How One Reader Uses Haggling to Save Big Bucks
Published on - April 20th, 2008 (Modified on - April 22nd, 2008) (by J.D. Roth) Last week, Jason shared a guest post on how to negotiate to save money. Daylily Diva wrote to share her own experiences, which I’ve reproduced here with permission.
I love haggling — it’s second nature to me. If I’m buying bagged mulch at the garden center and some sacks have small puncture holes, I negotiate a discount because the sacks are damaged. I negotiate on everything. For one thing, I’m in the antiques business, and that forces you to learn haggling from day one.
Standard operating procedure
First, I’m always upbeat and happy when I haggle. I’m friendly, smiling, good-natured, make jokes. I never insult the person or his merchandise. I make the seller want to give me a discount to make the sale. After the money changes hands, I thank the seller. If they’re not busy making other sales, I tell them how much I will enjoy using a particular item which I’ve bought. When I leave the seller has money and is in a happier frame of mind than before I arrived. This is the “win/win” technique.
Here are some of the common ways I negotiate. Many people do these things.
- If I’m at a yard sale or buying a bunch of things, I pile them up and ask for a better price because I’m buying a lot.
- I always ask if there’s a discount for good customers, and that’s often all it takes to get a discount.
- I ask, “Can you take $XXX if I promise to give it a good home?” I say, “It’s so cute, I don’t need it, but it’s really attractive, can you take $XXX for it?” It’s amazing how minor a nudge it takes to get something off the price.
These are common techniques that many people use. But there are a couple of others that work very well.
Good buyer, bad buyer
This is a wonderful technique. The good buyer expresses interest to the salesperson. She then consults with bad buyer, who is along for the ride. The bad buyer has a glum attitude and many negative feelings, which he expresses. The salesperson works to overcome the objections.
When we reach the absolute bottom price by haggling, the good buyer then says, “Well, my husband hates it but I like it, so if you can knock another 10% off I will take it anyway.” This gives them the salesperson option of dropping ten per cent more which they usually do, or counter with a 5% discount. Either way, you are ahead another five or ten percent!
Getting the boot
I use another trick after I arrive at the absolute rock bottom price with the seller, when they will not go a penny lower. At this point, I ask them to throw in some small extra thing. At a yard sale, for instance, I have made my pile of merchandise, obtained a rock bottom price for the heap, where the seller will go no lower. I then pick up some other item and say, “You drive a hard bargain. If you will toss in this lamp (or dog toy or vintage pillow or bread machine or whatever) to boot I will pay your price.” And they do!
Point out the positives
Praise the object and tell them why you like it, but admit that it is more expensive than you can manage. I once bought a house this way. The woman’s childhood home was for sale — her parents had died. The price was $45,000. She rented it to a nasty, dirty couple who stored dead cars on the lot, did not mow the lawn, stored junk in the house, etc. Every time a potential buyer came through to look, the man beat his wife while they were there, and it would not sell. People made the owner low-ball offers while insulting her about the condition by telling her how ratty it was. (Which it was, by the way.)
I went through and saw potential. I arranged to have owner meet us at the property, which the real estate agent hated. But after three years of carrying this house on the for sale roster, the agent was desperate. I took the owner by the elbow, walked her around the property and through the house. Periodically I would comment to her on things which I liked.
I admired the scraggly hydrangea which her father had planted and asked her what flowers to plant around the base of it to make it look most attractive. I commented on how clever her father had been to build a summer house out of nothing and how much he must have enjoyed using it. I talked about how cute the house was, like a tiny cottage in the woods. I didn’t say one single negative thing. I chatted about some of the neighbors who had known her family and what warm feelings the neighbors had for her deceased parents. I talked about how charming the house was when she was young, and how happy she must have been when she lived there as a child. I got her to talk about her life when she lived there.
This woman already knew the negatives because people had been telling her about them for three years.
The owner cut the price from $45,000 to $25,000 on the spot. She took my $5000 down payment and held the mortgage for the balance at below bank rate for five years, which was all it took to pay off the house in full. She turned the garage over to me three months before the closing and I rented it to a man for storage for $100/month, earning myself $300 gross rent before closing on the house!
