The Psychology of Passive Barriers: Why Your Friends Don’t Save Money, Eat Healthier, or Clean Their Garages
Published on - March 17th, 2009 (Modified on - October 9th, 2009) (by J.D. Roth) This is a guest post from Ramit Sethi, the founder of iwillteachyoutoberich.com, a blog on personal finance and entrepreneurship. His new book, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, will be published on March 23rd.
A surprising thing happens to people in their forties. After working hard, buying a house, and starting a family, they suddenly realize that they’d better start being responsible with their money. They begin reading financial books and trying to learn how to set up a nest egg for themselves and their families. It’s a natural part of growing older.
If you ask these people in their forties what their biggest life worry, the answer often is, quite simply, “money.” They want to learn to manage their money better, and they’ll tell you how important financial stability is to them.
Yet the evidence shows something very different.
In the table below, researchers followed employees at companies that offered financial-education seminars. Despite the obvious need to learn about their finances, only 17% of company employees attended. This is a common phenomenon: As Laura Levine of the Jump$tart Coalition told me, and I paraphrase, “Bob doesn’t want to attend his 401(k) seminar because he’s afraid he’ll see his neighbor there…and that would be equivalent to admitting he didn’t know about money for all those years.”
They also don’t like to attend personal-finance events because they don’t like to feel bad about themselves. But of those who did attend the employer event, something even more surprising happens.

Of the people who did not have a 401(k), 100% planned to enroll in their company’s 401(k) offering after the seminar. Yet only 14% actually did.
Of those who already had a 401(k), 28% planned to increase their participation rate. 47% planned to change their fund selection (most likely because they learned they had picked the default money-market plan, which was earning them virtually nothing). But less than half of people actually made the change.
This is the kind of data that drives economists and engineers crazy, because it clearly shows that people are not rational. Yes, we should max out our 401(k) employer match, but billions of dollars are left on the table each year because we don’t. Yes, we should start eating healthy and exercising more, but we don’t.
Why not? Why wouldn’t we do something that’s objectively good for us?
Barriers are one of the implicit reasons you can’t achieve your goals. They can be psychological or profoundly physical, like something as simple as not having a pen when you need to fill out a form. But the underlying factor is that they are breathtakingly simple — and if I pointed them out to you about someone else, you would be sickened by how seemingly obvious they are to overcome.
It’s easy to dismiss these barriers are trivial, and say, “Oh, that’s so dumb!” when you realize that not having an envelope nearby could cost someone over $3,000. But it’s true. And by the end of this article, you’ll be able to identify at least three barriers in your own life — whether you want to or not.
Why people don’t participate in their 401(k)s
If you’re like me, whenever you hear that one of your co-workers doesn’t participate in their 401(k) — especially if there’s an employer match — you scratch your head in confusion. In my case, I feel a rage boiling up that reminds me of the ruins of Pompeii.
Even though this is free money, many people still don’t participate. Journalists will cite intangibles like laziness and personal responsibility, suggesting that people are getting less responsible with their money over time. Hardly.
It turns out that getting people to enroll in their 401(k) is just plain hard. Yet using simple psychological techniques, however, we can dramatically increase the number of people who participate in their company’s retirement plan. One technique, “automatic enrollment,” automatically establishes a retirement plan and contribution. You can opt out at any time, but you’re enrolled by default.
Here’s how it affects 401(k) enrollment. (“AE” = automatic enrollment.)

From 40% participation to nearly 100% in one example. Astonishing.
Today, J.D. has given me the opportunity to talk about one of the ways to drive behavioral change when it comes to your money. I call them barriers.
While I do this, I’m going to ask you for a favor. You’ll see examples of people who lost thousands of dollars because they wouldn’t spend one hour reading a form. It’s easy to call these people “lazy” — and there’s certainly an element of that — but disdainfully calling someone lazy doesn’t explain the whole story. Getting people to change their behavior is extraordinarily hard — even if it will save them thousands of dollars or save their lives.
