This is a guest post from Amanda, a Colorado tech writer and an activist for children with congenital heart disease.
For a couple of years I’ve been learning the “tips and tricks” to saving money. I’ve read about freezing your credit cards, paying yourself first, the “latte factor,” etc., but the most important thing I’ve learned, I learned from myself: to change the way I live, I had to change the way I think.
To save money, I had to save myself from my inner- consumer. I had to learn the true relationship between money and stuff. I didn’t have much money or stuff growing up, and once I had it, I couldn’t stop wasting money to get more stuff. I thought, “It’s only money.” But that ‘s a lie consumerists tell to themselves.
Money represents many things:
- Money is time. It’s the time you spend to earn it and the sacrifices you make to get more: the time you spend in school to get a better job, the weekend work you do to get ahead, and all the other things you miss out on.
- Money is power. It enables you say yes or no to opportunities or demands. It lets you opt in or opt out of positive or negative situations. Having money lets you retire at 55; not having it keeps you working indefinitely.
- Money is security. If you’ve ever been truly poor, just knowing that you’ll still have a roof over your head even during a hard time is worth its weight in gold. Money in the bank can give you peace of mind.
Stuff is sneaky. Stuff can give you a false sense of time, power, and security.
Stuff will not enhance the quality of your time, unless you have only the stuff you need to do the activities you enjoy and no more. Yet, so many people (myself included) accumulate more stuff than they can ever use even if they lived forever. Last year, about two weeks before she died, my grandma sat in a nursing home realizing she would never go back to her house. She lamented a craft room jammed full of stuff that she would never use. Too much stuff makes you feel like you won’t ever have enough time. Too much stuff makes you feel time-poor.
Stuff might make you feel powerful, like when you buy a really fancy TV or brand new furniture. But if you buy it on credit, or wipe out your savings, it actually weakens you. If you have debt or no savings, what happens when a true emergency happens? You are powerless. Stuff can steal your power.
Stuff can be emotional and disorienting. I know a wonderful lady who is adored by everyone, but she can’t get rid of her stuff. It makes her feel secure. But having 26 clear glass vases that have no monetary value, but not having room for your breakfast cereal, is probably not providing you the right kind of security.
Taking control of your environment — determining what stays based wholly on what makes you happy because it is useful, beautiful, and has meaning to you — leads to confidence. If you can have the confidence to make decisions, to keep your space and your mind free of clutter, then you should feel more secure in who you are, not the stuff you have. Both of my grandparents died last year, and we had to clean out that craft-room and a tiny house overrun with stuff. My grandparents were two of the least happy people I knew; coincidentally, they probably had more stuff than anyone I know.
I’ve learned to choose my stuff wisely, and to get rid of stuff that drains my energy or steals my power. I had to change my mindset before I could do that. Not so long ago, a walk-in closet only three-quarters full would make me want to spend more money to get more stuff. Now it makes me happy, because I know exactly what I have, and can find it and use it. Once you can change your mindset about money and stuff, you begin to learn that less stuff leads not only to more money, but also to more time, more security, and more power.
Here are some examples from my own life:
- No cell phone = no one calling me when I’m busy, no life-endangering car-talks
- Fewer books = opportunity to take my kids to the library and save for their college
- No crafty hobbies I won’t get around to = no guilt about all that stuff I’m not doing
- No fast food lunches = no fatty food that doesn’t even taste good, and better health for me
- No knick-knack collections = cleaner house and less time spent dusting stuff I don’t really want
- No fancy cable package = less time wasted being a couch potato & longer life expectancy because I’m up off my butt using my time and money wisely
Remember that just because I choose to live without cable or a cell phone or certain hobbies doesn’t mean that everyone should. Find the things you can’t live without and jettison the rest. A life with less stuff can be liberating — the money you save is just a bonus.
Amanda’s previous articles at Get Rich Slowly include:
- Use It or Lose It: Getting Value from the Things You Own
- Get More Bang for Your Buck by Using Coupons and Sales Wisely
- Baby Boom: The Shockwaves of a Lifestyle Change
Look for more from her in the future.
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I love this post. Great job. A good book on this topic I would recommend is, “Your Money or Your Life” by Dominguez(http://www.yourmoneyoryourlife.org/default.asp).
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I have been working on cleaning out my house of decades of accumulated clutter. This is a large job, complicated by the fact that the major reason I got into this pickle to begin with was a neat-freak mother who would throw out stuff according to her criteria, I didn’t get to venture an opinion. As a result, it is now one of the foundations of my personality that tidiness means the loss of valued things. It is very difficult to make the decision to pitch anything that is not clearly rubbish.
For those of you with kids, don’t do this to them. I am an example of one outcome, the other likely outcome would be an inability to form attachments, which can be very bad if this carries through to pets or people. Something like the “I don’t want this” bag might be good.
Cell phones: What sold me on cell phones long ago was being in a caravan and the lead car breaking down on the side of the road. The van driver pulled out a button-encrusted handset on the end of a black coiled wire, and called for a tow truck. 20 minutes (and being passed by nearly a dozen police cars that seemed not to notice what looked like a minor accident) here comes the truck. This has proved to be useful on a number of occasions, such as flat tires on the freeway and similar situations.
I am one of those for whom the cell phone has integrated wholly into my life. It actually causes problems at times that some of my friends don’t have them. Last-minute foul-ups cannot be quickly communicated to those people, I have to wait for them to call me when I’m overdue, or leave a message on the home phone and home they call to check. I keep usage limited in social situations, but it is generally expected that when gathering as a group someone is going to get a call because of delays or directions being needed.
Time to see if I can force myself to clear more clutter.
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Great post. I lived in the same 980 square foot apartment for thirty years. All I did for most of those years was clean and consume. When I retired two years ago, I gave everything I owned away to two charities. I also donated my library – 22,000 books – to the local public library.
I moved across the country with 6 boxes of personal possessions. I now live in an apartment that is so small, I can open the fridge without getting out of bed.
I have much to be grateful for. I just wish I had reached this point in my life thirty years ago. Peace of mind is a wonderful thing!
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Most of us have been bombarded with advertisments since day one specifically designed to make us obsessive consumers.
Is it any wonder that stuff accumulates in our lives?
Add to that fact that practically every TV program we watch, every movie we view is designed to make us WANT STUFF.
While the messages might be specific to some product, the subliminal message we are constantly being exposed to is that a person’s value is based on how much money they make and what they own as a result of their jobs.
Why on earth do you think that the last 40 years we’ve been exposed to mocking hippies?
Their crime wasn’t political, it was being anti-consumers.
Modern people can’t understand why the Egyptian society spend such a large amount of its wealth building pyramids.
Future societies will not be able to understand why today’s industrial society have focused our attention on acquiring STUFF.
What you own owns YOU!
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During the last 2 years I’ve slowly been coming to the same realization as the poster and it’s indeed liberating. I’m much less attached to stuff, I still love a nice sweater that looks good on me and feels cozy but I see how many other things I can do without. By being less attached to material goods I set the right value on them, which is often subjective.
PS – I’m still young, at 30, hopefully I won’t have to declutter like crazy at 60
PS 2 – I’m a film buff, I don’t have cable/satellite and I buy dvds quite often. Sure they take room, but it’s nice to own my fave films, special editions etc or to get hidden gems for a few euros.
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