This guest post from Shara is part of the “reader stories” feature here at Get Rich Slowly. Some stories contain general “how I did X” advice; others are examples of how a GRS reader achieved financial success — or failure. These stories feature folks from all levels of financial maturity and with all sorts of incomes.
J.D.’s note: Over the past couple of months, I’ve shared a couple of reader stories that involve bankruptcy or otherwise walking away from debts. Though these options are all “part of the game”, they don’t sit well with many GRS readers. In response, Shara offered to share her story, which shows the other side of bankruptcy — what it’s like for the creditor.
After college, my husband and I bought a house in a normal middle-class neighborhood. Two years later, we decided we wanted to move out of the city, and instead of selling the house, we decided to rent it out.
We did a lot of math and research, and decided we could both trade up the house we were living in and support a rental, even if the rental wound up vacant for an extended period of time. We didn’t feel like we knew everything, but we were comfortable getting started. We signed up with a landlord service to check credit and background, and then took in our first tenant.
We made a number of mistakes the first couple years. We were young and expected people to be honest. I believed that, on the whole, people want to do the right thing. I still think that’s true, but watching the mental gymnastics some people go through, I now believe they have an endless capacity for making “the right thing” happen to be whatever is best for them.
Every tenant has done something that’s cost me money:
- Left major damage (stepped in the sprinkler box breaking every pipe).
- Taken off without notice (legally you still have to go through eviction if they didn’t give notice).
- Acquired pets that weren’t in their lease and caused damage (you have to decide: is it worth evicting over a dog?)
- Taken things from the property that weren’t theirs to take.
But that’s the name of the game. I wasn’t shocked to be left holding the bag on more than one occasion. It’s business. But this isn’t a story about landlording — it’s a story about bankruptcy.
Peter and Tara
In the summer and fall of 2008, the rental market started getting soft. I had a tenant leave without notice at the end of summer, and we couldn’t find a renter. We found a family who wanted the house, but they didn’t have good credit.
In hindsight, we shouldn’t have rented to them. Their credit was bad. There were red flags. But there are red flags with most people; renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect. Their references were very good, and they had supposedly never missed a rent payment. They claimed to be in the middle of bankruptcy caused by a business venture that had gone south. I knew the law that post-bankruptcy they would be on the hook for years until they could file again. We took a calculated risk because we thought the worst that was likely to happen was that they wouldn’t pay their rent and we’d have to evict them and support a house payment for up to two months.
Peter and Tara moved in with their kids (and undisclosed dogs) in September. As we were signing the lease, they explained that they only had about one-third of the deposit, but they were waiting to get their deposit back from their previous place. Though this raised a flag, we agreed they could pay it with the next month’s rent.
For each of the first couple months, they paid a couple of days late each time. They never made up the deposit, though each time it was promised next time, I understood that work was slow. Peter worked in low-level construction (landscape, re-stucco, that kind of stuff), and as it was getting to be late fall we let it slide.
In December, they didn’t pay. We got a story that his work for the month had been financed through a larger plumbing company and they hadn’t paid him yet. My husband and I decided we weren’t likely to find renters the week before Christmas, and we didn’t want to stress out the family with kids at the holiday, so we were going to give them until the last week of December to pay. They paid off December’s rent on the 24th. They dragged out January, finally paying 75% of it on the 28th. In my experience, once someone is a month behind they won’t make it back, and it’s actually kinder to cut them off than let them keep sinking: When they weren’t able to come up with the balance for January, we filed for eviction on the 8th of February.
We got a court hearing for February 27. The judge nicely heard our argument and asked Peter if he disputed it. He didn’t. The judge asked Peter if he had anything to add, and Peter said, “Yes. I filed for bankruptcy on the 11th.” (That was the day he was served with eviction papers.) With that, the judge looked at us and said there was nothing he could do. The next step for us was to go to the federal bankruptcy court down the block to attend the creditor meeting on the paperwork Peter provided.
Behind the scenes with bankruptcy
For those of you unfamiliar with bankruptcy, let me provide some basics.
When someone files bankruptcy, they get what is called an Automatic Stay. This means they have protection against collection of any debts accrued before the date of file, and includes any repossession or eviction proceedings. Peter and Tara had been living in our house rent-free for six weeks, and not only could we not collect the money, we couldn’t get our house back. But if Peter had turned to us and said, “By the way the toilet is leaking”, we’d have a legal obligation to go fix the toilet and couldn’t even ask when they were going to pay the rent. Had we done so, it would have been considered harassment, and we’d have been in violation of federal bankruptcy code and then they could have sued us. Not likely, but possible.
Here’s the general schedule of a bankruptcy:
- After a bankruptcy is filed, there’s also a meeting of creditors. This is set at least 30 days out from date-of-file to allow the debtor time to collect and submit their paperwork.