If it were easy, you would have a perfect financial situation: You’d have no debt, your asset allocation would be ideal and rebalanced annually, and you’d have a long-term outlook without worrying about the current economic crisis. You’d be your college weight, with washboard abs and tight legs. You’d have a clean garage.
But you don’t.
None of us are perfect. That’s why understanding barriers is so important to changing your own behavior.
“Just spend less than you make — duh”
There is something especially annoying about the comments on personal-finance blogs. On nearly every major blog post I’ve made in the last year, someone has left a comment that goes like this: “Ugh, not another money tip. All you need to know is, spend less than you make.”
Actually, that’s not true. If that were the case, as I pointed out above, nobody would be in debt, overweight, or have relationship problems of any kind. Simply knowing a high-level fact doesn’t make it useful. I studied persuasion and social influence in college and grad school, for example, but I still get persuaded all the time.
These commenters make the common mistake of assuming that people are rational actors, meaning they behave as a computer model would predict. We know this is simply untrue: Books like Freakonomics and Judgment in Managerial Decision Making are great places to get an overview of our cognitive biases and psychological motivations.
For example, we say we want to be in shape, but we don’t really want to go to the gym. We believe we’re not affected by advertising, but we’re driving a Mercedes or using Tupperware or wearing Calvin Klein jeans.
There are dramatic differences in what we say versus what we do. Often, the reason is so simple that we can’t believe it would affect us. I call these barriers, and I’ve written about them before:
Last weekend, I went home to visit my family. While I was there, I asked my mom if she would make me some food, so like any Indian mom would, she cooked me 2 weeks’ worth. I came back home skipping like a little girl.
Now here’s where it gets interesting. When I got back to my place, I took the food out of the brown grocery bag and put the clear plastic bags on the counter. I was about to put the bags in the fridge but I realized something astonishing:
…if I got hungry, I’d probably go to the fridge, see the plastic bags, and realize that I’d have to (1) open them up and then I’d have to (2) open the Tupperware to (3) finally get to the food. And the truth was, I just wouldn’t do it. The clear plastic bags were enough of a barrier to ignore the fresh-cooked Indian food for some crackers!!
Obviously, once I realized this, I tore the bags apart like a voracious wolf and have provided myself delicious sustenance for the past week.
I think the source of 95%+ of barriers to success is…ourselves. It’s not our lack of resources (money, education, etc). It’s not our competition. It’s usually just what’s in our own heads. Barriers are more than just excuses — they’re the things that make us not get anything done. And not only do we allow them to exist around us, we encourage them. There are active barriers and passive barriers, but the result is still the same: We don’t achieve what we want to.
Active barriers are physical things like the plastic wrap on my food, or someone telling me that it’ll never work, etc. These are hard to identify, but easy to fix. I usually just make them go away.
Passive barriers are things that don’t exist, so they make your job harder. A trivial example is not having a stapler at your desk; imagine how many times a day that gets frustrating. For me, these are harder to identify and also harder to fix. I might rearrange my room to be more productive, or get myself a better pen to write with.
Today, I want to focus on passive barriers: what they are and how to overcome them.
How to destroy the passive barriers around you
Psychologists have been studying college students for decades to understand how to reduce unprotected sex. Among the most interesting findings, they pointed out that it would be rational for women to carry condoms with them, since the sexual experiences they had were often unplanned and these women can control the use of contraceptives.
Except for one thing: When they asked college women why they didn’t carry condoms with them, one young woman typified the responses: “I couldn’t do that…I’d seem slutty.” As a result, she and others often ended up having unprotected sex because of the lack of a condom. Yes, technically they should carry condoms, just as both partners should stop, calmly go to the corner liquor store, and get protection. But many times, they don’t.
In this case, the condom was the passive barrier: Because they didn’t have it nearby and conveniently available, they violated their own rule to have safe sex.
Passive barriers exist everywhere. Here are some examples:
Barriers in e-mail
I get emails like this all the time:
“Hey Ramit, what do you think of that article I sent last week? Any suggested changes?”
