I had a wave of nostalgia on Friday. My brother called to tell me that there was a problem with the computer network at the box factory. Though I no longer work for the family business, I’m still the company’s computer guy. So, I drove out to the office, tinkered with the network, and ended up having to make a run to Fry’s Electronics to pick up some parts.
Not so long ago, Fry’s was the source of much of my impulse spending. I bought computers and computer accessories, computer games and computer books. I bought compact discs and DVDs and stereo equipment. I burned through a lot of money in that store. Walking through the doors on Friday brought back a flood of memories.
I picked up the computer parts I needed and then, on a whim, I decided to look at the computer games. I’ve felt a little burned out lately, and I’ve been thinking that a good single-player game might be the perfect way to blow off steam. (I’m afraid to begin playing World of Warcraft again because I know I’ll just get sucked in.)
I stood in the Mac games section (mercifully a fraction the size of the PC games section) and looked at the options. There was a time when I’d know everything about each of these games. Gaming was my hobby. Now, though, I know nothing. Is Call of Duty good? What about Age of Empires III? I used to love Star Wars games — maybe I should pick up one of those?
In the end, I didn’t buy anything. I could easily afford the purchase, and I wouldn’t feel guilty about it, but I just couldn’t justify buying a game blindly. Plus, I would have been making the purchase on impulse. It’s one thing to buy something I know I’ll love; it’s something else to buy something just for the sake of buying it.
Back at the box factory, I spent a couple of hours getting the network up and running. As I waited for various machines to reboot, I looked though a big box of CDs I’d left behind when I quit my job.
The box was filled not only with music CDs, but also with a decade’s worth of computer software. There were dozens of games, many of which I had bought for full price ($40), installed on my computer, but never played. There were $400 database applications I had purchased because I might teach myself how to use one. There was a full version of Adobe Illustrator that I had never figured out how to use.
“There must be close to $5,000 worth of CDs in this box,” I thought, flipping through the dusty jewel cases. But then I corrected myself. I had spent about $5,000 to purchase the CDs in that box, but they’re worth almost nothing today. A few of the games have sentimental value (Re-volt is one of the best games I have ever played and I’m tempted to get it running on my Mac), but most of the software is worthless now.
As I drove home, I thought about the J.D. of 1999 and the J.D. of today. The J.D. of 1999 could not have walked out of Fry’s without buying something. Or many somethings. But then he would have felt guilty and dirty for days afterward — until he forgot about the purchase and it just became another debt that he owed.
But my attitude is completely different today. Today I’m out of debt. I can afford to purchase the music and games that I want. But mostly I don’t. I’ll buy something if I know I’ll use it, but it’s rare now that I make an impulse purchase. I no longer shop just for the sake of shopping.
I’ll admit that there are times that I long for the free-spending days of years gone by. But you know what? That J.D. of 1999 could never have afforded a Mini Cooper (used or otherwise). He was trapped in a job that he hated. He dreamed of travel but could not go. He spent a lot on Stuff that did not matter — but spent very little on the things that did.
I prefer the man that I’ve become. I like knowing that Kris and I will have no problem saving for our trip to France and Italy next year. I like driving my Mini and knowing that it’s mine (and not the bank’s). And I also like knowing that I can do a little research, find a computer game that looks promising, and then buy a copy — all without an ounce of guilt.
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“You’re not frugal. You’re just cheap.”
Hear hear.
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#45 says “Now, I know to most [ torrents are ] morally wrong, but i found that is a great way to save.”
So is shoplifting.
You are not cheap, you’re a thief.
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Good to hear JD. Be proud of yourself!
I used to spent a lot of money on DVD’s. But when I got married my wife talked some sense into me
. So I stopped buying DVD’s on impulse.
Lately I noticed I started impulse buying againg but this time it was computer games. I almost spend more time buying games/reading reviews then actually playing them.
My problem is that the prospect of playing a good video game gives me a (very short) happy feeling. That makes me buy the games/dvd’s/books/gadgets.
In reality I don’t have time to play all those games/read all those books/watch all those movies. I still have like 20 DVD’s I didn’t have the time to watch yet. And the unopened computer games starts piling up also.
Buying (this kind of) stuff gives me a good feeling for about a few minutes. Spending time on things I enjoy gives me longer lasting feeling of hapiness. So playing games gives me more happiness than buying games
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I wanted to get some understanding of our finances because we are looking at buying another house. I was shocked how much money I was spending on stuff I didn’t actually use/needed. From this moment on I am going to try to be more aware on where my money is going. I also created a monthly budget for fun stuff (going out, games and holiday).
I really like travelling so it’s a extra stimulus if I can save on buying games and put that money on the travel savings account.
Funny detail; my original holiday plan was to travel to eastern USA but now I am going to Italy because it’s a lot cheaper for me (I live in the Netherlands). So it looks like my travel saving goal is the opposite of JD’s
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Re:52 Not to derail this conversation, but it isn’t stealing it is copy right infringement which is against the law but is a completely different crime then theft. And there is nothing wrong with being cheap, ever dollar i save, i can spend on my family, my self, and my friends, in that order. Like I said, everyone achieves frugality in their own way.
-Subjective Reality
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Mike (48)–Good point about retail stores. The mistake most of us make in stores and to an even greater degree in malls, is thinking we’re in control, this experience is for our benefit. Wrong, totally wrong.
Everything in stores and malls is set up to get us to part with our money. The color selections, layouts, soft music, incense, convenience, free samples, polite staff who call us by name (once they know it) and even the shopping bags are set up to get us to spend money we otherwise wouldn’t. As soon as you walk in, your defenses are down.
No retailer, no mall would spend the money on all of those appointments if it didn’t increase revenue.
Avoidance is the best defense.
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I agree with Kevin, I have taken some marketing courses and they actually teach you how to use color schemes and layouts to your advantage. For example, women usually look to the left first when walking into the store, and the men usually look to the right, which is why in most clothing stores womens clothes are on the left and mens on the right. It seems silly but it does work. So ya, I understand what Kevin means on his reply.
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