This post is from staff writer Sierra Black. Sierra writes about frugality, sustainable living, and raising children at Childwild.com.
One of the hazards of blogging is that you can’t always be right. When you’re wrong, you get to be wrong in front of a lot of people. Which can be embarrassing — but also a great learning experience.
In April, I wrote about my “frugal” decision to let my broken shower languish, and the critical comments came in fast and furious. People were concerned that it was unsafe, that it was irresponsible, and that I was just being lazy.
It’s not unsafe, I promise you. The water temperature is warm enough to ward off Legionnaire’s Disease without being hot enough to scald the kids. Likewise, arguments about it detracting from the value of the house don’t hold much water. There are plenty of things that detract from the value of the house, from the cracking old linoleum on my kitchen floor to the age of the wiring in my upstairs rooms. No one would argue that I should do every possible home repair or improvement immediately.
The shower is a nuisance, though, and I see now that failing to fix it is more lazy than frugal. The most compelling critique I got from readers here was that letting something like this slide might turn into a bad habit. Slowly, small projects like this can accumulate and detract from the quality of life in my home — not the resale value of the house, but the joy my family and I get from living here. That’s worth paying attention to. The kids, and all of us, really do deserve a decent shower every morning.
Solving the problem
I’m not really worried that we’ll become slackers who slowly let the house fall apart around our ears. We do a lot of household projects.
The same week I posted about the shower being busted, we replaced our decrepit garden fence and planted tomatoes. On the other hand, deciding to let the shower go indefinitely turns out not to be an awesome choice. The “quality of life” argument has persuaded me to fix the shower ASAP. Which turns out to be easier said than done, since fixing this kind of shower problem is like performing major surgery.
My husband is on it though. He’s taken the shower apart, figured out the parts he needs, and put it back together. Now he’s waiting on a special part to come in so he can finish the job. I’m confident we’ll be showering like civilized people with hot and cold water any day now.
Reassessing priorities
In the meantime, I’ve been reassessing my priorities. I’ve been writing a lot about frugality recently, in part because I’ve been spending more money than usual. I’m trying to explore anew how awesome frugality really is. Readers have called me out on my excesses when I’ve written about yoga classes and visits to the climbing gym.
Maybe it’s time for me to reassess my financial values, to come back to my own frugal center. To do so, I’m turning to my financial roadmap.
Since 2007, I’ve operated my financial life off the same 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper. On it are three sections, ranging from the bare essentials to dreams we’d like to achieve. I’ve mentioned this sheet before; now I’m going to share its contents with you. This feels a little like getting naked in front of all my readers, so please be gentle in your critique.
Here’s my roadmap:
Laying A Foundation
- Living sustainably – being able to comfortably pay for housing, food, health care and transportation
- Getting out of debt – paying off credit cards and loans, no new debts
- Building savings – creating an emergency fund, contributing regularly to retirement savings
- Maintaining good financial hygiene – keeping up good credit, having appropriate insurance policies, etc.
Quality of Life
- Owning a home we love
- Having happy stable careers
- A great education for our kids
- Time with friends and community
Beyond the Basics
- Travel – visiting family in Argentina, Arizona and elsewhere
- Giving to charity
- Living with a small environmental footprint
- Entertainment – dinners out, cultural events, concerts
- Fostering spiritual growth
This isn’t meant as a template for how you should manage your own finances; everyone’s objectives will be different. You want to organize them in the way that works best for you.
Also, this roadmap isn’t meant to represent hard and fast rules for my money. What this piece of paper has given me for the past four years is a set of guidelines that help me decide where to put my resources. It helps me organize my priorities so that each time I spend money, I can answer the question, “Is this in line with my values?” I’ve used these general guidelines as the basis for organizing my much more detailed monthly spending plan.
Making course corrections
Looking at it now, it’s clear that it’s time to update the roadmap.