My reaction? “Ugh, what is he talking about? Oh yeah, that article on savings accounts…I have to dig that up and reply to him. Where is that? I’ll search for it later. Marks email as unread”
Note: You can yell at me for not just taking the 30 seconds to find his email right then, but that’s exactly the point: By not including the article in this followup email, he triggered a passive barrier of me needing to think about what he was talking about, search for it, and then decide what to reply to. The lack of the attached article is the passive barrier, and our most common response to barriers is to do nothing.
Barriers on your desk
A friend of mine lost over $3,000 because he didn’t cash a check from his workplace, which went bankrupt a few months later. When I asked him why he didn’t cash the check immediately, he looked at me and said, “I didn’t have an envelope handy.” What other things do you delay because it’s not convenient?
Barriers to exercise
I think back to when I’ve failed to hit my workout goals, and it’s often the simplest of reasons. One of the most obvious barriers was my workout clothes. I had one pair of running pants, and after each workout, I would throw it in my laundry basket. When I woke up the next morning, the first thing I would think is: “Oh god, I have to get up, claw through my dirty clothes, and wear those sweaty pants again.” Once I identified this, I bought a second pair of workout clothes and left them by my door each day. When I woke up, I knew I could walk out of my room, find the fully prepared workout bag and clothes, and get going.
Barriers to healthy eating
When I was in college, I loved those Ramen Cup of Noodles. Unfortunately, I stored them in my closet, so each time I wanted one, I would have to walk to another room, reach up to the top of the closet, open the package, and prepare it. Ridiculous! Instead, I created this:

Obviously, that’s a ridiculous example because I was a college student, but imagine how you can apply this to eat healthier (which we all routinely lie about): If you find yourself snacking on Cheetos all day at work, try this:
Don’t take any spare change in your pockets for the vending machine. Even if you leave quarters in your car, that walk to the parking lot is barrier enough not to do it. Give yourself an alternative:

How do you think that’ll affect your eating behavior?
Applying passive barrier theory to your life
As we’ve seen, the lack of having something nearby can have profound influences on your behavior. Imagine seeing a complicated mortgage form with interest rates and calculations on over 100 pages. Sure, you should calculate all of it, but if you don’t have a calculator handy, the chances of your actually doing it go down dramatically.
Now, we’re going to dig into areas where passive barriers are preventing you from making behavioral change — sometimes without you even knowing it.
Fundamentally, there are two ways to address a passive barrier.
- You’re missing something, so you add it to achieve your goals. For example, cutting up your fruit as soon as you bring it home from the grocery store, packing your lunches all at once, or re-adding the attachment to a followup email so the recipient doesn’t have to look for it again.
- Causing an intentional passive barrier by intentionally removing something. You put your credit card in a block of ice in the freezer to prevent overspending. (That’s not addressing the cause, but it’s immediately stopping the symptom.) Or you put your unhealthiest food on the other side of the house, so you have to walk to them. Or you install software like Freedom to force yourself not to browse 50 websites in a day.
Personally, here are a few passive barriers I’ve identified for myself: I keep my checkbook by my desk, because for the few checks I receive in the mail, I tend to never mail them in. I keep a gym bag of clothes ready to work out. And I cut up my fruit when I bring it home from the store, because I know I’ll get lazy later.
Let’s see how this can work for you.
- Get a piece of paper and a pen, or open up Notepad on your computer.
- Identify 10 things you would do if you were perfect. Don’t censor —just write what comes to mind. And focus on actions, not outcomes. Examples: “I’d work out 4 times per week, clean my garage by this Sunday, play with my son for 30 minutes each day, and check my spending once per week.”
- Now, play the “Five Whys” game: Why aren’t you doing it?
Let’s play out the last step with the example of exercising regularly:
- I say I want to exercise 3 times per week, but I only go twice per month. Why?
- Because I’m tired when I get home from work Why?
- Because I get home from work at 6pm Why?
- Because I leave late for work, so I have to put in 8 hours. Why?
- Because I don’t wake up in time for my alarm clock. Why?
- Hmm…Because when I get in bed, I watch TV on Hulu for a couple hours.
Solution: Put the computer in the kitchen before you go to sleep —> sleep earlier —> come home from work at an earlier time —> feel more rested —> work out regularly.
