Because I write a personal finance blog, I read a lot of books about money. I’ll be honest: they’re usually pretty boring. Sure, they can tell you how to invest in bonds or how to find the latest loophole in the tax code. But most of them lack a certain something: the human element.
Recently I’ve begun to read a different kind of money book in my spare time. I’ve discovered the joy of classic biographies and success manuals, especially those written by (or about) wealthy and/or thrifty men. When I read about Benjamin Franklin or Warren Buffett or J.C. Penney, I learn a lot — not just about money, but about how to be a better man.
Here are twelve of the most important lessons that these books, written by and about great men of years gone by, have taught me.
Be Tenacious
More than any other, one lesson stands out from the books I’ve read: Never give up. If you have a goal or a dream, pursue it. If there’s a cause that you truly believe in, then fight for it. That’s not to say that you should doggedly chase greed or gluttony, but that you should do your best to achieve those things that are important to you. Great men struggle through daunting obstacles to reach their destinations. In everything that you do, do your best. And remember: The road to wealth is paved with goals.
Exercise Self-Control
Benjamin Franklin famously attempted to codify his quest for self-control. As Brett wrote at The Art of Manliness, Franklin committed himself to thirteen virtues, and he developed a system for tracking how disciplined he was in his daily pursuit of these ideals. There’s nothing wrong with an occasional indulgence. But when the indulgence becomes a habit — or worse, a vice — this can affect your life. Even destroy it. If you have habits that prevent you from fulfilling your potential, find a way to boost your self-control. (You might, for example, use Joe’s Goals to track your progress, much like Benjamin Franklin did.)
Do the Right Thing
Have a code of honor, and live by it. Your code of honor might come from your faith, or from your education, or from your family. Whatever the source, live by these values. Life is filled with temptations. The more you accomplish, the more people will tempt you with offers for quick gains or passing pleasures. Many men succumb to these, but those who do rarely achieve what they might have if they’d stuck to their principles. The books I’ve read are filled with stories of men who have resisted the urge to compromise, and who believe that this has been a key to their success. Don’t cheat. Be honest. Work hard. And embrace the golden rule.
Embrace The Golden Rule
James Cash Penney — the man behind the J.C. Penney chain of department stores — believed that success could be measured by how a man treated others. In his book, Fifty Years with the Golden Rule, Penney describes his life-long adherence to this maxim: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Other great men believed the same. They believed that their fortunes came not from pursuing money itself, but by producing something of value to others. But this principle also holds true outside of business. In your dealings with your friends, your family, and with strangers, treat others as you would like to be treated. Doing so builds social capital, strengthening the fiber of the community.
Pay Yourself First
Another common thread in most of these books — and in personal-finance classics like The Richest Man in Babylon — is the importance of saving. “Pay yourself first,” the old adage goes, and it’s great advice. If you will set aside ten or twenty per cent of all that you earn, your fortune will grow far beyond that of your peers. Some of this money should be invested in a manner that makes you comfortable. (You should learn about the concepts of asset allocation and diversification, if you haven’t already.) But some of your money should also be set aside in a high-interest savings account to act as an emergency fund. When you save — when you pay yourself first — you are using the strength of your youth to insure your uncertain tomorrow.
Avoid Debt
Debt is slavery. When you owe money to another man, you are obligated to work for his benefit, not yours. Many young men struggle with debt — I did so myself. But those who are not able to overcome their spending habits are likely to find themselves always poor. When you pay interest to someone else, you cannot earn interest for yourself. When you’re in debt, your options are limited. You cannot choose, for example, to take a month off to travel across the country with a friend. You cannot quit a job you hate. If you did, how would your bills get paid? To be sure, a certain amount of debt is useful in business, but make it a policy in your personal life to never borrow for something that will decrease in value. (And if you’re already behind, make it a priority to get out of debt as soon as possible.)
Keep Well
Your health is your greatest asset. If you lack health, you cannot work, and cannot produce an income. Health allows you to engage in productive activities, at work and at play. It allows you to enjoy the company of your friends and family. And it allows you to live with vigor. Guard your health. Do not neglect your body. Eat well. Exercise regularly. If you drink or smoke, do so in moderation. You will not live forever, but with some care and foresight, you may get a little closer!