- After that, there’s a period where creditors can dispute the claims.
- And after that, the bankruptcy is typically discharged and the process is at a conclusion 7-10 weeks after date of file.
- Also, bankruptcy is in federal court while eviction is in county court. These courts don’t talk to each other; they don’t share information. They’re physically separated and are both “court” like an elementary and university are both “schools”.
When bankruptcy is filed ,the stay is for old debt, but since Peter and Tara were in the house, they still needed to pay current rent. So, a few days after March 1, when they were late on currently due rent, I sent them a late notice, and when they didn’t pay I petitioned the court for a rehearing.
In the meantime, we attended the creditor meeting on March 11. When we showed up, there was no one there for Peter and Tara’s bankruptcy — not even Peter and Tara. The lady who was running the hearings said that no paperwork had been submitted beyond the original filing. Furthermore, Peter and Tara were not eligible for bankruptcy. They still had five months to go before their last bankruptcy was old enough to allow for a new filing. It looked like they had filed for bankruptcy so they could intentionally steal rent from us. They spent $450 to file bankruptcy in order to stay in my house for free until it was dismissed (at least six weeks). The federal government had found nearly a dozen things wrong with Peter and Tara’s bankruptcy filing, so the court was moving to dismiss. The information was staggering, but we were happy because we could now get our house back.
Kafkaesque
We went to the scheduled eviction hearing on March 29. I read the bankruptcy law itself, which I interpreted to say that the automatic stay that barred us from evicting Peter and Tara was only for debt incurred before date of filing.
I told the judge: “Yes, Your Honor, there is nothing to the bankruptcy. The federal government is dismissing the filing. Plus, we have the documentation that they are late on their current rent and can be evicted for that alone.”
The judge replied: “I am not a bankruptcy judge, and I don’t have the documentation. Go back to the federal court and bring me the papers.”
So, we drove a mile-and-a-half down the road to the federal courthouse. They didn’t have any record of a bankruptcy dismissal. We should come back later. At this point, we called a bankruptcy attorney. He answered a few questions for free and said he would file for a “Release of Stay” (removing us from the order of inaction) for $400.
At each point in this process, we learned more.
We didn’t know we could file for a Release of Stay, or we would have as soon as Peter and Tara’s rent was late in March. We asked the attorney about the dismissal, and he said he would call the courthouse to check on it. He called us back the next day. The movement for dismissal had been sitting on someone’s desk for a couple of weeks (since well before our eviction hearing). He was able to talk to the right person and get it stamped and put in the computer in ten minutes. We could now evict.
With copies of the paperwork in hand, we once again petitioned to have our eviction reheard. We finally got on the docket for the end of April.
The judge heard our case and ordered Peter and Tara out of the house. He gave them three days, the minimum allowed by law.
Three days passed — and they were still in the house.
At this point, Peter and Tara were in violation of the court order, but there was nothing we could do ourselves. We had to go back to the courthouse and file to “induce a Writ of Eviction”. In other words, we needed further court documentation that we were allowed to call the Sheriff for removal.
The clerks were horrified that we were kicking people out of their home. I think after the judge tells people to leave, most people actually do. But they were underestimating our tenants! With scandalized looks and a couple sidelong glances, the clerks did the paperwork and handed it back. Then the Writ of Eviction was taken across town again to be filed with the County Sheriff for a physical removal.
The law wins?
On May 14, we met the Sheriff at the house to find the tenants finally packing to move. The law said we had to give them a full work day to get their stuff moved. We agreed that May 14 was it, changed the locks, and asked the deputy to look around (in case they did malicious damage).
After the deputy left, Tara chewed me out for embarrassing her and said, because of it, she wouldn’t pay the water bill. When I informed her that after not having paid rent in four months, I didn’t exactly expect her to pay the water bill, her response was, “Peter didn’t pay the rent, not me.” Uh…what? This goes back to the mental gymnastics people go through to determine “the right thing”: She had been living in my house without paying rent since mid January, but since paying rent was her husband’s responsibility, she was entitled to righteous indignation (and now she could take the high road and not pay for half a year worth of water! How fortunate for her).
We returned to the house to find it unlocked, the garage door open, trash stacked six feet high in the garage, and everything of value we’d left for the house (paint, tools, replacement fixtures) gone.
Not surprised, we called the police, who said that since the door was left open, we had no way to prove who took our things. Therefore, they wouldn’t even call Peter and Tara to ask if they knew what happened to our stuff. (Yes, I know leaving stuff there was stupid, which I told my husband well before this. He finally learned his lesson, and now keeps things for the rental in our garage).
Four months, six days off work, $6000 in rent, $850 in water, $150 in court costs, two trips to the dump, a week of cleaning, and $300 of stolen stuff later, we finally had our house back. It took thirteen trips to a courthouse (either county or federal), which wound up costing us about a half day of vacation every ten days.
