in her marriage but I am quite sure she wasn’t suggesting that every other couple adopt the shopping habits that she and her husband have developed over the years. Every pair needs to come up with ways of buying major items that suits them, and I personally believe that the word “compromise” should be part of that formula, no matter whether the couple is in a conservative or more liberated (monetarily speaking) relationship.
As for myself, I am a widow, so when I make spending decisions, literally, the buck stops here. In a way, it’s nice to be able to spend (and save) as I desire, but in other ways, making the big decisions alone is intimidating. I could go on about wives learning how to take care of family finances, just in case, but that is probably taking what is discussed in this entry pretty far afield.
Personally, and not just because she’s my niece, I enjoy Mrs. Darling’s writing. She is good at poking fun at herself as well as writing her good-natured description of her husband’s spending ways. I’m glad that J.D. posted her article here. It’s good to get differing viewpoints, especially when it comes to how varying people, or couples, spend (or don’t spend, as the case may be).
July 10th, 2007 at 5:27 am
Hmmm, why anyone would drive a car that takes 35 gallons of gas to drive it a mile, beats me.
An interesting post.
July 10th, 2007 at 7:18 am
Yes that should read 35 miles to the gallon.
July 10th, 2007 at 7:26 am
This article made me faintly ill to read, actually. It reminds me very much of how my own parents were during my childhood, and how they are still today. It was always “Save our money,” but what it turned into was that we saved all our family money, all right, but we never had anything too show for all that money that we had. All in all, we lived much poorer than we had to, and I don’t remember by parents frugality with happiness, but was just glad to get away, so I could buy what I needed to buy, and could finally live like a real human being for a change. As a result of all this ‘money goodness’ of my parents (translate that to ‘cheap,’) I now buy what I want, when I want it, and I’m a much happier person. My husband and I have saved a lot of money for retirement (we’re not idiots, after all) but we buy things, too. I can only hope that my daughter will not end up being as scared to spend money as her grandparents were. I feel scarred for life because of it. I’d rather be broke and bankrupt than rich because I’m too tight to spend any money and do without.
A victim of ‘frugality.’
July 10th, 2007 at 8:18 am
I hope my comments weren’t taken too harshly. I get that this was written for a laugh at the differences between a couple’s spending habits. I also would disagree that she isn’t a good writer and that we can’t take anything away from her story. I think I have a bit of experience in the area, since I’m a writer and editor for a living.
And didn’t it make most of us examine how long WE personally would want to spend researching a purchase before we buy it? This works for them, and many others, but it wouldn’t work for me, or a lot of others, and it makes us examine our own spending habits and relationships with our significant others.
That said, as far as the Internet shopping I praise so highly, many places offer free shipping, so I wouldn’t discount the Web without doing your homework!
July 10th, 2007 at 11:02 am
hmm, am i the only one who read this that’s married to an engineer? because i chuckled the whole way through this article–it’s my life! and the life of the other wives of engineers that we hang out with! i was amazed to come to the site and read the negative comments people made about this. to me, it’s obvious that mrs. darling wrote this post with a certain level of bemusement at her husband’s shopping rituals. i’ll admit that when my husband does this it drives me (the impulse shopper) crazy sometimes, but it is one of his quirks and after watching it for 6 and a half years i have even come to find it a little endearing.
not to mention the fact that i came into our relationship with $40K of debt between credit cards, student loans and car payment, and because of his frugal ways that’s all gone and we have no debt besides our mortgage… to a girl who couldn’t get it together financially who married a guy who had it all figured out, watching his slow process makes me stop and think… maybe he’s onto something.
July 10th, 2007 at 4:57 pm
That is so my hubby, except sorry Mrs. Darling, my hubby wouldn’t waste a dollar or 3 hours dragging me around. Nope he’d call the store and say have you got this for this price and that’s it. If they do we’ll get it.
If not, well then I’m not getting the purchase and we’ll spend the day at home hanging out. We rarely spend money that’s key. We already live on one income and save the entirety of the other.
Going out = spending money (even a $1 is too much for DH). He’s compulsive. Got some serious OCD. I do love him though. My way is to bike and not pay gas. And you don’t buy anything because it’s darn heavy to carry on a bike (or public transit even).
So next time tell your hubby to sit at home and enjoy the summer and call the places. That way you and the kids don’t have to tag along. too amusing, you sound like DH’s parents, although they were both your hubby.
July 10th, 2007 at 6:22 pm
How To Save A Dollar…
Frugal shoppers check the swimming pools at Costco, but save their money…….