Do Not Covet
It never pays to compare yourself to others. For one, you can find yourself longing to own the same things they do. Your best friend buys a new Ford Mustang, and suddenly you want one too. The guys from work go out for drinks on Friday evening, but you’re broke — the temptation to join in, to have what others have, can be unbearable. Focus only on yourself and how the things you own and do relate to your goals. Don’t be jealous of others. (This is one message in the famous essay, “Acres of Diamonds”: Instead of looking elsewhere for wealth, look at your own life.)
Live Modestly
This is the flip side to “Do Not Covet”. Just as you should not allow the behavior of your friends to influence your spending decisions, so too be conscious of your influence on them. If you have money, don’t flaunt it. And if you don’t have money, don’t pretend that you do. It’s fine (even good) to buy quality products, but don’t be flashy. Live simply and well.
Practice Patience
Too many men want to “get rich quick.” They’re on the lookout for fast money. They also want to lose weight now, to be a great golfer now, to be in management now. This obsession with “now” is a problem. In his new book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell writes that the difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is 10,000 hours. That is, those who achieve mastery have patiently practiced their craft for at least 10,000 hours — the equivalent of five years of full-time work. When people ask me why Get Rich Slowly is so successful, one of my responses is that I’ve worked at it 60+ hours a week for the past four years. Practice may not “make perfect,” but it certainly breeds success.
Give Generously
I wasn’t raised in a culture of giving. It’s only something I’m beginning to learn in middle age. But as I read about the choices of men who have come before me, it’s clear that they have derived satisfaction (and done a lot of good) by giving generously — not just of money, but also of time and knowledge. Do not hoard the things you have. Share them so that others might profit, too.
Learn from the Average Joe
Over the past few months, I’ve enjoyed reading the real-life stories of how great men became great. But I’ve also found it enlightening to read about the experiences of the average everyday guy — fellows like you and me.
One book I strongly recommend (especially considering the state of the economy) is Hard Times by Studs Terkel. Hard Times is an oral history of the Great Depression. Terkel interviewed scores of men and women about their experiences during the 1930s. Their stories are amazing, and they offer great insight about how we can live better lives today.
Go forth, my friends, and do great things.
Note: This article originally appeared at The Art of Manliness in a slightly different format. April and I plan to do a follow-up that highlights great lessons from great women. But give us time to research it! (And if you have suggestions about books/pamphlets we should read for this project, let us know.)
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Regarding the footnote on lessons for women, I think the above mottos or lessons are equally applicable to men AND women. Sadly, not nearly as many great thoughts and lessons from women were captured and published during historical times.
For me, being debt free, except for the mortgage (and our real estate mortgage) has been the most freeing lesson.
And following being debt free we find ourselves living modestly, practicing patience, working on not coveting, and exercising self control. By taking debt out of lifestyle we buy less stuff (live modestly), we save up for purchases and experiences (patience and self control), and we ignore what our peers are doing/buying (no coveting).
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“Embrace the golden rule”
As a Christian for a long time I thought the golden rule was something that worked in church, but would be a terrible thing to apply to a business. I viewed the business world as competitive and cutthroat.
Then I started talking with successful business owners. Over and over they said that the golden rule helped their business grow.
I guess sometimes the nice guys still win.
I was happy to see this important principle listed today.
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This is a great post. Thank you for the valuable information and interesting read. It’s something I will come back to for sure.
And, good timing on a sleepy Monday morning: Be Tenacious “Anybody can be a halfway man, but the one who rises above this class is the one who keeps everlastingly pushing.” Ok! I’m up, I’m up!!
One comment about great women – it’s seems a different or bigger sacrifice for them. I have read a couple of books on successful business women and it seems a little sadder for them. They need to work harder and longer and many seem to neglect many things that are important to them to make it – family, health. I wonder if others see it differently?
thanks!
Jennifer
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Great post! Though I’ve always been a little annoyed at how people seem to think “great men” and “great women” have to be divided up. Why can’t we have “great lessons from great people?” (No offense, J.D.!)