Because the owner held the paper, I didn’t have to have for pay for inspections, appraisals, points or origination fees. I got a bargain, and the woman was thrilled to sell the house to me for practically half price! She walked away from the deal happy as a clam.
That’s how to haggle, and it’s often by not running the thing into the ground.
The exception to the rule
The only place I don’t get the best deal if I negotiate for myself is car dealerships. When buying a car, I negotiate the best deal possible and get it in writing. No matter how good the deal is, I return later with a man. I let him do all the talking. I let him go mano a mano with the salesman while I sit silently by doing my “bump on a log” act.
We invariably get another discount. This would be depressing if I allowed myself to be depressed — instead I use the system to buy my cars at cheap prices. At car dealerships, a man who knows negotiation gets the best price.
In my experience, almost everything is negotiable. I negotiate. The worst the seller can say is “no” and if so, so what? Most people will give a discount if they are ready to sell — you just have to ask!
I love receiving e-mail with readers stories like this. If you ever have something you think Get Rich Slowly readers could learn from, please send it in. Flickr photo by TheeErin.
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Dear Shanti, # 47, Thank you for the lovely compliments! Brief pause for me to simper, bridle and blush with pleasure at your enthusiasm for my ideas! I’m incredibly FLATTERED! OK, that’s done. I’m fascinated by comments like “I honestly believe haggling is the most tacky, tasteless thing a person can possibly do unless you are in a situation where prices are fixed high because negotiation is expected (like real estate or car purchases)…… the fastest way to lose the respect of anyone at a business is by following these disgusting, shameless practices.” For starters, the “respect” of a business whose ENTIRE SURVIVAL DEPENDS on taking money from customers, is not “respect” which interests me. This “respect” means the seller does not want to negotiate a better deal for me, he wants to set the terms and dictate his profit to me. NO ONE HAS TO NEGOTIATE, ANYONE CAN STICK TO THE PRICE THEY HAVE SET. Negotiation takes place when the buyer makes an offer and the seller counter offers, this may be repeated several times, and in my case often includes amusing dramatic behavior and funny comments. AT THE END, THE SELLER SELLS FOR A PRICE TO WHICH HE HAS AGREED. I like to leave ‘em laughing and clutching my cash! If a seller doesn’t want to negotiate / haggle / horse trade / hondle, he loses the opportunity to take my money. I never have hard feelings about a person who won’t negotiate, or about a person who negotiates with me but we can not agree and the deal is not done. I leave them with a smile, my money intact, and tell them “maybe next time.” A person or business which does not negotiate price is a person or a business which will either fail financially or not achieve full financial potential. As they used to say on Orchard St., “You can’t go broke taking a profit.”
THANK YOU ALL WHO HAVE READ MY IDEAS AND COMMENTED, I love you all for taking the time and energy out of your busy day to write your thoughts!!!!! Happy Haggling!
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I wish that I had the guts to haggle for a better price on things outside of a garage sale. I once saw an episode of What not to Wear on TLC where a lady haggled for two pairs of shoes at a designer show store in NYC. The show hosts were mortified, but the woman did end up getting what she wanted!
She very politely asked to see the manager and told him that she was in love with both pairs of shoes, but didn’t feel like she could pay for both at full price. She then told him that he would knock off X amount she would take both. The manager thought about it for a while and then told her that he would do it for her.
I wish I could remember how much she got knocked off the price. But it is inspiring. If NYC shoe stores are willing to come down on the price of designer shoes, then I’m sure it’s possible to talk anyone down.
