Kris and I pulled the plug on our television last week. We canceled cable, gave our DVD player to her sister, and moved the television to the workshop until we can find a buyer. We’re now officially TV-free.
Sort of.
We haven’t given up TV shows and DVDs entirely — we’re just consuming this entertainment via other methods. Namely, we use:
- iTunes subscriptions for Glee, The Office, 30 Rock, The Biggest Loser, and The Amazing Race. Plus, we occasionally rent movies via the iTunes Store.
- A Netflix subscription. We get three discs at a time (and I’m lobbying to drop to one disc at a time), which also allows us to access the site’s streaming content.
- Hulu for classic TV programs like Adam-12 and The Mary Tyler Moore Show
The Netflix subscription costs Kris $20 a month, and our iTunes subscriptions cost about $215 per year. So, we’re still paying $455/year for home entertainment, but that’s less than half what we were paying five years ago.
No, I’m not able to watch sports on TV. But most of the time, I don’t miss it. For big games, I can always go to a sports bar or a friend’s house. I’m not sure what I’ll do for the Olympics and the World Cup, both of which I enjoy. I’ll worry about it when the time comes.
This latest move is the culmination of a years-long transition. We’ve been gradually weaning ourselves from TV. A couple of weeks ago, I realized that neither of us had actually turned on the television since before we left for Italy in September. That’s right: For five months, I paid for a cable package we didn’t use. That seemed like a clear indication that it was time to finally cut the cord.

Conscious Spending
It may seem strange to some of you that Kris and I are willing to spend thousands of dollars on trips to Europe and Africa, but we’re unwilling to pay $15 a month for basic cable. Actually, that’s the point.
The heart of frugality is choosing to spend on the things that are important to you while cutting back ruthlessly on the things that aren’t. Ramit Sethi calls this conscious spending, which is a fantastic way to describe it. Conscious spending implies that you’re actively choosing to spend on some things and not on others.
Contrast this with how most people spend. (And, in truth, how even financially-savvy folks spend a lot of their money.) We tend to spend on reflex. We buy things because we’re expected to, because everyone else does. We spend to have what others have. We sign up for gym memberships that we never use, subscribe to magazines we never read, and pay for golf clubs that get buried in the garage. We make impulse purchases at the grocery store — or even on large items, like computers and cars. Most of the time, people spend without thinking.
But with conscious spending, you evaluate every purchase. You vote with your dollars.
I’m saying, for instance, that I’m willing to spend several thousand dollars for three weeks in Africa because this is an experience I value. In exchange, I accept that I’m giving up television, and that I’ve delayed replacing my car. (I’m in no hurry to upgrade my Mini, which is a good thing. I opted to drain my car-replacement fund so that I could afford this vacation.)
Conscious Spending in Action
To put conscious spending in action, I’ve learned to ask myself questions before I buy:
- Will I use this? I’m often tempted by neat gadgets and pretty toys. But as fun and nostalgic as a pocketwatch might seem, is it something I’ll actually use? (Answer: No. Unfortunately, this is an instance where I didn’t exercise conscious spending. Now I have a pocketwatch I barely wear.)
- Can I get this cheaper — or free — elsewhere? Can I borrow it from a friend? Can I find it used at a thrift store? If it’s something I have to buy new, will someplace else have it for a lower price?
- Can I wait to buy this? Why do I need to buy it today? I’ve found that I can do a lot to control impulse spending by using the 30-day rule: If I want something, I write it down; if I still want it 30 days later, I consider buying it. By waiting, I give myself a chance to cool off.
- Why am I buying this? Does it fill a need? Or is it just something I want?
- Is there something else I’d rather spend the money on? This last question has been a powerful motivator for me in recent years. First, I wanted to use my money to get out of debt. Then, I saved for my Mini Cooper. Now, I usually want to save my money for travel. By reminding myself of my priorities, I’m able to avoid a lot of stupid spending.
Again, not all of my spending has been conscious over the past couple of years. I still make plenty of impulse buys. (The pocketwatch I mentioned above is a good example.) But whenever possible, I aim to analyze all of my purchases.
Conscious spending isn’t restrictive; it’s liberating. It can help you recognize when your spending is aligned with your values, and when it’s just being made out of habit.
Now I’m looking for ways to reduce my cell-phone bill. I’m paying $80 a month for my iPhone plan. When my contract expires in a couple of months, I want to move to something cheaper. Doing this could free $20 or $40 or $60 a month. That’s money that I can use for more important priorities — like exploring South America in 2012!
This weekend, we hired a friend’s 12-year-old to help with yardwork. As we cut blackberry canes and pruned arborvitae hedges, Ian explained that he’s saving his money. He wants to buy a remote-control car, but his dad persuaded him to hold on to his cash until he’s sixteen, at which time he can buy a motorcycle.
Ian really wants the R/C car, but he wants the motorcycle more, so he’s being patient. He’s willing to wait four years to save for his goal. That, my friends, is conscious spending in action.
Later in the day, I talked to another boy who wants an iPod — but he’s not willing to save for it. He’d rather spend his money today on videogames and bubblegum. When I tried to talk to him about it, he didn’t see any connection between the fifty cents he spent on a pizza-parlor videogame and the iPod he wants so badly.
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@Raghu #146
Your recommended site, atdhe.net appears
SEIZED BY ICE- HOMELAND SECURITY INVESTIGATIONS
for having their way with copyrights, basically (I won’t quote the whole thing since it’s a picture and the text can be copypasted).
Anyway, If in the US, stick to ESPN3 for online sports. It’s 100% legal and free with many ISPs. Plus, our creative economy depends on the preservation of intellectual property rights, so this sort of thievery has repercussions.