One of my favourite quotes is :
“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.” — Helen Keller
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Thatnk you for creating this post. I am currently trying to get rid of our debt so I can move forward with our goals. It’s always helpful to read about people who have succeeded at what you’re trying to improve. Thanks again.
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Your breakdown of 12 important people and their philosophy reminded me of a book I read years ago called “The Change Makers” by Maury Klein.
The Intro is incredibly boring, but after that his profile of 26 famous entrepreneurs is interesting, as you see the common threads running through their lives.
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@Beth (#4)
Men and women don’t have to be divided up — though they do for this post.
As I say, this is a legacy post that I put up at The Art of Manliness last year. Consider it the first of two parts, which shall be joined together (once the second part is actually written).
Love the Helen Keller quote. Thanks.
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I think tenacity combined with integrity (plus a little help from others) will get you where you want to go, once you have a clear picture of what that destination is. I think it’s interesting, too, that so many of the great men seemed to have one overriding principle that they could distill their lived too. (With the exception of Ben Franklin, who had the 13 he monitored and worked on daily.)
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I find it fascinating that J.C. Penney wrote about providing quality goods and sticking to the golden rule, they’re still around. Sears, however, has been struggling for years and will probably not last another 20. I wonder if Sears had a book about life or finance?
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I can think of three women off the top of my head: Helena Rubinstein, the cosmetics magnate who build a business from scratch and died worth $100 million. The second is St. Marguerite d’Youville, the first Canadian-born Catholic Saint. Her husband ran up enormous debt and then died, leaving the young widow destitute. Not only did she pay off the debt, but she built a small business which earned her substantial funds. Later, after she’d formed the Sisters of Charity of Montreal, she took over the nearly bankrupt City Hospital and turned it into a going concern. The last is Amy Daczyn,who wrote the Tightwad Gazzette.
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Thank-you for the list of books. I have an easier time digesting financial principles if I get to read a story with the lesson
(The Richest Man in Babylon is a great example)
Another woman to consider: Maggie Walker, who was the first African American woman to found a bank (whose successor I believe is still open in Richmond).
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Excellent post and a great read to start off a new week. I love that quote by Warren Buffett. I struggle with patience, and it is wise words like these that I can keep in mind when my anxiety starts to take hold.
Outliers is on my books that I need to read soon.
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If you can get your hands on a copy, I highly recommend Dorothea Brande’s book -Wake Up and Live!-. I first discovered it in the library of a liberal arts college where I worked years ago. The book was published in 1936, as “a practical handbook for those who would like to escape from futility and begin to live happily and well.”
Brande is better known for her book -Becoming a Writer-, which is still in print.
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I love this stuff. Investor’s Business Daily has a daily feature of biographies and inspirational stories on the third page. Yes it’s that important to feed your mind and spirit with positive examples. How about Mother Theresa, Amelia Earhart, Jacqueline Cochran, Mary Kay Ash, Margaret Thatcher, Golda Meir, any number of athletes, Florence Nightingale, etc.
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Great Article! Thanks for this on a Monday morning. Much needed kick in the butt.
I immediately thought of two Great Women – one for business – The woman who founded the Estee Lauder Company and Cori Ten Boom – The jewish sympathizer and nazi concentration camp survivor who went on to create a place for people to come and start emotionally healing after WW2 was over. She’s less business and more faith driven, but her story is inspiring.
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It’s really jarring to see the “debt is slavery” line after Jefferson’s quote, since Jefferson lived in debt his whole life and it was a big part of his struggles with the issue of slavery – morally, he was in favor of emancipation of slaves (mostly) but personally he wasn’t willing to give up his authority over the people he owned, and legally he wasn’t able to anyway because of the debts he always held.
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I went to an academic talk on leadership once, and the guy who gave the talk said the number one predictor of being a leader among the CEOs he studied was wanting to be a leader. He (unsurprisingly) also pegged integrity as the thing that kept CEOs out of jail.
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Thank you, JD. I get really tired of people talking about businessmen as though they are soulless ‘do anything for a buck’ type people. In John Stossel’s first book he talks about his years as a consumer reporter and how there were always businesses who were willing to cheat, but they didn’t typically last very long. People typically deal with businesses the way we deal with other people: if we don’t like how we’re treated, we avoid them. If we can’t avoid them (the only grocer in town for example), we do what we can to minimize exposure.