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Dear Beth, You’ve taken the first step to a lifetime of getting more stuff for less money by your decision to haggle. EVERY PENNY YOU GET OFF A PRICE IS EXTRA MONEY IN YOUR POCKET, TAX FREE. To spend a dollar you have to earn about $1.40. If you don’t spend an extra dolla because you haggled it off the price, you are actually $1.40 in pre tax dollars ahead! Remember, the worst the person can say is “NO.” Usually they make a counter offer, you take it or counter again. The seller gets your money and you get what you want at a good price. Haggling’s fun! Now maybe you won’t get to the point at which I am, where if the price is high I clutch my chest and pretend to be having a heart attack, WHICH DOES GET THE FULL ATTENTION OF THE SELLER so that I can begin the haggle. Next time you go to buy something, ASK IF THEY CAN DO BETTER ON THE PRICE. That lady on national TV who got two pairs of designer shoes at a great discount is your idol! YOU CAN DO IT TOO! People want your money and they DON’T want to keep the things they are selling. Anyone who makes me an offer is a potential customer if I am selling. As a seller I’m NEVER insulted by an offer which to me shows interest. As a SELLER it is my job to extract as much money from the customer as possible in exchange for my article. It is also my job as a SELLER to see that no customer who has expressed interest goes away with his money and without my item. REMEMBER ORCHARD STREET, “You can’t go broke takign a profit!” If the produce at the grocery store looks ratty but I need it today and am going to cut it up in bits, I’ve been known to have a discussion with the produce manager and get a better price. He’s moved some non perfect goods which they will otherwise have to toss in the trash at the end of the day and I have my fruit for fruit salad at a cheap price. I’m an incorrigible haggler and proud of it.
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Keeping track of replies. Thought I’d add to what I said in #36.
I repeat: Haggling = Third World. I’ll add to that: Haggling mentality = Entitlement issues.
No one item or service is so important that one has to attempt to diminish the sellers value. If it’s more than you’re willing to pay go elsewhere.
This of course is my opinion, not shared by everyone. — Erik
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Dear Erik, You’re welcomed to your point of view, this is not an attempt to change your way of doing business. When dealing with suppliers if your company NEVER asks for a discount for cash, a discount for buying large quantity, a discount for immediate payment, a discount for being a long term customer, then the company management is not optimizing profit and is doing a disservice to stock holders or the owner. Haggling isn’t confined to the third world. Donald Trump does it, Mayor Mike haggles with the unions of NYC over money all the time, Bush haggles with Congress, Wal-Mart haggles with all it’s suppliers to get a better deal, which is appreciated by Wal-Mart’s stockholders, and all the Wal-Mart customers who happen to be mostly poor or middle class people struggling to make ends meet. Divorce lawyers haggle over money on behalf of clients. Insurance companies haggle over claims. Haggling enables me to live very well and to visit interesting third, second and first world countries because I save money through haggling. Erik, your company doesn’t have to haggle. They can “Just say no.” But then they don’t get better deals on supplies, and they don’t get my trade. Entitlement issues are GOVERNMENT WELFARE. Haggling is business, “Do you want my trade/money? Then you must throw in ……” This isn’t entitlement, it’s good business. This column is for the exchange of ideas. I listen to yours, and you to mine. Other readers, who have wanted to haggle, and seen people haggle on national TV for designer shoes, can get the courage to smile and say, “I like these very much, can you do any better on the price?” Erik, your company can continue it’s “no haggling” practice, and I wish them success. The nice thing about haggling is that it’s an optional behavior, a person can offer to haggle, and have the offer accepted, or not haggle and pay full retail. daylilydiva
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I HAGGLE EVERYWERE, BUT YOU KNOW…. haggling doesnt always involve attacking someone for a better price,
I spend my money were i know i am respected for being a good customer, they know i want the best prices and they will give me a lower price often without asking.
for instance i had a $900 car service dropped to $400 recently…… the reason is because the owner of the shop knew that i only used him for all my services(because he is fair, honest and best prices and top service)
so when i had to get my car fixed he immediately had me go to another shop to get an extimate, then told me he would do it for $500 less, which i believe was at or a smiggen above parts cost
you see somethimes it pays to spend a tad more to patronize someone, when an oil change is $5 less somewere else i still go to him, i bring him lunch and i ask about his family, i leave him with a handshake and the words ” i appreciate all you do for me and let me know if i can ever do anything for you”
when it comes time for a major repair i am always rewarded
now i am not saying that i to those things to “grease the wheel” as my prime motive… i really do appreciate all he does
here’s one big tip and always remember this>>>> no matter where you are, even if prices are plastered infront of your face always ask ” how much do i owe you ” rathere than just offering up the money, give the seller or serviceman a little air to give you a discount out of appreciation, at this point he/she knows that you are content to buy but if you have respected and treated this person well when you ask “how much do i owe you” often the total you will receive will be less
remember always to ask “how much do i owe you” never just hand up the money
also, do not take your money out of your pockets untill you are given your total, and never seem to anxious to buy>> don’t give the seller the idea that his price is way too good or that you have enought money to buy it at any cost
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i added this to my last comment but i want it to be alone as it is important!!