We turned the house over to a rental management company because we decided they earn their keep with one eviction. My husband chose one with a lot of units that we saw at court every time we were there. With jobs, a kid, and my husband in school, it wasn’t possible to be as responsive as we needed to be. And the time commitment of a bad eviction like this one is severely draining when you have other responsibilities.
Creditors have a face
I didn’t write this story to whine and complain. I know this is part of doing business. Peter and Tara weren’t stealing from me because they didn’t like me; they simply saw themselves as victims of the world, and they were taking from someone they saw as able to afford it — their own little story of Robin Hood. They had the need, and we had the means.
When people speak of bankruptcy, they usually speak of the debtor in human terms and the creditors in faceless terms. I have heard people essentially say “The debtors are just trying to get by and the creditors are mean [somehow forcing credit on people] and/or should know better [because they allowed people with bad credit to owe them money].”
But I am a creditor, and I’m just trying to get by and make a good life for myself and my family. By not paying their rent or allowing me to find new tenants, Peter and Tara forced us to cover all our expenses out of pocket. This had real and serious consequences for my family. (How many of you could afford $5000 in mortgage payments plus cleaning/repairs without feeling some pain?)
I grew up below the poverty line with divorced parents. My husband grew up in a trailer park. His father was (and likely still is) a drug abuser and dealer. We aren’t heirs to a fortune, and we certainly aren’t Chase or Citibank. We put ourselves through college for a better life than our families. We work really hard to get ahead. We live financially prudent lives. But I know other landlords who weren’t as prudent. They didn’t have a big enough emergency fund, and they were ruined by a large expense such as ours. In those cases, bankruptcy frequently begets bankruptcy.
When a dentist builds a crown, he is likely a creditor. When a propane tank is filled, the company is a creditor. When a house has any kind of upgrade or large repair, credit is usually at least partially involved. Just about anyone can be a creditor.
Part of the most recent bankruptcy reform bill is to weed out repeat filers and other people who abuse the system. Before reform, there was nothing to keep Peter and Tara from refiling as soon as their case was dismissed. Now there’s a mechanism in place to look at refilers more closely if they file twice within a year. Either way, it still bugs me that it took so long for such a blatantly bad filing to be dismissed. The fact that they weren’t eligible due to a previous bankruptcy should have meant that the court wouldn’t even let them file in the first place. That’s a big part of my problem with bankruptcy — not the people that file, but how easy it is to abuse once you understand the system. After an experience like this, I’m disillusioned.
Bankruptcy has a place, but please remember that creditors have a face too.
Reminder: This is a story from one of your fellow readers. Please be nice. After nearly a decade of blogging, I have a thick skin, but it can be scary to put your story out in public for the first time. Remember that this guest author isn’t a professional writer, and is just learning about money like you are. Ranch house photo by joguldi.
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Welcome also to the life a community banker…some of us have faces and responsibilities and are not a big bank thousands of miles away.
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premeditated, calculated theft from you. they knew exactly what they were doing. wow.
sociopaths.
reminds me of the movie Pacific Heights.
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I’m sorry that you had to go through all that. We rent single-family homes in central Canada and feel fortunate that we’ve only had one spectacularly bad tenant. Our lesson? Don’t exchange free rent for renovation work unless you’ve worked with the contractor several times before… and even then, don’t.
We moved away from our properties, which forced us to hire a property manager, and I couldn’t be happier with the results. I couldn’t imagine renting houses out without a property manager.
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This mirrors our experience as “landlords” to a “T”. Previous poster was absolutely right. They knew what they were doing and I am sure they are continuing to do the same thing to each landlord unlucky enough to trust them.
We sold all of our rentals and made a nice profit. Haven’t bothered to look back since!
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I like the idea of having rental property as a form of diversification. Let’s say you have a paid off house when you turn 65. You have an asset in the house itself and then recurring revenue with the rent.
However, stories like this are certainly the downside. Sounds like hiring a property management company is a good way to go.
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I’m a renter at an apartment with my bf, but we’re not bad renters, not all people are bad renters. Anyway I’m glad that you’ve gotten rid of the nightmare couple, it sounds to me like renting is such a hassle, I’d never do it myself.
The clerks had no reason to give you a hard time either, you had your reasons, I’m sorry you had this experience and I hope you never have this situation again.
Good luck to you and your family.
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Thanks for a fascinating post! I disagree with ladykemma2, who claims that the bad tenants are “sociopaths.” No, they are ordinary people with bad ethics, who feel that their own misfortune (and/or irresponsibility) justifies screwing over others. Sadly, such people are common.