90% of businessmen/women I know are ethical ‘golden rule’ type people. And I think that’s a much higher %age than I know of the general population.
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Nicole @ 17
Isn’t integrity pretty much what keeps most of us out of jail? I don’t get it. Your statement almost implies that most CEOs belong in jail and integrity is the only thing keeping them out.
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J.D, the philosopher! I’m loving it! One could add Socrates to the list. He willingly died to defend his values and virtues. According to Plato, Socrates said this just before he was forced to drink the hemlock that would take his life:
“I do nothing but go about persuading you all, old and young alike, not to take thought for your persons or your properties, but and chiefly to care about the greatest improvement of the soul. I tell you that virtue is not given by money, but that from virtue comes money and every other good of man, public as well as private. This is my teaching, and if this is the doctrine which corrupts the youth, I am a mischievous person.” ~ Socrates
Cheers…
Kent
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Some quotes:
Seeking success does not equal avoiding failure.
Practice does not make perfect, practice makes permanent. (practice the right way)
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I’d love to see a list of books you’ve read that you really like. I’m always looking for interesting reads to impress and inspire.
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People’s life long wisdom summed in one article! Awesome!
Yet, I think it is going to take me about as much to learn all of the above lessons. It’s easy to recite them, but very difficult to live them.
I like these lessons as guidelines, but I have fallen out of favor of trying to follow any of them. I realized that I have to learn my own lessons and create my own rules.
If I try to follow somebody else lessons, then I am not sure I am living my own life or if I am understanding the lesson completely.
Anyway. Just my two cents.
Best,
Tomas
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#19 Shara– not my research.
He basically did a bunch of case studies and many of the CEOs he studied did end up in jail at some point after his interviews (though he could not name names). He found he could predict jail from some items in his case studies. I don’t remember the details or who the guy was.
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This was a great post and I do try to apply all of these things to my life.
I think a good woman of our time to profile would be Oprah Winfrey. She started out poor and built an empire by herself. All long, she seems to get the most joy from helping others and truly seems to want others to be as successful as she is.
On another note, It is kind of sad to me to see the great-grandkids of the well known American rich take it for granted now and throw their lives away. It seems they learned the least from their forefathers. Maybe we can learn from their mistakes now as well as from the lessons they never learned.
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Woah – - not all the great grandkids of rich people take it all for granted and waste their lives. My aunt June is very rich and always impresses upon her family the importance of hard work and integrity. That is what led to her success. Her family – - all of her family – - still work very hard and do not take anything for granted because they remember how they worked for what they now own.
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Hey J.D.,
“Do not covet” is possibly the most valuable lesson here.
The personal development ones you’ll work on regardless of if you’re doing it in an organized manner, or just as a “grow as you go” approach.
But not comparing yourself to others is something you shouldn’t do – but most of us fall into the trap of doing.
Like that quote “be yourself; everyone else is taken,” you’ll only be as good as a good-enough imitation of someone else.
Just look at all the me-too’s after Apple’s latest creations. Very few gadget companies innovate and make something so useful and desirable – they play catchup or try to make a more X-version of an Apple product. No game-changers.
A practical tip is to consume less information. Follow your industry less. Don’t care what people think.
Only consume and follow enough to get what you need–what you believe in–done. The just-in-time info, not the just-in-case.
When you do what you really believe in, and you have an effective direction you’re moving in with it (ie. you know people will want it), then you can truly become great.
Awesome list of life lessons from the greats,
Oleg
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Your post reminds me of another life-altering book, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Originally published in 1938, Hill was challenged by the great industrialist Andrew Carnegie to interview 500 successful men and women in order to distill their success stories into a simple formula that could be duplicated by the average person. JD’s list of life lessons echoes many of Hill’s conclusions.
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If you could find a quote by/about Hetty Green, that would be great — she was one of the first women investors in the US and was known as the “Witch of Wall Street”. She was extremely stingy and I don’t think there is much out there about her.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hetty_Green
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J.D. One good overview is Written by Herself, edited by Jill Kerr Conway. It’s autobiographies of American women and they are fascinating stories.