That’s a gross oversimplification, but you see what I mean.
Pick ten areas of your life that you want to improve. Force yourself to understand why you haven’t done so already. Don’t let yourself cop out: “I just don’t want to” isn’t the real reason. And once you find out the real reasons you haven’t been able to check your spending, or cook dinner, or call your mom, you might be embarrassed at how simple it really was. Don’t let that stop you. Passive barriers are valued in their usefulness, not in how difficult they are to identify.
Summing it up: Passive barriers in your life
Passive barriers are subtle factors that prevent you from changing your behavior. Unlike “active” barriers, passive barriers describe the lack of something, making them more challenging to identify. But once you do, you can immediately take action to change your behavior.
You can apply barriers to prevent yourself from spending money, cook and eat healthier, exercise more, stay in touch with your friends and family, and virtually any other behavior. You can do this with small changes or big ones. The important factor is to take action today.
A caveat: Sometimes people take this advice to mean, “The reason I haven’t been sticking to my workout regimen is that I don’t have the best running shoes. I should really go buy those $150 shoes I’ve been eyeing…that will help me change my behavior.” Resolving passive barriers is not a silver bullet: Although they help, you’ll be ultimately responsible for changing your own behavior. Instead of buying better shoes immediately, I’d recommend setting a concrete goal — “Once I run consistently for 20 days in a row, I’ll buy those shoes for myself” — before spending on barriers. Most changes can be done with a minimum of expense.
Thanks for reading.
This is a guest post from Ramit Sethi, the founder of iwillteachyoutoberich.com, a blog on personal finance and entrepreneurship. His new book, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, will be published on March 23rd. Look for a review here soon!
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I contributed to 401(k) plans at my two previous longterm employers. The second of those provided a generous profit-sharing contribution. Consequently I have (or will have, when the market picks back up again) a good amount invested. And consequent to that, I’m not currently contributing to my company plan because a) I wouldn’t be vested till I’ve been here 5 years, and I don’t expect to be here for 5 years; b) the only investment options are lousy mutual funds that would earn a lot less than I can “earn” by paying off debt – even with after-tax dollars.
Automatic transfers/payments are a good way to beat one passive barrier. My life insurance and savings are paid this way, all I have to do is note them in my checkbook.
I use scheduling to beat barriers to housekeeping and exercise. I used to think I would exercise after work. Um, I’m tired? So I do it before work. I don’t like cleaning up the kitchen after dinner (tired). So I do that before work, too. I don’t like the extra hour+ it adds to my commute to work 9-5, so I work 10-6. That gives me the extra time in the morning to take care of myself and my home.
Doing a drill-down of the “whys” is super helpful for really destructive bad habits, but for things like time management, being honest with yourself about when you prefer to (or when you just *will*) do things can work as well.
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Obama’s current budget proposal includes automatic IRA/401(k)enrollment…so there is a good chance this will come to fruition.
http://www.taxpolicycenter.org/UploadedPDF/411849_2010_budget.pdf
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Stephanie — what about grabbing a towel, rolling it up into a knee pad and using that to do pushups on the hardwood floor?
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What a fascinating take on why we don’t do the things we say we want to. In my case, I hate spending time on certain things, so I mentally commit to only fifteen minutes (sometimes I even set a timer.) I realized my internal barrier came from the perception that these tasks might suck up my whole evening.
Though of course they would not, knowing I have the option to stop gets me started. And that is always the hardest part.
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this sentence: Don’t let yourself cop out: “I just don’t want to” isn’t the real reason.
doesn’t make sense to me. I think there are times — maybe many times, when we think we have chosen goals for ourselves, but we haven’t really committed to them, and the truth is that we don’t want to really achieve them. And that may be ok. If you examine an unmet goal and find out it’s not really a goal for you, that’s a solution, too.
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Awesome article, Ramit!
You’ve given me a lot to think about. Honestly, this is the first PF article I’ve read in quite a while that told me something both new (to me) and useful. A gem.