As a owner of a single rental property (my former residence, as is the case with Shara), I keep rent attractively low and the house in great shape so that I can carefully screen the many applicants who want to rent it when it becomes available.
Not very lucrative in the short run, but this approach saves lots of hassles in the long.
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“…renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters.”
This is a little harsh. There are many good reasons to rent even if you are perfectly capable of obeying the law and honoring contracts you sign.
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Wow, what a fantastic and well-written article. Thanks!
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I agree with Peter. I have rented for the past 8 years, not because of bad credit but because I’ve moved around so much.
And while I agree to remember a creditor’s face in these stories, don’t forget that not all creditors are inherently good. My last rental company (a locally owned business with fewer than 100 units) intentionally tried to keep my deposit for no legitimate reason. After a letter written by an attorney friend threatening a law suit, accompanied with photos of my moveout, I finally got my money back.
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“Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.”
Well, no one is perfect! As a renter I have to stick up for those of us who are good tenants. Some of us leave places better than they were when we moved in. Some of us do the right thing and don’t steal from our landlords. It’s too bad the poster wasn’t able to have the expeience of a good tenant.
There are a number of reasons people rent rather than own besides poor credit. Some people simply don’t want to own a home and have all of the obligtions that go with it. My husband and I currently live in a state we do not want to remain in for the next ten or even five years. We are here for family reasons and so that I can finish grad school. We want to move in the next two years. It simply doesn’t make sense for us to buy, especially with the housing market being so unstable. We need to be able to move easily without losing money on a house that won’t sell or is sold too soon.
It is a common perception that renters are low quality people who will behave as the poster’s nightmare tenants did. As with any generalization or stereotype there are those who simply don’t fit the mold.
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Agreed with comment #5.
The character of renters is firstly completely dependent on the LOCAL character of the real estate market. In cities with high housing costs MOST people are renters, lots of them “respectable” professionals. And not everyone has plans to root permanently where they are. We shouldn’t stereotype creditors, it’s true, but we also shouldn’t stereotype their payors.
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Thanks for the post – Although I’m sad you had a bad experience with those tenants, I am really encouraged that in the end you did what was right, and were responsible enough to be prepared to take care of the situation (even though you had to pay $$ out of pocket to do so.)
I also appreciate your compassionate ear towards your tenants from time to time.
My wife and I are relocating to Chicago in January and sold our “dream home” in Nebraska in days (when we thought it would take months…) We find ourselves renting for 6 months, and have really appreciated our Landlord because of their willingness to understand our situation – allowing us to rent a great, clean townhome that otherwise wouldn’t have been available to us due to the contractual stipulations.
Moving from a house that was in the top 20% in value (where we live) to a place that rents for $800/month was a huge step down – however, it’s allowing us to pay off the remainder of our small debts and get to a debt-free lifestyle before moving on!
Thanks Again!
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I can totally identify with the author. I had a house and when a new job moved me to another city I needed to sell. Unfortunately no one was buying so I rented. The first couple who lived in my house paid the rent on time for several years but when they got a divorce they moved out. After causing about $7000 in damage – new windows, new doors, a new roof on the porch, new carpet, cleaning and painting throughout the house. Apparently the split wasn’t amicable- lol. The next tenants didn’t pay their rent and it took forever to evict them. After again fixing the place up, new carpet(oil and grease throughout the house), repainting the rooms, landscaping, etc I put it on the market. I sold the house for $42000 and had to bring $10000 to the table just to pay off the mortgage.
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Thank you for your story, it really is rare to hear the other side of it all.
How unfortuneate that you got a horrificly bad couple as tenants.
I’m pretty sure she was not painting all renters with the same brush, just highlighting her own past mistakes, signs to look for, and lessons learned.
As for “Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.” I agree. There are people out there who have been careful with there money, and are renting because that suits them better, whatever their circumstances are. I’m sure the vast majority of those who read this site would fit that discription, but we are a group that is self-selected to be among the best in terms of personal finance. Unfortuneately, there are many many tenants out there who were not so prudent, or fell on hard times in this recession, their credit records marred through no fault of their own, as well as the con-artists who take advantage of the situation. I can see how it could be very hard to weed out the bad one from those who just need a chance.
That’s where the management company is worth it’s weight in gold.
Good luck in your future renting adventures, Shara!
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Shara,
Thank you for writing this article. It was informative to see the bankruptcy/eviction process from an angle not normally discussed. I’m still in graduate school so I rent exclusively, and although I’ve always been a good tenant I’ve certainly seen my share of bad ones (many of whom were friends or classmates). It sounds like you’ve learned a lot from the process, but I’m sorry you had to get a lesson in such a hard way.
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The moral of the story is bankruptcy sucks. The creditors get messed over (9x’s out of ten that is us- the general public with a savings account). The bankrupt people learn how easy it is (once your credit is ruined- why bother). And moral, overall, goes down the tubes.