Keep well and gaining good habits, I wanted to share habitforge.com as a good way to hold yourself accountable for forming good habits. The theory being that it takes 21 days to form a habit — make your own up and then it asks you every day if you were successful the previous day. I’m finding it very helpful.
Finally, I am not sure whether you’ve covered this and I missed it, but I’m trying to figure out how to plan for the future if I end up in a nursing home or with Alzheimer’s. I don’t want to do all this saving and have it all go to a nursing home — I want it to go to my kids. How do you plan that properly?
Thanks always for your suggestions.
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JD, thogh I enjoyed the overall idea of this article a little more research would be needed to show that some of these great men failed to follow their own advice.
Thomas Jefferson on debt – Jefferson was in immense debt for most of his adult life due to he money he spent on Monticello. He also owned over 600 slaves in his lifetime. There is nothing to show he treated his slaves any worse then other slave owners, but indentured servitude is indentured servitude.
Andrew Carnegie on modesty – though know as one of the world’s greatest philatropists, Carnegie also was the second most wealthy man in the world behind John D Rockefeller. He owned Skibo castle in Scottland and was a founding member of the South Fork Fishing and Hunting Club that caused the Johnstown flood.
Benjamin Franklin on suppression of desire – a great and brilliant founding father was also a drunk and a womanizer while helping form the country.
Yes these are great men, yes they did things well above anything I will ever accomplish, but we shold look at them as men, men with faults. JD please do a little more reaseach on this before putting them out.
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Great advice in here! Never live beyond your means, always budget, and if you are in debt, make getting out of debt be your number one goal. So much freedom in being debt free. Keep on with the good articles, I hope many more will stop by here to read this and heed the advice!
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Jay, I think the point to remember is that they are regarded as great men. Yes, in their day they were men just like anyone else. But for what they’ve done and what they strived to be they can be considered great.
We’ve grown accustomed to discovering the faults of those who we regard as great that we’ve forgotten what made them great actually was something worthy of greatness. This has become such a part of our lives that we almost eagerly wait to see our leaders fall so that we can dismiss them as no more worthy of our attention than our next door neighbor. Yet we haven’t completely lost hope because we hungrily look to the next leader hoping that they will be the one who meets our expectations.
Yes, most men have faults and you can find them if you dig deep enough. However, if we admire the good qualities of people and learn from the bad, we become greater than if we blindly follow the legends that ignore anything that could be perceived negative, or outright dismiss anyone with flaw.
JD, I’m looking forward to the second part of the series with April. Thanks.
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Classic post, J.D., – I am quite confident that this will be in the Best of 2010 list by any metric, most viewed or most posts! I’m also quite impressed that you read a lot of finance material, which serves to constantly expand your knowledge base. Learning is a journey and not a destination. This demonstrates that you honor your role as an emerging financial expert.
@ #2 (Craig) – your post resonated with me. with the doctrine of “separation of church and state” it’s easy to assume that we have to divorce our fiscal and spiritual lives, but the reality is for most human beings those lives are incredibly integrated. a book that delves deeper into this is entitled doing business by the good book by david steward (mastermind behind WWT, a technological firm that has revenues in excess of one billion)
@#5 (Hillary) wow! Love the choice of words you used, trying to get rid of debt to move onto goals -for so long my family of origin’s debt philosophy was just debt management – if you got through the year and paid all your bills you were doing fine, paying bills is not a financial goal – retirement, charity, travel are goals – being a hamster on a wheel to swell the profit margins of my debtors is not a goal.
J.D. – I’m very much looking forward to your comparable women post, that’s not to say that I did not enjoy this one immensely
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I liked this post and have been reading your blog for the past year or so. The only constructive criticism I have for this particular post is that you may want to use terms that are more gender neutral.
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@Catherine, my great-great grandfather grew up in Bellows Falls, VT where Hetty Green lived, and he knew her children. Based upon what my grandfather heard from his grandfather about Mrs. Green’s children, she wasn’t big on life balance. This millionairess stuffed her kids shoes with newspaper when they got holes, rather than replace them.