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So true, though my garage is clean these days. I’m particularly fascinated by the near 100% participation in opt-out 401k plans–as an employer, I’d like to try this. Provided I overcome my laziness by emailing the plan administrator.
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I agree with Dave (post 23). This article is both preachy and points out the obvious. I have some more wonderful ideas for people who would like to “trick” themselves into being happier and more effective:
- Every time you look at your spouse, imagine they are your favorite supermodel or star instead.
- Only wear clothing without pockets, and buy a very small car so you cannot easily succumb to transporting unnecessary goods.
- The small things really matter, why not make a list of all of them that you come across, with dates, and rate how you reacted to them.
- Become less like yourself in order to be less of a barrier to yourself.
Maybe the author of this article could also write a book with all the rules of “good behavior” for you to follow in easy list form, so you can check each item as you go through your day (yearly items included too, and a list for every major life event!). One for children too.
Maybe we could all get so outraged that we make this list mandatory.
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one major barrier for people not participating in their 401(k) plans? living paycheck to paycheck and being (or perhaps feeling) unable to put any of that check aside for a later date that’s so far away it’s easy to let oneself believe they can take care of it when they have more disposable income. and like that’s gonna happen. a good friend of mine in her early 30s now did exactly that and she’s really worried about having spent 10+ years working and not investing any of it in her employer’s plan, and about how far behind she is now.
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Excellent points regarding passive barriers. I know for myself as an app marketer for the iPhone the biggest thing for me to overcome is the amount of other things that look more interesting when I need to get down to business. For instance, today I upgraded my site’s design. However, since I do a significant amount of work from home, everything around my house look so much more interesting than upgrading my site. In fact I find that a cluttered house is more likely to make me use my time inefficiently. (I wonder if there’s a psychological name for there.)
Anyhow, I did get the site updated (after some de-cluttering of my living room). And now people can find content easier on the site. Again, breaking down those barriers for people to not be interested in my company’s Apps.
Excuse another personal example, but you got me rolling. We recently launched BisCal a financial calculator on the iTunes App Store. However, I noticed that we weren’t getting as much traffic as I expected. I was surprised to find that it was because our rank on the store was very low because we did not have the word calculator in our app’s name. That’s changed now of course.
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Paranoid Asteroid – I don’t assume that people think and reject; I know that many never stop to think about anything they do. I just tried to make the point that Ramit’s assumption that everyone should always participate is just as irrational as never bothering to find out your options and then acting in your best interest based on those options.
bethh – I noticed the correlation between attendance and participation, too. I was surprised that Ramit didn’t talk about that but about the overall low rates of participation. I think his negative take flows from his assumption that everyone should participate.
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I post with a lot of good information. I need time to really digest it. This could have been condensed or broken up into a series and it would have been much more effective. Nonetheless it makes some excellent points. Thank you.
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Stephanie (#47) – I had exactly the same problem, so I bought a yoga mat. Admittedly, I’ve rarely used it, but that’s a different barrier (clutter all over the floor).
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This article has made me feel better.
I’ve been berating myself for a long time to learn more about the financial world. Especially with all of the things going on in the news.
I started doing the max on my 401k and other savings in my late 30s, so at least as I’m not as bad as other people.
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I think a lot of these barriers are fear.
Some of it can be like going to the dentist, you are afraid of how much irreversible damage you have and on getting a lecture.
Some of it is being scared of being overwhelmed with all of the terms and concepts to learn to feel like you really have a handle on it.
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This was a great article. I follow SimpleDollar more frequently and stopped in at a perfect time. I recently emailed Trent asking for an article on this topic. My thoughts were nowhere near as academic as all of this, but it’s perfect. Figuring out what the barrier is, often the hardest step to removing that barrier. And people don’t or can’t do it. So they flounder and fail.
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Inertia is HUGE! It’s hard to get up off the couch and go for a walk. And it’s even harder to make time to attend a financial seminar or research your 401(k) plan.
In finance and investing, automatic/ default plans work the best. Deduct that money from your paycheck before you even see it!