But—what is the alternative? debtors’ prison. Isn’t that a huge reason our founding fathers came to this land to begin with- staying out of debtors’ prison?
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One of my co-workers was practically forced into bankruptcy himself due to dealing with a string of bad residential renters. Being a residential landlord seems to be one of those things where even one “mistake” in the form of getting a bad renter can ruin years of investment.
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As a bankruptcy attorney, I can say a large share of the author’s problems could have been avoided if you would have contacted a bankruptcy attorney at the beginning of the process. Bankruptcy is, unfortunately, a very complex area of law, and most state courts have no idea how it works, which causes a lot of problems related to landlord/tenant issues.
To Janette, bankruptcy is a great tool, if it is used right. It should be a last resort, used after all other options are exhausted (and I always explain those options to people, too).
I’ve filed nearly 100 bankruptcies for people, and I’ve only had a couple of people who I thought truly didn’t want to pay their debts.
I have a lot of people who have been making payments on cards for two or three years, at 30% interest, and haven’t made a dent. They’ve paid the principal off about 5 times over. I don’t feel bad filing bankruptcy on those cards. I also have a lot of debtors who voluntarily repay creditors (yes, you can do that) such as doctors, dentists, and other local people they know they’ll deal with again.
Just my two cents…
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Wow, you got royally stiffed. Although I’ve been a renter as well, I do agree with you for the most part. There’s a desire for stability in people who are home owners that you don’t see in some renters.
Prior to my ex going through bankruptcy about a year ago, he also stopped making child support payments for more than a year. He didn’t realize that child support isn’t included in a bankruptcy so I won’t be stiffed as you have been. But he also owes his 80 yo mother over $75k, I’m sure she won’t live to see it.
It just appears to be the mentality of many people who choose – unless there are very unusual circumstances – to use bankruptcy as a way of getting out of paying for what they’ve received. I’ve only known half a dozen people that have declared bankruptcy, but every one of them racked up their debt as much as possible before filing. A couple of them quit their jobs as well. It’s mind boggling.
I guess the moral of the story is to do your due diligence and don’t assume that people are either responsible or ethical.
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Thank you, Shara, for putting a human side to creditors. I come from an entrepreneurial family and growing up with a small business, I have seen this rationalization more times than I can count. Although I still believe that most people do the right thing, there are some bad apples that ruin it for everyone. Best of luck to you getting back on your feet.
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I am disappointed that two people from such humble beginnings would make a blanket statement
“renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters.” My inside voice is cursing your arrogance right now. You know why I rent? I make $32k (Canadian) a year and I can’t even buy a trailer 50 km away from the city for under 90K yet I have no debt, perfect credit and lots of savings. Despite all the problems you had with renters, you should thank your lucky stars that you are in a position to own not one, but two houses.
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Excellent post about the consequences of bankruptcy for human creditors. However, I too found the statement about renters’ records to be unfair. Many of us who rent never wanted obligations like buying/repairing/replacing appliances, roofs, or paying property taxes. We’re perfectly willing to pay for someone else to worry about those things and we care for our apartments like we care for our own property. We have excellent credit, emergency savings, and retirement accounts. Just like choosing or not choosing marriage or children should not define the person, the choice to rent and not buy should not define me as a deadbeat.
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I will stick up what she said about renters rarely having clean records. Part of it depends on the area you live in. I was discussing our investment property with my cousin, who also has units, but it a different area of the country. His criteria for renting to someone was far higher than mine because it makes more financial sense to rent in his high cost of housing state than mine. Sure there are people with great records, but in my area of the country they are greatly outnumbered by those that whose records are spotty, and you want to ask yourself how long you want to wait hoping for that better tenant. We have had our house for two years, and had two leases on it. Both sets of tenants had credit issues, the first set were 22 year old tattoo-covered kids, three had no credit to speak of, and one was paying off a mountain of debt that he said his father had incurred in his name. The next tenants had a divorce-related bankruptcy, some small unpaid bills that they said were fraudulent, and a few other red flags that we didn’t pick up on. The first set were great, we had a few pet issues, but they were pretty much model tenants and I wish they could have stayed for years and years. The second set stopped paying rent after 5 months, told me they would move out of their own accord after 6 months, finally left at 7 months and left an APPALLING amount of damage. Both sets of tenants were completely pleasant and friendly, but I realize now that one set lied to my face almost every time I spoke to them. It cost me a third of what it cost these people, and I am thankful for that. I agree that the common perception of renters as low quality people is unfair, and good or bad credit doesn’t always give you the complete picture. There are many people hammered by a divorce-initiated bankruptcy will make great tenants, or my poor tenant who I’m guessing is still paying the $10,000 of debt his father dumped on him while he is going to school and working part time. The problem is that for those people, the risk of renting to an unscrupulous tenant is far greater than the reward for taking a chance on the guy with poor credit that will be a great tenant.
