I haven’t written much about frugality here lately. Because of that, you might think it’s become less of a priority for me. That’s simply not the case, although sometimes it feels that way — even to me. “I’m worried about our spending,” Kris told me early last week. “I feel like it’s a little out of control.”
“Really?” I said. We’ve had a couple of big expenses lately — painting the house, for example — but I don’t think our habits are too out of line. The real problem is probably the potential spending we see on the horizon:
- We need to replace our 15-year-old mattress, for example. I don’t sleep well on it, although I sleep fine on other mattresses.
- Meanwhile, I’ve been pricing new bicycles. I’m not certain I’m going to buy one, but I’m considering it.
- Finally, we’ve begun to budget for our next big vacation: a trip to France and Italy next year. (Or the year after.)
With these spending goals looming, I suspect that Kris is feeling pinched. Still, after her observation about our frugality (or lack thereof), we’ve been trying to make smarter choices. This weekend, for example, was filled with frugality.
Home improvement and potlucks
Friday evening, Kris co-hosted a wedding shower — a frugal wedding shower. Kris and her co-workers made all of the food and drinks themselves. Kris made the flower arrangement. They didn’t spend money on decorations or games or prizes. “We didn’t need to spend a lot to have a party,” Kris told me afterward. “We just had good food and good friends and enjoyed each other’s company.”
On Saturday morning, we made a short drive to pick up 40 iris rhizomes, which Kris found on Craigslist for a dollar a piece. As we loaded them in the car, she was almost giddy with glee. “You don’t realize how big of a bargain this is,” she said. “I paid $1 per plant. At the iris gardens, these would be $10 or $20 or $30 per rhizome! Plus she gave me eight extra plants.”
On the drive home, we stopped at the hardware store to buy compost and topsoil so we could build a new iris bed. We also bought a “sweep” for the mudroom door, which should help keep the heat in during the winter. Finally, we bought a gallon of Van Deusen Blue paint. We recently paid to have the exterior of our home painted, but we’re going to do the porches ourselves.
During the afternoon, Kris planted her irises while I prepped the porches for painting. In the evening, we went to a potluck barbeque. Kris made a potato salad (using Yukon Golds she had purchased on sale) and we took a bottle of wine. In exchange, we received good food and good conversation.
On Sunday, we attended our monthly book group. This gathering is one of the highlights of our month, and a great example of frugal fun. Most members get the book selections through the public library, and the food is generally home-grown or home-made. Again, we felt like we obtained an excellent return on our minimal investment.
We also did a lot of other little things this weekend. Here are some of the other ways we saved money:
- On Friday, I biked to the grocery store for a gallon of milk. We try to limit our grocery shopping to once every two or three weeks, but we make supplemental trips for dairy and produce.
- I picked peas from the garden. In fact, I picked a record crop — nearly a kilo on Saturday alone (bringing our total for the year up to about 3.5kg).
- Kris picked cucumbers and made pickles.
- We stopped by the Asian market. It has great prices and fun items, but we’re rarely in the neighborhood, so we try to visit it when we can.
- I mixed up a large batch of Thai tuna salad to use for sandwiches all week long. Cheap and tasty!
- We watched a couple of episodes of The Bob Newhart Show on Hulu.
- I rode my bike to book group. Kris points out that this didn’t really save us anything since she drove her car, but still… (Part of this ride was to help me determine whether I want/need to replace my bike. Answer? Undetermined.)
- I figured out how to retrieve the sink plug from the bathroom drain. I’d been dreading this task (and had even thought of calling a plumber), but it was easy.
- When I confessed that I’d recently pruned my extension cord while trimming the hedges, my friend Andrew offered to show me how to repair it. The job’s not done, but will be soon.
- Kris did the laundry, which included hanging it out to dry.

A penny saved is a penny earned
“We had a perfect weekend,” Kris said as we got ready for bed last night. “And it didn’t cost a lot.” These days of frugal fun helped us to see that we haven’t lost our way, that our spending isn’t actually out of control.
I don’t want to make it sound like we’re frugal angels, though. We’re not. Next weekend, for example, we have tickets to see The Decemberists in concert. (Again!) Plus, I’m hoping we can go to Gino’s for dinner on Friday; it’s been a couple of weeks since Kris and I dined out together.
For me, this weekend was yet another reminder that frugality matters. By making smart choices most weekends, we’re able to afford concerts and dinners out on others. And, more importantly, this everyday frugality means that we’re able to spend money on those things that are more important to us, like a new mattress or a new bicycle — or a trip to Europe.
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EscapeVelocity #22: “Since I’m living in a dryer right now …” <== extreme frugality there! /wink
Marie — you probably need some kind of large umbrella or cover for the line. Would also protect against sun damage and/or unexpected rainshowers. Or, line-dry indoors …
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Sale or not, Yukon Golds are a bad choice for potato salad. They impart a bitter taste when paired with the other ingredients. They’re great for mashed potatoes, or eating on their own, but terrible for potato salad.