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I love the way this post gets you to thinking and examining your life. If we can do things like identify passive barriers in our lives we become aware of what obstacles are holding us back and what good things we have in place as well! Thanks for a great and challenging read.
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@bethh, who asked where Ramit got his data, the article is linked (see the highlighted words “the evidence”) to the research he used.
If anyone wants a more hard core slap in the face on barriers and getting over them check out Larry Winget’s books. His latest is called “People are Idiots and I Can Prove It. The 10 ways you are sabotaging yourself and how you can overcome them.”
In the end no matter who says it or how it’s said, you pretty much you have to get yourself going. Others can recommend, demand, or threaten but you will typically resent them for it over time. You need to find a way to get yourself moving, and if the above works go for it.
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Maybe the participants are rational, and the seminar convinced them not to participate?
It’s a low sample size, a non-random sample, there’s no control group, and correlation does not imply causation.
It’s an obvious point, there’s no reason to misuse and misinterpret statistics to cone to such a simple conclusion.
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The problem with Ramit’s article and is entire website, is that he has some threads of interesting and useful information.
But his condescending and holier-than-everyone-else attitude makes him unbearable.
I read his blog once or twice but gave up. I can get good PF advice on GRS and many other places from people who dont think what they write is holy writ.
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My first thought after reading this post is this isn’t an accident.
401K’s exist because most people don’t contribute.
Just like credit card “rewards” and grace periods exist because most users don’t benefit from them.
Why the encouragement to contribut to company 401k’s?
If more, or everyone contributed, the cost would be so great that either the plan would be eliminated, curtailed, the match woul be eliminated, reduced, or employees would be fired.
The small match is calculated as part of total employee expense and total business expense.
encouraging everyone to participate, while noble, is foolish. It would eliminate the very reason to contribute.
reminds me when people encourage everone to “pay their balance in full” each month on their credit card.
Really. That’s what you want. If everyone actuall did that, credit cards would cease to exist in about 5 days.
Instead of worrying about contributing to your 401k, worry about being financially stable enough where you are not dependent on the 401K at all.
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You might find this article on ScienceBlog interesting:
Financial security, more than money alone, may be key to happiness, Princeton study says
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http://www.scienceblog.com/cms/financial-security-more-money-alone-may-be-key-happiness-princeton-study-says-19553.html
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Robb, your information looks interesting. Have you thought about RSS? I’m sure there are lots of people out there like me that end up ignoring newsletters. (I get too many of them, and RSS is much easier to manage).
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@getagrip – sorry, my comment wasn’t clear. I wanted to know the source for the opener to the article: “After working hard, buying a house, and starting a family, [people in their 40s] suddenly realize that they’d better start being responsible with their money.”
I felt that was so flawed as to leave me questioning all the following information. I am not a fan of the writer, though, so I am being even more skeptical than usual.
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Credit card companies would not have to go away if people paid their balances every month. That’s simply a false statement.
The market would thin, probably, and the companies in it might not be as profitable.
But because these companies charge vendors a percentage and users an annual fee, the business model is quite robust.
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I agree about the whole working out/dirty clothes bit. I bought myself a second leotard and ballet tights for my ballet class. I just know that if I relied on my one set, that I would skip class on the week that I didn’t do laundry and I am not one to wear unlaundered clothes that I sweated in the previous week. People will come up with all sorts of excuses not to work out, me included. I even stashed extra elastic and hairpins in my dance bag so I can’t say that I forgot some and can’t dance with my hair flopping around in case I wore it down to work that day. I have yet to miss a class because of this.
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Bethh, I thought the opener was a bit over-dramatic myself. My parents and most of their friends were capable of managing their money in their twenties and thirties. I was raised the same way.
If there’s evidence of Ramit’s claim, I’d like to see it. One has to be very careful making broad statements like that.
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Read this article the other day, then ended up watching a great, relatable clip here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz7Sk8mhQ7k
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The breakdown of *why* I’m not doing the things I want to (and doing those I don’t) is interesting. Some I knew, but this clarifies that they really need to be priorities. Some actually are simple. Thanks.
