For years, Get Rich Slowly readers have given me grief over my charitable giving. Or, more precisely, my lack of it. I was raised in a home that gave neither money nor time to help others. As I struck out on my own, I never picked up the habit of giving. At first, this was because I had myself to worry about. I was deep in debt. How could I afford to help others when I couldn’t even help myself? But after I paid off my debt in 2007, I still didn’t contribute.
My reluctance to donate to charity has stemmed from several sources:
- First, as I mentioned, I never learned the habit.
- Second, I worry about how organizations spend their money. I’m aware of sites like Charity Navigator, which rates charities based on efficiency. But these sites don’t tell the whole story.
- Third, I’m not a fan of charities with ulterior motives. I don’t want to support groups that push religious or political agendas. Feeding those in need shouldn’t come with a call to convert to Christianity, for instance.
So, for a long time, it seemed easiest to do nothing.
Part of the world
Over the past year, however, things have changed. I’ve begun to think more about my responsibility to the world as a whole. And I’ve had some experiences that seem to be steering me toward…something.
- Last spring, Kris and I spent a Saturday volunteering at the Oregon Food Bank with other folks from our alma mater, Willamette University. I liked this. A lot. Contributing my time and energy felt tangible and consequential. It wasn’t like sending my money into a void. I could see the results right there before my eyes.
- On our trip to Africa, the tour group visited the Chinotimba Government School in Victoria Falls, Zimbabwe. Before we left the school, we had a chance to donate school supplies. Kris had brought some pens, pencils, small notebooks, and inflatable globes. The school principal, who collected the money and supplies our group donated, seemed touched and grateful. At other stops in Namibia and South Africa, I was moved by how people made do with far fewer resources than we’re accustomed to in the U.S.
- During the past three months, I’ve had several conversations with friends who have actually participated in volunteer tourism or extended service projects. My friend Tim, for instance, has done some work for Room to Read, which aims to improve education around the world. Karin spent some time teaching in Senegal. And just this weekend, my friend Kara told me about the semester she’d spent in Ghana while she was in college.
Because of these events — and because of your prompting — I’ve taken the time to research organizations that I’m willing to support. I’ve been asking myself what causes are worth my time and money, what changes I want to see in the world.
For instance, I feel strongly that the most important thing we can do to help those who are struggling is to improve education — especially for girls. (Educating girls is the single most powerful and most effective way to address global poverty. When you improve the status of women in a culture, you improve the standard of living.)
Also, I want to encourage the “teach a person to fish” approach instead of just giving a person a fish. That is, I want to support groups that will help others help themselves instead of organizations that only donate dollars. Plus, I’m wary of unintended consequences. Providing food and water are good, of course, because these things save lives. But without education, I worry that such “solutions” just perpetuate problems with overpopulation.
Ready to act
So, after years of hedging, I finally feel ready to give. I’m taking some baby steps. First, I’ve begun to talk with people about the charities they support — and why. By doing this, I’ve found three great causes I can get behind.
- Charity: Water is is a non-profit organization bringing clean and safe drinking water to people in developing nations; 100% of public donations directly fund water projects. (This is one of Chris Guillebeau’s favorite charities.)
- Room to Read partners with local communities throughout the developing world to provide quality educational opportunities by establishing libraries, creating local language children’s literature, constructing schools, and providing education to girls.
- Edge of Seven generates awareness and volunteer support for projects that invest in education, health, and economic opportunity for girls in developing countries. (Here’s the Edge of Seven blog.)
Second, I’ve begun to explore the idea of volunteer tourism. My real millionaire next door does some of this. He spends our winters in New Zealand, where it’s summer, donating his time and energy to help organic farms. Last year, my friend Courtney spent a couple of weeks in Cambodia with her father, who is a dentist. They provided free dental care to rural villagers.
I’d love to chat with other folks who have done this sort of thing — especially in developing nations. I’ve sent away for some literature on the subject, but nothing compares to actually talking with those who have done this sort of thing first-hand. (But I have to wonder: What skills can I, as a writer, offer those in need?)