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“Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.”
I’m a renter, but not by choice. I’m not perfect either, but I do take responsibility for my obligations and pay them on time.
After my divorce I wanted to file for bankruptcy because I felt overwhelmed by my obligations and being a single mom. (Consumer Credit Counselors wouldn’t help me either). I couldn’t file because I wasn’t behind on any of my obligations.
I moved into a “more affordable apartment”. I am still here after 8 yrs (only because I don’t like moving). The landlord is as cheap as this apartment complex. Getting him to replace a 30 yr old stove and refrigerator was like pulling teeth. I had to “break” them in order to get the antiques replaced.
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“Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.”
I would have said older renters or renters with families – there are exceptions, but it is a good rule of thumb.
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“Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.”
I disagree strongly with this as well. I’m sorry you had a bad experience but not every (or even most) renters are like that.
I rent because renting is much cheaper in my area than buying. I did the math, it would take *28 years* to come out ahead on a house if I never moved. Plus, the houses that I priced out, by the way, were in a neighborhood in Nashville that became a lake due to flooding in May. Yeah…not buying any time soon.
I’d rather leave the risk of flooding, tornadoes, termites, market downturn, a neighborhood just plain going downhill, etc to someone else. It doesn’t make sense in my mind to buy unless you have the resources to deal with those risks, ie, a you’re a REIT.
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+1 here for the renter-by-choice-thank-you-very-much category.
My sister and brother-in-law thought it would be a good investment when they were first married to buy some trailers and rent out. Unsurprisingly, it turned out to be an awful decision, as many readers can imagine.
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Thanks for sharing your story Shara, I think that’s why so many readers here have been annoyed by the casual attitude some people have towards bankruptcy. A bankruptcy doesn’t make a debt vanish into thin air, a bankruptcy means that someone else had to take the loss. If someone doesn’t pay a hospital bill for example, the hospital passes that cost onto all of the patients and insurance companies that DO pay their bills. If someone doesn’t pay a department store debt, the store might raise the cost of its goods. In this particular case, Shara took a big loss, otherwise we’re all paying for it in some way or another.
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Another scary story of people gaming the system to stay in houses can be heard in Act II of this recent This American Life show, “Held Hostage”
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/409/held-hostage
amazing and scary, makes me happy I’m a renter – Thanks for the great piece Shara!
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I’m glad to see this article. It’s often hard to understand the process for a creditor, or think of them in human terms, even if you’ve met them face to face. I’m glad also that you kept referring to your renters with names (fake I hope) rather than something like “our renters.” It’s important in all situations to remember who you are dealing with in human terms. Even if you are trying to kick them out of the place in which they live. Too often people want to strip humanity from business, but you can’t do that. Your doing a horrible thing to someone by kicking them out of their home, but they are doing something horrible to you by staying there without paying their fair share. If everybody realizes the human side of their actions, then nobody gets emotionally hurt. The problem is when people start to demonize the people they do business with that aren’t being cooperative. In this case, that’s what Peter and Tara did with you. They saw you as the big bad landlord who just wanted their money, and thus, they had no problem taking from you what they wanted. It doesn’t appear from the article that you ever did that, and I’m glad to see that. You saw them as people, and even excused their actions at one point. This is a great piece not just on the human side of creditors, but also on how to handle a bad business situation with humility and respect.
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I have to disagree like several others with the bad renters line. We are a military family and we have been moved 6 times in 9 years (most of the time distances over 1000 miles away each time). We need to rent for obvious reasons. We are both graduate school educated, I teach personal finance at local colleges, and we have 3 dogs (2 chihuahuas and 1 boxer lab mix). We have 700+ scores, we provide copies of 2 years of cancelled checks showing we pay rent on time, we provide photos and contact info for previous places we have been, and an asset list to show we have cash to pay our expenses for a year without working. We will be getting stationed over seas till retirement in about 2 years, at which point we will be living in military housing. So when we do come back to the states, we will have been renting from someone for almost 20 years. I don’t think that makes us bad people. I hate to think of moving, cleaning the house, throwing away junk, mowing the yard one last time, etc, AND then have to worry about staging for buyers, finding a realtor, deal with buyer inspections, offers, counter offers, etc etc. I am thankful I am a renter on move out days! We have always gotten our deposit back, and very often left the place better than we got it. We painted the inside (with lanlord permission) of one house a soft beige (because the bright orange in our bedroom was killing me). We routinely have the carpets cleaned both when we move in (if it had not already been done) and then when we leave. We hire someone to do a deep clean after we leave and after we have cleaned just to be sure. So there is a group of people out there who are good people but just alittle too “transient” shall we say to buy a home and put down roots. And after I have read so many stories on here, I may never buy a house at all because of the major debt and obligations involved. We enjoy our freedom and seeing various parts of the world and buying a house would definitely slow that down.