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Wooohooo! Congrats on the NO TV!!! I hate tv. I feel like it sucks up my life. Then when I watch shows because I actively look for them on the internet I know they are something I am interested in and worth watching!
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If it wasn’t for college football, my cable would be gone in a heart beat. I would love it if I could just pay for ESPN and ESPN2, as they are the only channels I watch on a regular basis other than the free channels. Sadly, my ISP does not get ESPN3.
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We do almost the same thing. We don’t do the iTunes thing but we do use Netflix and don’t have cable. Sometimes I miss it and I wonder what I will do at the Olympics but it still works. When we watch the NFL we normally go to a friends house or make it work some other way. You can watch stuff like that on the internet too.
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Brenton- Agreed! My husband and I hung on to cable for a long time because of the sports. ESPN3 finally set us free!
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JD – you say you’d “never” watch the over-the-air channels, that’s exactly wher the Olympucs (NBC) and the Wold Cup (ABC) are.
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I watched this past world cup online. I assume you’ll be able to do again so in four years!
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I too cut Cable. The biggest trouble for me was the high speed Internet. The only other option was DSL through AT&T. I waited until AT&T offered a sale. I now have better Internet then Comcast ever offered and I am paying less then $20 a month for what Comcast would have charged close to $60. My total savings is about a hundred a month when you factor in not paying Cable as well as the inflated price for Internet.
I stream Netflix from my X-Box (I’d have preferred an Apple TV, but I got this as a gift). Another benefit of the X-Box though is it comes with an ESPN app. I don’t watch a lot of sports, but I like college football. There are thousands of sporting events free. The commercials are even cut out. I watched the Sugar Bowl with Ohio State on it. As others have said, in my area you can get many sporting events over free broadcast TV. In fact, in my area there is probably close to fifty free broadcast over the air channels. Companies like NBC offer multiple channels over the air as opposed to how they just used to offer one.
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Hi my name is bob.. and i’m a spend-a-holic.
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I just now read all the comments. I’m in a little shock over #60 suggesting that if you have company over, you MUST have tv in order to entertain them. Huh?
How about good old conversation, playing board games, or just going for a walk? I hate competing with the tv when I’m visiting with someone. To me, it is the height of inconsideration. If I took my valuable time to come and see someone, then the least they can do is turn off their tv and talk to me. If not, I’ll gladly go home and spend my time doing fun stuff at home. (I have no problem filling my time at home.)
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Completely off topic, but for all those with smart phones, it’s incredibly rude to come over for a visit and sit with it in your hand (or even your pocket) just in case somebody has to reach you. If you came to visit with us, have the courtesy to actually be present. Otherwise I get the feeling you’re just here until someone texts you with a better offer.
Stepping off soapbox now.
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I don’t get that you feel comfortable what you’ve done about home entertainment.
What we do with our lives should ultimately feel comfortable, otherwise we’ll pay for it in some other way, such as being dissatisfied, and not know why. Of course, you may grow into your new entertainment life style. But, we have to be careful that our decisions are true to ourselves.
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A lot of our spending habits are tied to temperament which is how we perceive and judge things. There are 4 basic temperaments only one of which is inherently conducive to spending discipline. For the others you need to have developed a consciousness about money which I guess ties back to this theme. I once used a temperament online tool at http://www.thenewtemperament.com should anyone be interested.
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So you watch all your iTunes shows and DVDs on your computer? I’m on my computer all day and if nothing else, i want to be out of my office to watch my free, with a converter box, TV and DVDs. Also makes it much more comfortable when watching with another person.
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Another thing you can ask yourself in order to be consciously spending is how long it will take you to earn the dollars to buy the item. When you think about your own labor and the time at the office, or the factory, or wherever you work, it really makes you stop and think about the worthiness of the purchase.
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Twenty years ago we built our home on a couple of acres 20 out from the suburbs. There was no cable available and it was before the days of digit internet anything. Our only options were to install a giant 10′ diameter satelite dish (remember those?) or take whatever was free off the airwaves via rabbit ears or an antena on the roof. I couldn’t stand the thought of screwing anything to the brand new shingles so we decided to try living with whatever the tv’s own antena could pickup. We got 3-4 channels and decided it was actually all we needed. There are many other options available now, but we’ve continued on taking whatever is free – at this point I can’t see adding a bill to our spending plan when we already get enough to entertain us.
Our two financial goals are early retirement in Dec 2020 (at 57/60) and a major annual trip with the kids while they are still at home. Yes the travel is delaying the retirement by ~3yrs but is a choice we’ve consciously made. To that end, every other dollar of spending is under the microscope. Every dollar wasted on crap and nonsense is a dollar taken from the next trip or moving up the retirement date. When you have clearly defined goals it sure makes it easy to prioritize where your dollars go. Do we really need that $20 fast food meal while out running Saturday errands, or do we take 5 minutes before leaving and pack a picnic for the road? In the back of my mind I know the addmission price at the Louvre in Paris is $20. Forgettable heat lamp burgers vs. seeing the Mona Lisa? Um, really not a tough decision. Do I need those great $100 shoes or would I rather use it for a gondola ride the next time we’re in Venice? Again, no contest.
The idea of signing up for any recurring $100 monthly bill would drive me crazy, since I’ve calculated that for every $100 additional that I save moves up our early retirement date by a day. Everytime that $100 went out of the account I’d be imagining what I could have been doing on the lost day.
I love that you spent thousands on your trips but won’t spend $15 on tv. I completly get that. Many of my friends don’t understand our choices, but that’s okay, they don’t have to. It is slightly annoying though when they seem to throw money at every indulgence imaginable and then say “wow, I wish we could afford to take our kids to Europe for a month like that!”. Actually, you probably could if you made it a priority. Just saying.
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