For one thing, there’s no mention of physical fitness, which has become really important to me over the past year. I’ve learned creative ways to stay fit without spending money, like running in my neighborhood and using yoga DVDs or podcasts at home. But I’ve also learned that I’m more committed and successful with my fitness goals when I am willing to put some financial resources into them. Paying for yoga or rock climbing shouldn’t feel like a splurge: There should be some cash devoted to fitness in our budget. Clearly, maintaining my health deserves a place in my financial goals.
In general, there’s not enough attention devoted to maintenance in my list. Home maintenance and car maintenance deserve their own section as foundational items along with covering our basic expenses and saving for the future.
Along with a place in my financial guidelines, I’m thinking of setting aside a dedicated “maintenance account” in my savings. That way, when something small like our shower breaks, I’ll have money set aside to fix it. An emergency fund could cover these expenses of course, but they’re not really emergencies. I don’t know what is going to break, but between my century-old house, my car and my computer, I’m confident I’ll be paying for some repairs during the year.
So, fitness and maintenance are clear additions to my financial guidelines. But what else should I add to my master plan? Am I missing other fundamental pieces of personal finance? Also, do you have written guidelines for your spending? What do you do to make sure you’re staying on course?
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I’m sorry that readers jumped all over you for being “irresponsible”, Sierra. While I agree that household issues should be fixed, I don’t see that your showerhead incident needed attention immediately.
There are always things that will go wrong with a house. The main question you should ask yourself is, “How much money can I save by repairing this myself, and how much am I worth per hour?”
Sure, you could save money by tackling the project yourself, but how much money could you have made during that time by doing something more productive?
For instance, if you own and operate a successful website, you could most likely write a few articles and improve your SEO in the amount of time that it would take you to fix a showerhead. It might be worth spending $200 to get it fixed and make $500 while the repairman is at your house, rather then you “saving” $100 on labor.
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I think most people have to be pretty disciplined to actually use the extra time to earn the profit. Tradespeople earn a good living here in Canada, and with the taxes on the parts and labour and the taxes that come off our income, I’m not sure most frugal people could turn a profit from the situation.
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I’m sorry the readers jumped all over you-how irritating is THAT?!? B/C I bet each and every one who was quick to critisize would not have the courage to detail their spending habits the way you do, or if they did we would see TONS of things we could critisize as well.
I love it when broke people give $ advice; single people give mariage advice; and childless people know EXACTLY what we should do to raise our kids right…always funny
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Sometimes people who are in different situations can still offer a fresh perspective. Not everyone is blessed with a spouse and children, but that doesn’t mean their opinion is worthless.
I must admit I have the same reaction though when married friends try to give me dating advice. (Really? You met your husband in high school, go away!) But I realized I was taking the easy way out by dismissing them instead of listening to something I didn’t want to hear. Sometimes the advice was bogus, but sometimes there were good ideas I might otherwise have overlooked.
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Agreeing with Elizabeth!
To put it in other words: It doesn’t take being a master chef to realize that someone burned your dinner (and to know exactly how NOT do that in the future).
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Stick with the climbing. You will love it as it is cardio and strength training in one workout. And the people you will meet are passionate about outdoor activities. I’ve been doing it or 20 plus years an can not quit even though I have tried many times. It’s community sport with tons or passion,enjoy!
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Owning a home we love
I don’t get the idea of “loving” your house. I’ve seen this so many times where people talk about how much they love their house. It’s a friggin’ building!
If it disappeared tomorrow, you could move to another one and be just as happy.
Good post!
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I agree! I think “having a home you love” is a good end goal, but I’ve seen too many people go into debt to have it all right away. It took my parents’ generation years to work up to their standard of living, but people in my generation think they should have the nice furniture, granite countertops, walk-in closets, etc. right now.
Sometimes I find it hard to see my peers with such nice housing, but I then I remember I have to do what’s best for me and be grateful for what i do have.
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My husband will thank you for that reminder! He constantly has to keep reminding me that our home in our 20s will not look like my parents’ house did in their 50s!
We’re slowly (slowly!) building up to the home which makes me happy, but right now it’s room by room in an apartment. One day it will be a house!