Finally, I’ve started Awesome People, where I hope to be able to help in a couple of ways. For instance, I want to profile people who are doing amazing work to help improve the lives of others. Also, I intend to donate all of the site’s profits to charities like those I mentioned above.
Fitting the profile
Last Thursday, Kris and I attended an alumni networking event for our college. Because she and I are helping to organize our 20-year class reunion this year (are we really that old?), we sought out Amy, who co-ordinates alumni reunions and events.
Though our conversation began by going over plans for this autumn’s reunion, it quickly veered in another direction. Amy knew that Kris and I just traveled to Africa. That trip was organized by Willamette’s alumni office, and one of our companions was the former director of alumni relations. Amy already knew all about our adventures.
“You know what?” I said. “I think the main thing that came out this trip for me is a readiness to contribute to charity. That’s something I’ve never really done. Except to Willamette, of course.”
We chuckled at that. Amy used to be in charge of the phone drives, in which current students call alumni to hit them up for cash. She knows a lot about fund-raising. In fact, Amy now teaches a class at another local college about fund-raising for non-profits.
I told Amy that I was looking to support groups like Charity: Water, Room to Read, and Edge of 7. “But I hate just sending my money to a charity,” I said. “I feel like I’m just sending it to a black hole. I’d rather give my time or energy, like that Oregon Food Bank volunteer project you organized last year. And what I really find appealing is the idea of volunteer tourism.”
Amy laughed.
“What?” I asked. I was afraid I’d said something stupid.
“It’s nothing,” she said, smiling. “It’s just that you fit the profile so well.”
“What profile?” I asked.
“There are very clear generational profiles for giving,” Amy said. “You fit the profile for our age perfectly.”
“Older people like to write checks,” she explained. “They want to pay people to do the things they can’t do themselves. Younger people want to be in the thick of it. They want to be involved. They want to go places and be a part of the change. Our generation is in the middle. You can afford to send money, but you want to be involved too, to have a hands-on contribution to each project. You want to connect with the people you’re helping. That’s the whole point. It’s not just about sending money.”
“Exactly!” I said.
Moving forward
I still haven’t made any major donations of time, money, or energy. That’s okay, though. Mentally, I’ve made the switch. I’m ready to give. It’s no longer a matter of whether I’m going to — it’s now a matter of when, where, and how.
In fact, if I can figure out a way to swing it, I’d love to spend a few months living abroad, lending my efforts to building a school or a library or digging wells or something of that ilk. But what about Kris? She can’t leave her job for that long. And what about this blog? Sure, I’ve been gradually reducing my role here — but that’s not the same as eliminating it.
In the meantime, I’ll continue to research charities to find causes I can support (with money and more). I’ll look for other chances to volunteer in the local area. I’m ready to take more baby steps toward philanthropy.
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Congratulations on your decision to start giving, J.D.! As a fellow supporter of Edge of Seven, I can attest to what a well-run organization it is. In full disclosure, a good friend started and runs the organization and is a terrific, compassionate, driven and organized person. I can assure you your dollars will be put to good work. I’m thrilled to see they are one of your chosen charities. I’m headed out on one of their volunteer trips to Nepal in November – you and Kris should join me!
In general, and because this is the first time I’ve posted a comment, thanks for the terrific blog and for helping me turn my financial situation around. You’ve got a friend (and a guest room) in D.C. should you ever find your way out here.
Cheers,
Rebecca
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Volunteering is also a great way to job shadow. I started out as a volunteer at my current job.
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JD– I had a thought…
If you do decide to make a long-term commitment to this idea, rather than going with voluntourism, given your occupation you may be able to hook up with a research group (like the poverty action lab) or an NGO. Heck, you might be able to join up with one of these groups for a shorter term as a press agent bringing awareness to these kinds of issues.
Many schools also run educational sessions in different developing countries for current students– so more academic than your alumni trip.