remember these words: “how much do i owe you” and use them always!
if you treat the person with respect and honor, kindness and pleasure when at a garage sale, non-national service center, even restaurants and you aks “how much do i owe you” it give the other person a chance to consider how you treated them and what leeway they can give you,
remember: if you are at a restaurant and your server gives you a discount or something has not been added to your bill, never mention it to the server, they are aware and just thank them and let them know you appreciate it with a little more added to the tip! most servers get a 50% discount each day for a meal but often don’t use it, if you can manage to get this from a server, never mention it to them as you may get them in trouble, just leave them an addiotional %10 tip and the next time you visit request to sit in his/her section: no words are needed, they will know why and will understand the reason for the extra tip as it was their reason to give you a discount
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Dear Friends, “haggling doesnt always involve attacking someone for a better price,” Goodness, attacking someone? My dear you’ve sadly confused me with the street thug who’s got out his knife and is demanding your wallet or else! The point of my story about buying the house was that I didn’t “attack someone for a better price.” If you reread that part you will see that OTHERS, for 3 1/2 years, had attacked the woman (she felt) by pointing out the shortcomings of the property. I, in my charming way, told her what I liked ABOUT THE PROPERTY, WHICH IS WHY SHE GAVE ME SUCH A SMASHINGLY GOOD DEAL! When I haggle / negotiate / hondle / bargain / wheel and deal, I’m ALWAYS upbeat, happy, cheerful, joking. Dealing with me is fun and the seller can make a sale! If the person doesn’t want to haggle, I tuck my cash back in my pocket and move on to make a deal elsewhere. NO ONE HAS TO HAGGLE. It depends on whether the seller wants to sell and to move more, not less, merch. Just returned from one week spent visiting flea markets in northern Germany, two, three or four a day. Without speaking German, but using my trusty pad and pen, I bargained my way to two large suitcases full of merchandise at rock bottom prices. Far as I could tell all the German sellers were pleased to get my Euros and thrilled to have sold their Schutzen items, even though in no case did I ever pay the initial asking price. Some of them invited me to their homes to buy MORE stuff.
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You could purchase a brand new Mercedes Benz, bring it to a garage sale, put a for sale sign on it that reads “For Sale BRAND NEW MERCEDES $1.00-FIRM. You would still have people saying TOO MUCH, I’ll Give You a quarter!!!! Garage sales are a waste of time. Put it out for junk trash day.
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As someone who has worked in retail, I’d just like to give one piece of advice. By all means ask for a discount, point out a flaw or try and get something else thrown in. But if the cashier says “No”, “I’m afraid not” or “It’s store policy not to reduce prices”, DON’T KEEP ASKING. Don’t even stand there and look at them expectantly. They cannot do anything for you and it’s unfair to keep nagging them for a discount. Accept their answer and either buy it at its real price or go away.
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Haggling is already a skill itself, now if you throw in positive haggling, then you have a whole different class of negotiation. I must have to practice a lot to even haggle. I wish I can haggle at the bookstore for my college textbooks. Have you seen the price tag lately, it’s more expensive than the course tuition???
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#51 said: “For starters, the “respect” of a business whose ENTIRE SURVIVAL DEPENDS on taking money from customers, is not “respect” which interests me.”
That statement describes every business, from a multinational conglomerate to a sole-proprietorship. Haggling is fine but the sentiment above shows that you’re not a person who has a firm grasp on the realities of commerce.
