The Key to Wealth is Being Satisfied with What You Already Have
Published on - February 28th, 2008 (by J.D. Roth) For the past few weeks, I’ve been making sales calls with David, my replacement at the box factory. We’re visiting existing customers to explain the transition. Most of my clients know that I’m part-owner in the family business. “Why are you leaving?” they want to know. “What are you going to do now?”
“I’m going to write,” I say.
“About what?” some of them ask.
“Personal finance,” I say, and that’s usually the end of the conversation. But this morning my answer launched a great discussion with a long-time customer named Ray.
“I was going to get into personal finance at one time,” said Ray. “Too many money guys are jerks. They’re slimeballs. They take advantage of little old ladies. I wanted to help the little old ladies. I was going to become a Certified Financial Planner. ”
Our conversation turned to the economic doom and gloom so prominent in the news media over the past few weeks. With storm clouds on the horizon, he’s been trying to get his co-workers to pay attention. “Get out of debt!” he tells them. “Spend less! Save your money!”
“I talk about money a lot,” Ray confessed. “My son is afraid to bring his friends over to the house. ‘Your dad is going to talk finances again,’ they tell him. And I do.”
“‘Do you invest in your 401(k)?’ I ask them. ‘No,’ they say. ‘Then you’re an idiot,’ I tell them. They can’t believe it. ‘Your dad just called me an idiot,’ they say to my son. ‘You are an idiot,’ he tells them.”
Ray laughed. “Some of my own friends wonder what I could possibly know about money. I live in a small house. I drive a beat-up old car. They drive new cars and live in McMansions. They don’t think I know what I’m talking about. They don’t understand that the key to wealth is being satisfied with what you already have.”
I murmured agreement as Ray continued: “‘I’ve lived in the same house for 28 years,’ I say to my friends. ‘My house is paid for. Is yours? My car is paid for. Is yours? I could retire today. Could you?’ I don’t have a boat, I don’t have an RV, and I don’t have fancy clothes,” Ray said, indicating his modest attire. “I save my money. I invest it. That’s the way to wealth.”
Normally when I visit customers, we only talk about boxes. It was exciting for me to find somebody so passionate about saving, somebody who grasped the fundamentals of personal finance. But one point stuck out especially: “The key to wealth is being satisfied with what you already have,” said Ray. He’s right.
I used to believe that “wealth” meant being able to buy whatever I wanted. I felt rich if I could buy something new, even if I were purchasing it on credit. Over the past couple years, however, I’ve learned to take pleasure in the things I already own. Why do I need more comic books when I already have a large library of them? Why do I need to own another bike? What will a new chair do for me that my existing chair does not? If anything, I want less stuff.
Like Ray, I’ve discovered that wealth doesn’t come from buying new things, but from being satisfied with what I already have.
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I have the same question as partgypsy.
Whenever you mention the “box factory” I think of the Simpsons episode where all the kids take a field trip to the box factory to learn about boxes. It always gives me a laugh.
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J.D.,
This is a fantastic article. Ray sounds like a brilliant man with a good head on his shoulders. I love the “your an idiot” if you do not participate in your 401(k) plan, and the overall point of the story – be satisfied with what you have – that’s wealth.
Thanks for that!
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Hubby and I almost lost our most precious possession (other than our sons) – our marriage, a few years ago. We survived & overcame our problem – but it really taught us what to value in life. Stuff can be replaced, more money can be earned, but when relationships are lost – their gone forever!
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I work with a lot of people with quite a bit of money (no time, but lots of money). My boss is wonderful to me, and for my birthday, often gets me a pretty good sized gift certificate, usually to Nordstrom. He doesn’t realize that I HATE Nordstrom. I usually purchase something there, then return it for cash. I don’t understand why anyone would pay what they want for items in their stores.
I’m not interested in the lifestyle that most of my coworkers live. I’d much rather be home at night, doing my own thing and working toward my own goals, than earning more money. There’s never an end to the hedonic treadmill if you allow yourself to get sucked in.
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He’s right when you’re happy with what you have, stress seems to decline. Getting rid of my credit card debt made me happier since I now have some money to save for a home.
Wait a minute, isn’t the idea here to be satisfied with your credit card debt?
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I have to say it’s most refreshing to hear that there are still folks left out there with some common sense when it comes to personal finance. I am personally so very tired of people who measure themselves by their possessions.
I had my own personal epiphany a couple years back when I took a year’s layoff for our family business in order to help us through a rough spot. Being in tech sales and used to living a “comfortable” life, I was in a mode where I just assumed that my six-figure income was a given. Turns out that taking a big financial hit was the best thing that ever could have happened to me. It reinforced for me the difference between “wants” and “needs” in life, and also taught me how to streamline my lifestyle by cutting back on the little unnecessary things, i.e. an overly-inflated cable package that I never used, canceling my land-line phone that I never used, etc. for starters. Being able to afford nice luxuries in life (certain cars, motorcycles, nice trips, etc.)simply got old for me, since those luxuries never defined me as a person. Once you know what these things are like to experience, they’re not that big of a deal anymore.
The main thing I wish more people could see is that no matter what new toy, house, car one purchases, their will ALWAYS be something “nicer” out there. Why break your neck financially to stay engrossed in such an empty pursuit? The more “stuff” we acquire, the more complicated we make our lives. Why not live lean and mean with the occasional (rather than constant)self-reward?