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JD – thanks so much for this post! I’m the Founder of Edge of Seven and feel honored to be one of the three organizations mentioned as charities you could get behind.
I’d love to chat at some point about helping you volunteer abroad. We connect international volunteers responsibly with our work in the field and you can go for weeks or months. We have opportunities in Nepal, India, Thailand, and Cambodia and will be adding Kenya next summer.
I hope that we can connect soon!
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When I can I donate goods (paper goods, cleaning supplies, ect) or cash to the Gift of Life House in Rochester, MN. They provide a place to stay for those donating an organ or a receiving an organ donation for $25 a night.
Most people have to travel to make/receive organ donations and must stay 2-6 weeks near the hospital to recover and lodging expenses can add up very quickly.
This is a cause I am very passionate about because laster (June 10, 2010) I donated a kidney to save my father’s life and the people at the Gift of Life House provided us with a place to stay that was affordable and a perfect environment for healing.
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I think that volunteering is a perfectly acceptable way of giving. For me, I have a ton of debt, so it’s my best option. Of course, you could give other ways too-like you said. I think you’ve made a good move to explore your options.
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I would like to echo some of the others in really cautioning against seeing voluntourism as the best option in many cases. The organizations asking for money in many countries (once you research them of course) are more familiar with the needs and the culture of the area and can train and pay someone there who needs employment to do long-term what a glorified travel agent can charge you to basically learn to do for a few weeks to a month. As an example, a common problem with this type of tourism is that companies make money to send English speakers to school in foreign countries to teach English for a month or two. Because there is often no educational requirement there is on the job learning on top of the “teacher” having to adjust to interacting with the kids in using their cultural norms. By the time you are up to speed it is time to go home, and another newbie must repeat the process. If half the travelers simply donated the money to a reputable organization, they could train and employ a native of the country to be a long term English teacher. As long as you verify that the organization is reputable it is frequently better to give the sum and let professionals handle it’s use. Think honestly: “if this were a job available with children/animals/whatever in my neighborhood and I was an applicant, would the HR department honestly feel okay about hiring me?” If not, you’re getting scammed, and so are the supposed recipients. You don’t gain magic skills because you leave the country.
If you do want to travel to a location for the experience and volunteer while you’re their, I recommend booking the trip yourself (cheaper anyway) and asking organizations if they need assistance from volunteers with filing, preparing meals or other simple tasks.
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Hi there -
I’ll just throw in a suggestion to send those school supplies to those in need through an organization called the Pencil Project (thepencilproject.com). Great way to help (without worrying about the shipping!).
Cheers,
Claudia
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I don’t really understand why you couldn’t still send the school supplies. Yeah, it was a shock and expensive, but those kids still needed the supplies right? Later, Kris said you guys sent money but the stores don’t carry all of the supplies, so you traded effectiveness for expedience. From following your blog, I think you guys could have afforded a one time hit and then looked for a better way to donate in the future. I hope you didn’t make a commitment to the kids or your contact to send that stuff only to balk at a high postal tab that you really could afford. Certainly it’s your decision how to handle it, but I guess I was disappointed to see your intentions derailed so easily.
Personally, I’ve focused on local giving. I like to give to Audioreader (a reading service for the visually impaired), KCUR (local public radio), Harvesters (food bank), a woman’s shelter and my local libraries. I need to organize my donations better and also I’d like to add an international component. Maybe 70/30, domestic/international. As others have pointed out, my dollars can have a disproportionately large impact in many international locations.
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The times when I have given to someone directly, anonymous or not, have been very rewarding. If you can keep an eye (and an ear) out for those around you in need you can make a big difference in their lives. When someone short on gas money gets $50 in an envelope sitting on their car windshield imagine how powerful that can be. When you see the personal effect of giving like that it makes you want to do it more.