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I have a 401k but here lately its more like a 200.5k and has been getting smaller. Throwing more money into it in this economy is like throwing money down a rat hole. However; I do eat right and in proper portion sizes. It’s all about portion control and exercise. But the thing that gets me is, and I’ve seen this first hand, once you get old and you have to go into a nursing home, the nursing home and Medicare literally clean you out and take everything of value from you. Its mainly because of the rules of a government sponsored Medicare plan. If you are married, the spouse that isn’t in a nursing home has to give up everything except the basics of living. Once everything is gone, then the government pays for everything. What’s the point of saving then? You might as well spend it all and live on every paycheck or put all your money in your mattress because Uncle Sam is going to take it. And they will… Ask my father-in-law.. he knows first hand..
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This was a great post. Thank you, Ramit. I now have a new blog to follow!
I am aware that I should max out my 401(k). My own barrier has been that I have not felt I could afford the extra out of my paycheck. Until very recently, I was living paycheck to paycheck, so I needed every cent (I have been enrolled in my 401k from day 1 at my job, and my employer matches.) Now that things are better, moneywise, I’m thinking I’m going to calculate how much it would cost me each pay period to max it out.
Excellent insights about passive barriers. Routines do, indeed, help very much with getting past them (ie, putting your gym clothes in their bag, ready to go out the door.) Routines have changed my life dramatically, though I still have a ways to go.
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I thought this was an excellent post. I like how you delved into the barriers and gave examples on how to overcome these. It really isn’t as simple as repeating “spend less than you earn”. I read a lot of money blogs and it’s hard to come up with new angles on saving money/frugality/making money so I had to comment on this very good post!
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The big snag I see with this “Five Whys” approach is that the cause of one’s “imperfection” is not always a thing that can be fixed or put in place or removed. For example:
Goal: I want to attend one networking event a month.
Why don’t I do this now? Because interacting with a crowd of strangers is extremely difficult and unpleasant for me.
Why do I dislike crowds full of strangers? Because I’m wired that way. I can’t imagine not disliking crowds full of strangers.
…and there is no way to take the “five whys” further in this case. I can and do undertake to mitigate the inconvenient parts of my brain, but knowing why they exist has nothing to do with fixing them, and they are not in any way simple or easy to deal with.
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As I get older (mid 40′s), I find myself becoming more understanding and forgiving. You see Ramit, life throws all kinds of unpredictable things at people.
It seems easy to you because you’re in your early 20′s. It’s easy to be ideological about these matters when you’ve lived only the equivalent of 10 minutes. You probably don’t have kids. You’ve never dealt with the unexpected expenses surrounding a Downs child, or had to pay for private school because your child couldn’t read in the 3rd grade, or had to care for an aging parent, etc.
There are certainly folks who are irresponsible with their money. But Ramit, not everyone has the advantages that you have, e.g., preferences in College Admission, scholarships, etc.
Life can be hard, as you’ll likely someday find out.
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Thanks for the thought provoking article. I really enjoyed. I also, decided to write a little more about this topic on my own blog!
of course I’ve linked to your site for your added inspiration. Thanks!
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I thought this was an excellent post.
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I’m so happy to discover that my Indian mom is not the only one who packs care-package meals that way!
I have recognized these barriers that Sethi describes in my own life and have made some changes — buying precut ‘baby’ carrots instead of the whole variety that I’ll never get around to washing and chopping before they rot, for example.
What’s also important is follow-through — maintaining and tweaking the system(s) to eliminate these barriers over the long term. The hardest part of running a marathon isn’t the last two-tenths of a mile on race day, but putting on your sneakers for a relatively short weekday training run.
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Wow! Best post I’ve read this year. It really hits the nail on the head… Exactly what I’m thinking.
But I’m still having difficulties overcoming these barriers. I have tons of things to do. Most of them very easy. But I’m sitting here reading posts after posts on your blog.
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people are inherently resistant to change ,they don’t like it and make excuses to not change ,routines ,ways, habits, you name it, well i think that sums it up
unless it’s almost too late then people change out of survival
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Hey Ramit,
Humans are lazy. Rather than trying to rely on our flimsy self-discipline, we can change our surroundings to automate desired change.