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Maybe her habits of thrift at all cost that helped her get rich were hard to break. Or maybe to get rich she neglected shopping so much she diddn’t have but one recourse. Or maybe she was ill.
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Great Post! It was quite refreshing to read. I’ll be sure to check these books out next time I’m at the library.
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There is another book that seems to be the same way called “Lost 10 Years” written by Barry Braodfoot in 1973. The stories are real and tell of some scoundrels and some angels, but mostly about the normal people at that time and how they survived. Most of the stories are about 2 paragraphs and the book is quite a long one. I keep it as a survival bible for when times get rough. I have recommended reading it to everyone, especially at the begging of 2009.
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Great post. Pay yourself is something that I actively practice. In the modern day it really is very easy to spend everything you earn. There is always something out there taht you would ‘like’.
Then as you grow older and maybe get a pay rise it’s so easy to just increase your standard of living to match. All sounds really great until about 40 years later you realise you have nothing.
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I just wanted to say I always admired Benjamin Franklin’s technique, so I loved the Joe’s Goals site. I’m already signed up!
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I’d add to the list Solomon. Though he may or may not have been a historical character, the Book of Proverbs, which most of is written by him, encourages hard work, the embracement of knowledge, and avoiding mistakes with the mouth.
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The old quote, “The more things change, the more things stay the same” must have originated in personal finance.
It doesn’t take a genius to see that the same principles that helped make people successful even 200 years ago, still apply today.
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Tenacity: A friend and I were eating dinner one night and the subject of what set the people we knew that had done really well apart from the others and we both came to this word immediately. Success doesn’t happen overnight and its amazing how many failures you need to go through to get there.
I can remember thinking for many years that every time I moved two steps forward it seemed like there were not 1 but three steps back. But eventually, you look up and say, “How the heck did I get here”. Never giving up is a huge part of success. Almost nobody is successful without a ridiculous struggle. It is too bad that the media portrays those who have succeeded as somehow getting their almost overnight.
I agree that Oprah is great woman to examine, someone exemplifying what 25 plus years of hard work can turn into. If you go back to her early shows, she was the underdog to Phil Donahue and few people gave her much of a chance. But her tenacity and genuineness found a huge following. Whether you like her show or not you have to admire how she became ultra successful after having about one one the roughest childhoods you could imagine.
More on Oprah at Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oprah_Winfrey
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Gloria Jean would be another good woman to profile! Doris Christopher (she started Pampered Chef) would be another interesting person.
Great article!
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the founder of Spanx, Sara Blakely, may also be a good woman to profile i remember her saying that in the very early stages when she was trying to get funding for the company she did not tell a soul – that speaks to the idea that people may unwittingly limit, discourage, or pigeonhole you with their comments
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Awesome post.
I think the idea that every successful person has had disappointments and their success has usually only come because of their tenacity and effort.
I also like the idea that doing the right thing should be a primary goal in and of itself. You do not have to manipulate, cheat, lie, or treat others badly to move ahead in life.
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thanks for this thought provoking and well-written post. it is my favorite.
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Great post — I have been trying to practice my own 13 virtues like an updated Ben Franklin list, and the ideas in this list adds to my thinking. To not covet is critical as is the 5,000 hours — I loved the addition of that concept.
Thank you for sharing these insights!
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Great post! One point I would add in the “Keep Well” section:
You only allude to physical health. I think that mental health is as important, if not more important, than physical health.
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This is a great post, J.D., and I totally agree!
Strangely enough, most of the important financial lessons I learned never came from financial books. They came from non-financial books that focused on other things, but nonetheless contained things that were applicable to the financial realm on a much deeper level than the typical book about finance.
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Thanks for the interesting article.
If someone is in debt their whole life (Jefferson), he speaks with authority when he says “Debt is slavery” (cuz I’ve experienced it and I know what I’m talking about!)
Don’t apologize for quoting these me, JD. Just because you put their famous quotes in an article does not mean an unequivocal recommendation for everything about their lives. Everyone knows this!!!
Pretty soon you’ll be putting “disclaimers” every time you quote someone. It gets old.
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