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a few thoughts on this from someone who works in the nonprofit world:
a) awesome. there’s been a major generational shift away from giving, and i think it’s important to think about (and hopefully reverse!).
b) look local! not because the others aren’t worth it – not at all! – but because it is way easier to address your concerns about how your money is spent and what exactly the group does when you are dealing with smaller organizations.
c) most importantly – i think that when people say they can’t afford to give, what they are really saying is that they can’t afford to give *much* – and if it’s not a lot, what’s the point? (or it’s an excuse =)
so, i just want to say that small gifts are *huge*. $5 once a year? awesome! because any amount of money is a concrete measure of people saying “i like what this organization does and how they do it.” and that is worth a *lot* to us! most concretely because small money leads to big money – donors who give a lot and foundations (where a lot of nonprofits get most of their money) what to know that people are behind you, that you are really representing something important and not just a nice idea.
so, don’t wait to give until you feel like you can afford a “worthwhile” gift – think of your gift as a show of support, not as bankrolling and it makes more sense to give small amounts.
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I just wanted to throw in a suggestion for a Portland writer. Write Around Portland is a great, tiny charity that trains volunteers to run writing workshops for underprivileged groups in the city. The idea is to help people in these groups find their voice through writing. It is a very powerful group that I have seen the results of through a friend involved in the group. They are always looking for volunteers and donations.
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“Second, I worry about how organizations spend their money. I’m aware of sites like Charity Navigator, which rates charities based on efficiency. But these sites don’t tell the whole story.”
What a LAZY reason not to give to charity in FOUR YEARS. It couldn’t possibly take that long to research charities, especially with the internet. If I worried that every little dollar that I donated needs to be allocated in the most effective way, I’d NEVER give. I really feel that this excuse is just a cop-out. The real problem is that you hold your money so close to yourself because it’s “your hard-earned money”. What better way to spend your money than helping those less fortunate? The reason Christians are encouraged to give is that it’s a reminder that none of our money is “ours” and all of it is God’s and that none of it is going with us when we die. I realize that you’re not Christian, but at least the Christian view of money is healthier than the standard American sentiment of “it’s all mine and I need to hoard it all for myself”.
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I know I’m late but as a person who used to work for non-profits, please also keep in mind that what you want may not be what is most helpful for a non-profit.
Often, it is the boring task is what is most needed. And the emotional connection that you want in giving charity is also what drives up the costs. Not saying they should be accountable but it bothers me when people complain about overhead yet still want personalized responses from the people they donate $ to…
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I’m a HUGE fan of Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières and though we are on a fixed income I donate to them regularly. That said, for the most part. I try to keep my donations local to the U.S. at least. Recently I’ve donated food, clothing and supplies to specific places (like Gluten Free food and children’s clothing for the Tuscaloosa, AL tornado victims, the Joplin, MS tornado victims and flood victims in the South) I prefer to help people who might be marginalized because they are a small minority. I’m a Celiac, so I recognize just *how* hard it might be for others who have Celiac to find GF foods in communities that have been devastated. I also like to sew for relaxation, but there are only so many things a person who doesn’t like to quilt can do. So I make reversible dresses for http://www.dressagirlaroundtheworld.com/ as well.
We were very poor when I was a child, and sometimes charity was the only thing that got my siblings and I school supplies, clothes or food.
So for yourself. I’d identify WHO you would like to help. What pulls at your heartstrings the most, or what can you really identify with. For some it’s Women’s shelters, others it’s children’s education. For me it’s a couple of things. Food that is safe to eat and nice clothing so that’s where I aim my time and money at.
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Have you looked at Donor’s Choose? It’s a small-scale charity organization where you can give money for a specific purpose. For example my mom teaches 3rd grade in a low-income area. She often writes these mini grants for things that her school district cannot afford to provide her, like once she wrote one for some musical instruments for her class. So if that grant was for $100, you could donate $5 towards that or fund the whole thing. Anyway, it might be a good way to contribute to something where you know exactly where the money is going.
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Giving skills is often much more practical than giving money, or strictly giving time.
For example, this post alone probably inspired a significant amount of contributions to charity; probably much more than you could reasonably contribute yourself.
Few people could have written this post, so your skills have made a proportionally large difference here (versus the difference you could have made by investing the time you spent writing in another charitable activity).