Bottom line: My relatively new minimalist lifestyle = peace of mind = happiness
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“Minimum Wage Says:
February 28th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
He’s right when you’re happy with what you have, stress seems to decline. Getting rid of my credit card debt made me happier since I now have some money to save for a home.
Wait a minute, isn’t the idea here to be satisfied with your credit card debt?”
Uh, what? If you are happy with what you have, then you have no credit card debt. Go ahead and re-read the article. The whole point was that J.D. wasn’t happy with what he had, which is why he had credit card debt. Once he got to be “happy with what he had” he got out of debt. It seems like you are trying to be a smart ass, but you really just come off as not understanding the article.
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That was supposed to be a (lame) joke.
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The key…is being satisfied with what we already have…
I read Get Rich Slowly almost every day, but today’s post stood out, so I’m posting an excerpt. Great…
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My only complaint when I read articles like that is the comment “I could retire now” well why not! I think his kids friends would listen alot more if he said, “yeah I hated my job so I told the boss to stick it where the sun don’t shine”
That they can relate to!
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Actually for technology I have found a different path, shop smart and shop often. three years ago I bought an HP laptop for 299 it was a great deal at the time but now it only has a P4 processor. I just now got a C2D processor for 399 and am selling my P4 for 200 to my niece. a good deal for a kid just heading to college. I find that in some cases shopping often to the maximum resale of an item can factor into the decision of when to spend and not to spend. If I use it too long there is no resale value and it becomes a bookstop
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Wow–several amazing stories here. I love what Ray had to say, but jz’s story really took my breath away. Talk about being given lemons and making lemonade…it sounds like your family is coping with a big, unexpected change in the most graceful way possible. Best wishes as you all move forward.
I *love* Ray’s attitude and have preached it here, too.
I couldn’t help but be struck by Ryan’s comment back at #9: If you ask me, settling and/or being at peace with what you have is a great way to die young. It is the thrill of moving on to bigger and better things that keeps us young and alive!
It’s funny you should focus on that. My husband and I choose to live modestly, “below our means”. Lately we have found that those choices, and the financial cushion it has allowed us to accumulate, mean that we have way, way more flexibility to seize opportunities for “bigger and better things”.
A hardnosed dollars-and-cents example: In late January, mortgage rates took a brief, sharp dip. We were able to jump on that opportunity, refinance our mortgage for 1.25% less than we’d been paying, and pay closing costs out of pocket. Our mortgage payment will be $200/month less, so we’ll make up those out-of-pocket costs in a little over a year. But those savings will last for the 28+ years beyond that. Also, our monthly outlay for the house now is low enough that it’s in line with what we could get renting it out. So when we’re ready to move on to our next place–with a fresh down payment, augmented by our extra $2400/year– we can keep this one as a rental, and someone *else* can pay our mortgage.
Or, a rather more fun example: we’re coming up on our 10th wedding anniversary, and we’re going to celebrate with a long-dreamed-of trip to Alaska, *without* the kids! We will easily be able to finance it out of pocket and won’t have worry about the bills haunting us long after we’re back.
So–”settling” versus “bigger and better”? I think it’s possible to strike good balance and win both ways!
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It’s hard to be the 66th commenter because we’re talking about several different things at once but here it goes.
First off “the key to wealth is being satisfied with what you already have” isn’t exactly right.
I think it’s more that the key to building wealth is being able to be satisfied with how you live while you work toward your goal. Let me explain. To accumulate wealth you have to save and invest. To do that you have to live “within” your means. If you can’t be satisfied living within your means you’re going to be miserable and probably won’t achieve your goal.
Secondly if you put together a plan which dictates how much you will save, then if you have extra money you can go skydiving in Peru with no guilt.
Thirdly we’re talking about “stuff vs happiness”. If you need stuff to make you happy you have a problem. If you have the consumer addiction of always buying more, bigger, newer stuff you’re heading for trouble.
Another thing about stuff, and money and investments is that you can lose them. It might make more sense to keep your wealth inside your head and in the network of friends and family that makes your life worth living.
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Hmm. I think a better way to look at it is “Happy with the things you care about.”
Back during the dot-com boom, I worked as a consultant and one of my projects was research on what self-made high-net-worth (over $2MM in non-housing assets) individuals spent on.
The answer came back loud and clear – they spent on the things they personally cared about, and didn’t on things that were of little interest to them.
Many drove older cars and lived in modest homes, and invested, but they wouldn’t hesitate to upgrade their stereo, or travel to Asia if that was their passion. Did they spend extravagantly? No. But they did spend.
“Be happy with what you have” can be interpreted as a very ascetic philosophy. I think that there needs to be a balance between saving for tomorrow and living (within reason) for today.
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what struck out for me the most was jenk’s comment (#46)
“we don’t value money because we assume there will always be more…somewhere”
i think this is the way most people live. they take it for granted that the money will always be there to make. yet personal things that happen to us in life, decisions we must make to choose one thing over another because of x,y or z, or the economy can very well put a tremendous chink to this thinking.
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From a senior who’s retiring early with lots of resources: One key point is to recognize what your possessions provide (or don’t provide). The key function of a car is reliable, safe transportation. A used car, or a new Corolla or Civic, might do just fine.
I can spend lots of money on shoes, for example, and not get lots of extra functional value. Jewelry gives no functional value.
The choice doesn’t have to be between sacrificing on everything or buying lots of unnecessary status symbols. You decide what’s important (and useful) for you and what you can easily forego.
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