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this could be my landlord story also.
- months and $100′s to get the order – in my state, you can’t get rid of people with certain age kids without a “waiting period”.
$1000′s for the police to supervise the eviction, the movers to move the stuff ( I can’t “touch” the renter’s stuff legally in my state) and the locksmith.
and several more thousnads to repair the weeks of nonflushed tiolets , the hundreds of nail holes in each wall and the quarts of motor oil poured on every available surface of the house. Oh and the lawn- where the renter came by the first night after the exiction to ride his motorcycle around for a while.
I would never recommand anyone but a landlord- one bad experience is enough to wipe out any profit you would make for several years.
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Thank you for sharing another perspective. Very well-written.
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Keep in mind that some people are renters by choice, not wanting the hassles that come with ownership, though the latter might make more sense financially. For many, like myself, we rent because we never stay on one area for a long enough time to warrant ownership, yet we pay our bills on time and keep the place nice (for the most part…). Choosing the right renters seems to be the hardest and yet most important part of the process..
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“Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.”
When you say something like that, you shouldn’t wonder why people hate creditors like yourself. Not everyone rents because they have to. A lot of people rent because they don’t want the responsibility of ownership, or they move around a lot because of their work. Don’t criminalize people simply because they rent.
Let’s not forget that there are a lot of young people who are recent college grads that don’t have the credit history to think about buying a place yet. It’s like the age old dilemma — you can’t get the job without the experience, but you can’t get the experience without the job. Painting all renters with the same brush is insulting. I bought a place just so I wouldn’t have to deal with landlords with that same mentality.
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Like several other commenters, I take issue with Shara’s claim that “renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters”. During the editing process, I warned her this statement would be controversial.
My own feeling is that there are many many reasons to rent, and while a large portion of renters may have problems, I doubt that “most” of them do.
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Ditto #28 Alex.
In fact, it was our landlord who screwed us after our last move. He ignored our requests to fix things while we lived there (leaky toilet, etc) and then charged us for them after we moved out.
I’m very sorry you had to experience that.
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I was a renter for 10yrs and a landlord for 8. Although I’ve had a few close calls with bad tenants I realize reading your story how lucky I’ve been. Yes, I believe it’s luck that I’ve not had a nightmare tenant.
I was one of those renters that left the place cleaner than I found it and had a couple landlords that kept the deposit anyways. I got smart and at the initial move-in took photos and did the same at move out. I never had a deposit held after that. I think just the fact the landlord saw me doing it gave him/her the message not to screw with me.
I do the same thing with my renters. We sign the lease at the unit and than I take photos and email them off a set so they can refer to them at move out. I also tell them that I DO NOT want there deposit so please clean the unit so I don’t have to hire someone to do it.
Good luck!
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Thanks for sharing this story Shara! I did find your generalization about renters a little silly — there are lots of reasons why people with great credit rent:
- Frequent moves to new cities for career advancement (per alex above)
- A stable but unmarried couple not ready to commit to a joint investment
- People who recognized that the US was in a housing bubble and were smart enough to sit it out!
- People re-locating and (smartly) renting to know the area before buying
- People who lived in cost-prohibitive cities (NYC, SFO)
- The many people who don’t fit the recommended “Are you going to stay in this location for 5+ years?” test (and are smart enough not to over-extend themselves)
- People who simply don’t want the burden of a mortgage
Another amazing story of problems with owning real estate was Act II of the recent This American Life episode “Held Hostage” — highly recommended (and scary!)
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“Renters rarely have clean records or most of them wouldn’t be renters. No renter is perfect.”
Another renter who has never been late on rent, has savings and good credit, and has always taken care of my residences. I’ve moved cross-country several times for my job in the 9 years since graduating college.
I think this attitude, that after some point being a renter means something is “wrong” with you, is a big part of why lots of people my age rushed to buy houses, some that they couldn’t afford, and now find themselves in an untenable position once the housing market crashed. Even if they can afford their house, I have friends who now want to move for a job opportunity or to a different area that better reflects their current lifestyle and they are stuck in houses that have lost a ton of value and that they can’t sell. Maybe if renting hadn’t been vilified there wouldn’t be so many foreclosures and bankruptcies today.
Yes, my husband and I eventually hope to settle in one place and purchase a home, but it certainly won’t be in our current city. And, “gasp”, this fall we’ll even begin to raise a child in a RENTAL house! The horror!
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UGH! So sorry you had to deal with all that, and thank you for illuminating the “other side.” Not all creditors are corporations, for sure.
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Holy cow – this is quite a post. Thank you for submitting this side of the story. I’m sorry, Shara, that you went through this – unbelievable.