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JD:
Now that you’ve decided to give, you will begin to see opportunities everywhere. But it doesn’t have to be so complicated. I have a friend who, with her husband, travels to various parts of Africa and Haiti to provide free dental care. As part of the project, they take children’s shoes for the youngsters in the communities they visit. ALL I had to do to help was collect shoes from my friends, family and coworkers and deliver them to her in time for the trip. We sent 900 pairs. Easy and rewarding. A few years ago, a friend of mine who lives in Senegal had a cholera outbreak in her village (people died). They only had one well and needed a few more. ALL I had to do was stand up in church, ask for some money, keep track of it and send it off periodically. In a few months we had sent enough to dig 3 wells. I later visited and it was a incredible experience. The church didn’t survive but the wells are going strong (so in a way it did). I’ve also been part of a giving circle in DC and we give money to small local non-profits serving women and girls. All of these people are somehow connected to each other. For me the key was opening my heart. The Universe took care of the rest…and continues to.
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You can donate to Goonj, a non-profit that aims to provide clothing for India’s poor. Also provides sanitary pads for women, made from discarded cloth, and helps rebuilding of villages by the local people, using clothing as payment.
Read through the links to understand that they make maximum use of donated material for the benefit of the poor.
http://www.ecowalkthetalk.com/blog/2011/05/26/goonj-not-just-a-piece-of-cloth/
http://goonj.org/Final_Product_Catalogue.pdf#
http://goonj.org/?page_id=48
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My husband and I are 26 and 30 and live in Chile. About three years ago my husband met a guy who was the same age as me at his work. This guy was always talking about trying to save money so he could go to college. In Chile scholarships don’t exist or are very very rare. This guy also went to a public high school which basically guarantees that you won’t get into college even if you can afford (only private high schools are good and most people can’t afford them).
My husband works in construction and is an engineer. This guy started off as a manual laborer and moved up to be the assistant of the guy who looks at the architectural plans and then measures and draws the lines on the wall (ie send this tube for plumbing through here, wire this light here, etc.). He was making like 600 dollars a month at the time and college costs 250 a month. He also supported his mom and girlfriend and brothers and sisters. Needless to say, his savings account for college was growing very slowly.
Anyways, point being, we decided we were impressed with this guy and wanted to help him. At the time 250 a month was a small amount for us to pay compared to how much we were making. The degree was a three year degree (is, he’s finishing this semester). So when he started my husband and I were 25 and 28.
When he graduates he has a potential job already lined up where he will be making over 2400 dollars a month. That is a HUGE earning increase. Huge. Enough to break the cycle. His own family will not live in poverty the way he did and the way his parents and grandparents did.
My husband and I went through some lean times where paying his monthly tuition fees was difficult. At one point my husband was laid off and I got hit by a car and had to quit my jobs right afterwards so we were both jobless. But we still continued to pay for Marcelo’s education.
I think it is SO important to realize that you IF you want to, you can make a difference. I may not be changing the world here, but I am definitely changing one person’s world. And as if I could feel any happier about what we’re doing, Marcelo has decided he’s going to now pay for himself to continue his education and that once he’s done with that he’ll pay for college for someone else who deserves a leg up.
So I’m going to say this, even though you may find it harsh — I find not giving at any stage of anyone’s life, inexcusable. Make it a priority. There’s always a way. And there’s always an excuse. I didn’t want to give money to charities either, and I found a way to give directly and make a huge impact. You could too.
Oh, and we’re looking for a girl to sponsor for our next student
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Give 10% to your church and what ever you can afford to charity like on http://www.HelpDonate.org where you can give to people or families in need. You will feel alot better about yourself as most psychiatric studies find
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Christian relief organizations have an obligation to point to Jesus as the reason for their humanitarian efforts. We can only do out of what has been done for us. A good principle for Christians to live by is found in 1 Peter 3:15, “But in your hearts, revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,” (NIV)[emphasis mine]
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