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I love this blog. It’s the only part of my life where I can be entertained reading about how some guy I only know from the internet rode his bike to a book club!
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This Thai tuna salad you speak of, do you happen to have a recipe? I love thai food. And I love tuna salad. This seems like an awesome combo!
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@ Chris Brown:
The show they are referring to is “The Bob Newhart Show” NOT “Newhart”. The former is a TV classic from the 70′s which you’ve obviously never seen.
(Try getting your facts straight before ridiculing others’ choices).
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@Liam (#53)
Happy to be of service.
@Chris Brown (#48)
“The Bob Newhart Show”, not “Newhart”. I’d much rather watch classic television than most modern stuff.
@Thai tuna salad folks
Okay, I’ll share the recipe this weekend, but if people complain about a recipe post, I’M BLAMING IT ALL ON YOU!
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look, the decemberists are worth it, and that’s a fact.
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JD – In Portland, bike + frugal = Community Cycling Center. They will help you find a used bike that fits your body, your needs, and your preferences, offering excellent service at the same time. I also went through a series of bikes that didn’t fit or weren’t right for me before I found them and I would recommend them to anyone.
They are also a non profit offering bike training and earn-a-bike programs for low-income children and adults, as well as bike summer camp for kids. Excellent programs, excellent value.
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A new mattress is definitely worth spending good money on, JD! You spend 8 hours a night (ideally) on a mattress, so it should be comfortable. I was just discussing this with a co-worker today. How do you manage to make such timely posts all the time?
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Jessie: The recipe was actually for “mashed potato salad” and called for a Yukon-gold-type potato. It had a texture like somewhat-mashed potatoes, but was served cold and flavored with traditional potato-salad items like celery & celery seeds, mayo, mustard, sour cream, dill pickle juice, diced onions, etc. It was a hit at the potluck!
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Stop being so frugal in our country on the weekends. Use that money you are saving for trips to Italy and France here in the good old U.S.A. We could use that to help our Economy. You could have a lot of wonderful weekends here, for a lot less then you are going to spend in other countries.
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I strongly suggest not being too frugal when it comes to the mattress. You spend a third of your life, give or take a few percent, on it, and it can have a significant effect on your energy level, which can have a significant effect on your productiveness and life.
My wife and I went out over the weekend searching for a replacement for our nearly ten year old mattress. Neither of us feel that we’re sleeping very well, and she’s been having back problems. Her spine doctor told her to look at replacing the mattress, as it sags inward somewhat, and that’s a bad thing for the back.
After hearing rave reviews from my brother and parents for several years now, we decided to consider the Sleep Number bed. Hardly a frugal choice, indeed. After spending two hours in the store, we came to the conclusion that we would order one. Although expensive (the model we got was around $2500 with tax), if you consider dividing this over ten years, and two people, it doesn’t seem so unreasonable.
To those who think that fifteen years is “nearly the lifespan of a mattress”, I think you’re kidding yourselves. The sleep specialist I’ve seen has advised me that seven years is more reasonable, and ten years is around the useful maximum lifetime of a mattress.
For those who might wonder about our frugality, we have zero debt beyond our home, a healthy and growing emergency fund, and a pretty nicely funded 401(k).
Mark
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Frugal always sounds dreary. What you describe is editing – getting rid of wasteful spending, so that your occasional luxuries have a lot of impact.
Last year as an experiment when I was at home alone for 6 weeks (and no family to make fun of me), I turned off my hot water heater. Hot water on demand had never seemed like a luxury to me, but once I was keeping track of how long I could go on a tank of hot water [answer - many, many days] then voila! Hot water seemed like a big treat, not just a plain old thing. Every good editor says cut out the excess.
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Hey, post the pickle recipe, too!
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JD, for a new mattress, try a warehouse club, like Sam’s Club. Just rent a truck from Home Depot ($20 an hour) and have a few friends help you load and unload and save loads of money compared to mattress/dept/furniture stores and NO HIGH PRESSURED SALES GAMES!
As for the drying clothes outside – we can’t go that route due to allergies – wet clothes outside soak up the allergens.
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Linear Girl:
If you haven’t been shocked, and I hope you haven’t, you’re just speaking theoretically. J.D. is by no means destitute & can afford the cord. (Perhaps he should ask Kris, who loves him, whether it’s a good idea.)
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I’ve found that sleep is the absolute root of everything. With decent sleep, I’m a better man, father, athlete, spouse, employee and all around person. With poor sleep, I’m just getting by at best, an irritable mess at worst.
I’d replace that mattress yesterday, as others have already said. Think of the other things you “just do” when they wear out and become unsafe or function poorly — car tires, toothbrushes, sponges, knives, ladders, etc. The mattress very easily fits into the same category.
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Sleep… oh how i longed for it today. This weekend was spent drinking with tennis teammates till 3am on Sunday morning and then waking up to play tennis at 8:45am! Sleep is so important.
The best frugal weekends I have are via Netflix/BBonline and reading a book with the wife before sunset.
I tell ya, the library and netflix is the greatest frugal entertainment ever!