I rented for 15 years throughout my 20s and part of my 30s and then became a home owner through marriage. Both renting and owning have been fine and each satisfying in their own ways – one offered freedom/mobility and the other has offered a deeper connection to an area/way of life. I never felt any social stigma for renting – heck, I was just proud to be making it on my own. I really don’t take much issue with the renter/clean record statement Shara made – I understand her point,and it’s probably coming from her personal experience. Let’s lighten up
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What amazes me about people like the renters described in this story is that they likely wouldn’t THINK of shoplifting or holding up a liquor store! In my opinion, the behavior described is simply stealing from the landlord. Ditto using a credit card to purchase things for which one can’t pay. I am appalled by those who rationalize theft at any level.
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Another +1 for the renter by choice category for me too.
I am a 25 year old single woman and all the tasks required for taking care of a house are not for me! Plus, I don’t see myself in this town 10 years from now so it isn’t worth buying.
I would like to say that I’ve run into more issues with bad landlords than I’ve seen landlords with crappy tenants. (Think 5+ days to call anyone to fix my refrigerator after I notified them…then it was 3 more before anyone could come).
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Thanks so much for sharing this story. My husband and (until recently) I work for a financial institution and get so tired of hearing that it’s “okay” or “a smart decision” to not pay a bank back. The bank has real employees with faces as well who will get laid off or not receive well-deserved pay increases because too many people are walking away from their debts. Several of my friends have lost their jobs due to cutbacks as a direct result of this wave of people who have no sense of obligation. All creditors have faces, even those “big banks” have real employees who are impacted.
P.S. Well written article and a great read, but commas and periods go INSIDE quotation marks.
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As someone who has entertained the idea of being a landlord – I have to wonder about renter horror stories. Isn’t it the landlord’s responsibility to screen potential tenants (ie check references, credit etc?). The landlord certainly has the right to say ‘no’. And if the a landlord is desperate enough to rent to anyone, then isn’t that a red flag that perhaps they should get out of the business of landlord-ing?
I appreciate this post – and how it highlights the human side (of creditors and debtors)… and it gives me a healthy fear of becoming a landlord. It is a business, and there should be a logical way to identify and market to your ‘dream tenant’ – just as you would identify and market to your target customer when you run a business.
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We’re renting a house because we’re in a town temporarily. The folks we’re renting our house to have not given us any trouble (yet… there’s a month to go). They are also in that town temporarily. Buying makes no sense.
We did have offers from very sketchy people with no real income to speak of, but we turned them down. Thing is, lots of other landlords also turned them down. It isn’t that there are more of them, but that people who are great renters get their first choice rental and people who aren’t get turned down over and over.
We rented in Boston because when we started we didn’t have a down payment even though we had steady income and we were only going to be there at most 6 years. By the time we had enough for a down-payment we weren’t going to be there much longer and would far rather rent near work than buy and have to commute. (And even though 0% down adjusted rate mortgages were the thing to do back in the day, we were far too stable and old-fashioned to do such gambling.)
Out in Los Angeles, it seems like it’s the renters who are doing fine financially and the buyers who are the ones declaring bankruptcy and foreclosing, among the people we know (virtually… people don’t discuss this stuff IRL).
Like others said, *maybe* renters are no good on average in areas with a low cost to purchasing and no big universities. But that blanket statement doesn’t cover the places where most people rent.
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Some story. Well told. Informative.
I was a renter for 4 years. I look on those days fondly as they were really nice places, well kept and inexpensive to live in.Owning a house now, I’m much more appreciative of the trust, money and work that went into managing those apartments.
I’m sorry this happened to you. Breach of contract in any situation is awkward, rentals more so I think. The whole multiple bankruptcy is a new twist.
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Shara, thank you for sharing your story. For me reading it, I felt a sense of kinship for what you went through, as my husband and I have gone through the same, so it’s not as uncommon as people might think. I’m sure there are good renters out there, but we haven’t seen any. In the four brief years that we’ve owned our “flip gone bad,” we have had to put (and I am not exaggerating), thousands into the home to repair tenant damage (we’re on our third). Last year, our rental cost us almost $10,000 in repairs and lost rent, most of which was paid for on a credit card. We now have a Section 8 tenant and the state pays us pretty much 90% of market rent on time every month. We have another rental in Mobile, Alabama and our tenant pays less than market rate rent LATE every month, but we get it. Today is the 27th and we are owed half the rent from June (which is in the mail, I’m told). Both properties are fully mortgaged and under water, so there’s no getting out of it. If I had to do it again, THERE IS NO WAY I would ever be a landlord. It is not for the faint of heart, and definitely not for the soft-hearted. Shara, if you can get Section 8, it is well worth the hoops you have to jump through.
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