We remove the passive barriers, and replace them with things that will push our change that we want. Whether saving money, eating healthier, working out, or getting stuff done, instead of telling ourselves that we’ll do it and then not doing it, we change our environment to facilitate change.
Your example of fruit to work is a great one. All the food you loved to snack on because it’s easy to eat, you just replace with just-as-easy fruits, veggies, whatever. Of COURSE you don’t want to make a salad, or maybe even a sandwich. But grabbing into a bag to eat some healthy snacks? Sure! Cut up those apples and carrots. Or even better, buy them already cut (or salad mixes) to make it even easier.
Thanks for the in-depth article on removing passive barriers. A great reminder to change our surroundings rather than rely on our flimsy self-discipline, for ourselves and for others (for our websites, businesses, etc).
Best,
Oleg
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Hey, I just wanted to say thank you for such a great post.
All throughout high school I was “lazy”; didn’t do my homework, hardly ever studied for tests–even though I -really- wanted to and -really- knew I should. No matter how stoked I got myself at times, my goals always fell through by the second week of trying. The only thing that got me to graduation was luck and momentary bursts of absolute desperation over marks. I very much regret not doing as well as I know I should have.
Now that I’m starting post secondary, I know I absolutely cannot survive on this behaviour–especially while also being employed. For weeks I’ve been desperately trying to find ways to change my “laziness” and “procrastination.” This post has given me some great insight; I’m really glad I found it
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This is what I’m talking about!
It’s great to see the implementation of sound psychological principles to get us to do things that we ‘want’ to do, but usually end up not doing. The great thing about overcoming barriers is that these principles can be implemented to many aspects of life.
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However annoying Ramit is, this is a very good insight. (Not original to him, of course.) For many people and for many goals, this is a fruitful way to address a problem. A friend of mine taught me the trick a few years ago, when I was complaining about something. She said, essentially “Well, what causes that problem? OK, now how can you make that cause less of a problem? Now that that’s dealt with, what’s the next part of the problem?”
This doesn’t always fix the problem. For example, Rose Fox @84 has reached a natural end to the chain of “why”s. So now “Why” is no longer the right question. The right question now is “How?” “How can Rose Fox deal with a crowd of strangers even though she dislikes crowds?” Wish I had an answer to offer.
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Excellent post! One of the best I have read on this topic. I love how you broke this down into barriers and explained how it’s not just about people “being lazy”, but deeper psychological challenges. I am sharing this with everyone I know. I think this is a great tool to get them started on changing their behavior to meet their goals. I actually did something like this a few months back. I realized that in order to work out more, i’d have to do it in the morning. In order to do that i’d have to wake up early. In order to do that, i’d have to go to sleep early. In order to do that, I’d have to ban myself from the TV as much as possible. It worked like a charm. I am now waking up early every day and running. I love it!
Great job Ramit. Love your blog!!!!
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Thank you Ramit! You are a godsent.
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Very good food for thought here about barriers. One reason people don’t follow through with 401k etc is that it’s so confusing. Constantly these days we are confronted with things we don’t understand yet have to make choices about. . .or ignore. Not to mention that the entire paradigm of saving for retirement does NOT feel good – quite the contrary – so there’s a subtle discouragement (barrier) there. For the average person, investing is like trying to play a game without understanding the rules. Save your money and get crap for returns, and often have to pay tax on the crap returns, even while you might still be losing money due to inflation being higher than your crap returns, or pay tax on gains in mutual funds even though the value went down, OR even lose on your principal. Many people lost thousands in this last downturn – gee, don’t take your money to las Vegas and have *fun* while you lose it, just put it in an imaginary place like the stock market (that’s not gambling??) and have someone tell you whether it increased or disappeared. What a system.
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Robert Kiyosaki says not to. He says to invest for cash flow because he believes the American economy is headed for an Armageddon it will never recover from.
I wonder about him. Is he right or is he nuts?
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i think daily small goals that can beaccomplised are the answer
one needs to hold themselves accountable..
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