Rgds,
RB
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@ Chickybeth You mean “Small Notebook”.
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So much of frugality depends on your background. I thought the same as Nr. 49, Marie. I’d think that catering seems a bit overboard for a shower. I’d think the money spent on catering would be better given to the new bride/couple instead of the food. But that’s me. I thought the idea behind the shower is to help the person/couple, not to spend a bundle on the party itself. But maybe that’s just me. I’d rather spend more on the gift and less on the wrapping since you just throw the wrapping away and the gift remains.
Frugality like reduce or no paper towel usage, hanging out clothes to dry (and getting used to stiffness–are we total wimps?), turning off lights when not needed, trying to not buy extra food that gets thrown out–is all this considered so frugal? It’s standard fare in other parts of the world.
JD. Can you tell us more about your trip to Europe? Do you have a certain number of days you want to travel? Places/things you want to see? Is this a “once in a lifetime” trip, or just the “first in a series”? Things over here (I’m in Poland) aren’t particularly cheap for the traveler. One thing I’ve not figured out (and maybe it would be a good subject for a blog article) is how we can manage to stay at such wonderful hotels if we go with a prearranged trip with a tour company, but if we try to arrange it ourselves, we have to pay $200/night for it. You know it isn’t costing the tour agency anything like that. (I’ve heard something like $35 night for the tour agency for that $200 room but I don’t know if it is true.)
I’d be curious if there is any way to get such good prices individually.
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Btw, JD – if you go to Rome, beware: some vendors and restaurants rip off tourists. They make you pay several euros for a bottle of water or a coffee, things that shouldn’t cost more than 1. Don’t go in fancy “typical” restaurants without prices on the menu, in order to avoid nasty surprises when you ask for the bill.
And if you don’t like extremely hot weather (35-40 °C)… wait for the fall before touring Italy.
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@Marie (comment #49) –
I don’t know of very many showers (wedding or otherwise) that were at someone’s home and catered, but I have been to a lot that were held at a restaurant/hotel. So, much less frugal than having a party at home (but still not “catered”). That might be the point of comparison here.
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You said your mattress is 15 years old and you want to buy a new one. I’ve got a couple of tips for you as I worked in sales while I went to university:
-Mattresses are hugely marked up (at least here in Canada). I bought one for staff price (brand new, not a display model) that cost 50% less than what we were selling it for. They still made money off of me. Either wait till they go on sale, or make sure you ask for a good deal. Good mattress/box sets start around $1,500 “regular” price.
-Make sure you buy a mattress pad so you get full warranty. The salespeople will try to sell you on the manufacturer’s 10-year warranty, but they don’t always tell you the warranty is void if you stain it.
-To go along w. the warranty thing, always buy the matching mattress/boxspring set. Mismatching usually voids the warranty. The boxspring is usually only about 10-15% of the mattress set’s price so don’t try to cut costs there, or by using your old “perfectly good” boxspring.
-Don’t be afraid to test the beds on the showroom floor – that’s what they’re there for.
Don’t really have any other comments for the post, just the mattress thing piqued my interest.
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Buy your new mattress at Bed In A Box… We bought ours 2 years ago and love it.
It’s a memory foam mattress like Tempurpedic, for about 20% of the price.
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J.D.
I might have a few tips on budget travel.
France & Italy were part of my first trip abroad. Not sure if you’ve been before but you’ll definitely have a good time.
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JD,
In Portland you can get recycled paint for $8-$10 gallon at http://www.metro-region.org/index.cfm/go/by.web/id=521
Also, buy landscaping supplies at http://www.bestbuyintown.biz/
Far from where you live but “might” be worth it.
You scoop your own and also the compost mix is excellent! Our tomatoes are beautiful
Our recent frugal moves:
1. 2 blu-ray movies free from the library as well as books.
2. Upgraded Ramen (good quality Korean) lunch with home-grown veggies.
3. Upgraded frozen pizza (Trader Joe’s) with fresh tomatoes and cheese.
4. Fresh salads from CSA. (www.sungoldfarm.com)
5. Shared 3 entrees for 4 people family-style at Chinese Restaurant.
6. Vegetarian chili with home-grown peppers, no meat.
7. Invited friends over for a home-cooked dinner.
8. Purchased plane ticket for my brother and mom leaving and returning on weekdays. In this case, it did not matter because they have plenty of time off.
Wow, it feels good to think about it
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I’m working on talking myself out of a new bike… my old bike is causing me some serious knee pain (due to the bike, not an injury or other medical condition). I’ve found a couple physiotherapists in my area who, rather than working on me, will fit the components of my bike to me so as to allow my body to move as it wants to on my bike. This fitting is designed to be a level beyond what is offered by a bike shop. It can’t fix a really bad frame choice, but I hope to keep my old bike and swap out parts (pedals, handlebar, seat, as necessary) based on her recommendations. In addition to saving the cost of a new bike, her services are covered by my insurance as long as I have a doctor’s referral. I’ll have to pay for parts and service, but it should feel like a new bike!
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