Your statement implies that businesses should be able to survive WITHOUT needing money from customers. I have no idea what fantasy world you live in but I’d love to hear how you expect that to happen. Apparently businesses (large and small) should bow to every whim of a haggler and not care about how they’re going to pay their own bills. After all, it’s “disrespectful” for a business to take money from customers.
It’s great to read your article with tips on haggling and negotiation but your “me, me, me, take every possible penny of profit from the seller” attitude is a little disturbing and, I feel, takes away from your overall.
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I have some friends who own a small, family-owned store. It’s obvious by comparing their prices to the prices in similiar stores that the mark-up is very low, but people still ask for a discount. I think haggling is fine sometimes, but some people are just too cheap and too greedy. If you really feel you can’t afford to buy something without a “good customer’s discount” then you shouldn’t be shopping there to begin with.
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I appreciate the tips posted here. Lots of food for thought.
I’m a little disturbed to see some of the comments making personal judgments about people who haggle. Frankly, there are a lot of things I would buy if they were priced better – but I don’t haggle and I don’t buy. I would have spent $5k at Circuit City this past year if their prices had been better – multiply me by the thousands of other buyers who WOULD have bought, but didn’t, and maybe Circuit City’s employees would still have jobs if us on-the-fence buyers had done a little haggling.
It’s not cheap, rude, entitled or anything else. I try very hard to align my dollars to my values in a way that maximizes my enjoyment of my income, while allowing savings and retirement funds. Filet mignon is well worth $16 a pound (to me); spinach, however, is not worth $7 pound (to me); a new laptop is worth between $500-$1k (to me) because my old one still works alright and I have other uses for my cash. As I hold out for a computer with the requisite features at a price that works for me, the stores are holding unsold laptops and paying interest on the loan they took out to buy the laptop, and they don’t have money to pay their employees. Does that really make me a better person than the one who walks into the store and haggles and actually makes a purchase?
Am I cheap and greedy? I don’t think so. I know what it took to earn my dollar, and I know that the prospects for me to replace that dollar are poor right now. If a business likes its merchandise more than it likes my cash, they can hold out in the hopes of finding a more willing buyer.
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Part of the reason people in retail (or handmade art/craft sales) are so defencive about hagglers is because, as with most groups, the ones that most people see are the loud, obnoxious ones, not the nice, polite ones who conduct their business quietly. For every person respectfully haggling over prices and getting a great deal, there are a dozen more throwing an absolute fit to get a cheaper price.
That said, haggling itself is an art, and one I wish I was better at. However, my years in retail putting myself through school rather tainted my views of haggling. I certainly see it’s place, but it’s hard not to compare myself to the sort of people who give true hagglers a bad name. True haggling, as the pro-hagglers in this thread have pointed out, is usually a win/win scenario.
To the people berating sales staff for having jobs where they do not how the power to negotiate with the customer, and then turning around and defending haggling because “some people need to save every cent they can”, you might want to rethink your arguments because they contradict each other. Not everyone can afford to quit their retail job, either.
Also, this really, really disturbs me:
“And for the person who asked about the man beating his wife, I knew it was going to happen because the real estate agent told me it happened EVERY TIME she showed the house. No, it was not my business to call the police about an adult woman who was an enabler, it was my business to haggle to get a good price on the property, while making the seller, the real estate agent, and myself very happy.”
In this kind of situation, this statement is just sick. It is certainly your business to call the police for domestic abuse. Even if it didn’t happen while you were there, call the cops and say the real estate agent mentioned that it happens. They will check it out. It absolutely disgusting to call the beaten person an enabler, and then go on to brag about how much of a discount you got on the house. One does not preclude the other. You can still haggle and get a great deal and get your warm fuzzies for doing so, and then you can go call the authorities and perform your basic human duty to help others in need.
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People who love to haggle think it’s appropriate everywhere. It’s a power game to them. If those people would put half as much energy into the community as they do into “getting the best deal” our world would be a better place. When I used to work retail I had no problem with people asking for a discount but I really hated those people who kept asking after I said no. Those are the annoying ones!
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