I do get jealous of my peers when I see their beautiful homes, but my chosen career path doesn’t facilitate having a home in my 20s. C’est la vie!
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Amen to that!
It is hard to remind yourself (myself) that what we can afford now is not the same thing that our parents can afford after working for 30+ years.
Just have to keep in mind that sound finances now will pay off big time in the long run!
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I have to keep reminding my parents too
I often find myself saying “when you were my age, you were saving like crazy too”.
They aren’t rich, but when I see the security and lifestyle they have now, it’s certainly good motivation.
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Good to know my parents aren’t the only ones with selective amnesia …
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Funny you should mention that Mike….I recently told my husband that “I love this house”. That’s not to say my happiness depends on it, but I do enjoy living here and I was acknowledging that living in it brings me peace/reduces my stress. Prior to this house (we’ve lived here since ’97) we owned 2 other homes, but would often find ourselves driving around to other neighborhoods and looking at open houses. Since the day we moved into this house, it’s never crossed our minds to look at anything else.
When I used to commute (I now work from home) pulling into our neighborhood gave me a relaxed feeling. Our house is casual and the perfect size (not too big, not too small) for us. We have a tree-filled yard (not too big, not too small). Our neighborhood is filled with thoughtful and respectful people. We aren’t burdened by rigid HOA rules and the people who live here appreciate that enough to make such rules unnecessary.
Our home adds to the quality of our life, no question.
Sierra – great follow up on your previous post!
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Eileen I completely agree. When I am inside it, my home feels like a hug. Maybe it is like love, and you are lucky if you find it.
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@Eileen – I’m glad you love your house!
Maybe when people talk about loving their house, they are not referring just to the building itself, but rather the idea of having their own place, fixed up the way they like it and in a nice area?
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Yes Mike, it’s just about the comfort and relaxation I get from being here. It’s the surrounding area (wooded with wildlife occasionally) and the way the home fits our lifestyle (1 floor, using the entire house but not being cramped). Other homes lacked something I suppose, or we wouldn’t have found ourselves looking other places.
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She doesn’t say she wants a house she loves; she says she wants a home she loves.
Until you know the difference, you will not understand.
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Part of loving my house is accepting its many good qualities and forgiving the imperfections that are there. I also love the size of my mortgage payment – having a smaller house means a smaller payment, lower taxes, etc. So every time I think I wish this was different about my house or ooh, that house is nicer than ours, I remember how much financial freedom living well within our means give us and how precious it is to live life with things I love like travel and the peace of mind of financial breathing room. A home that is a sanctuary aesthetically (even if all the aesthetics are not perfect, if enough of them are, it is enough) and financially is truly home sweet home.
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I have to disagree with you. Having a home you love does not necessarily mean “having a home with all the expensive fixings that the Joneses have.”
The reasons I have loved my homes (whether apartment, dorm, or now our first house) were not because I had expensive furniture or artwork or granite countertops, hardwood floors. I think putting a little time and effort into making a home you love are things like putting your personal touch on it (not necessarily expensive, but putting up a coat of paint, finding a new spot for an old pillow, organizing your bathroom). I think it’s important to have a safe haven that you feel comfortable in and that it’s truly yours.
And I also think the PROCESS of making your house a home is very rewarding, again, picking just the perfect color for the wall, the perfect spot where the sun shines in all day for your cat’s bed, finally figuring out how to fit your coffee-maker in the almost-too-small cupboard. Caring for your home, too, like mopping, getting years of gunk out from the light switch, tightening a loose screw, are all little things to do to have a home you love and have put time and effort into.
Maybe I’m a simple person, but I find great joy in my house and the process of turning it into a home.
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Here, here!
I rearranged my living room/dining room area into a more functional space and it has made a world of difference. While I did buy a $30 mirror (my walls are pretty bare), the overall effect didn’t cost me anything otherwise.
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Sierra, I really liked this post and the message of finding balance. I was looking back at my finances for 2011 so far and wondering if I saved a little too much! There are things I’d like to do — like taking a yoga class or taking a college course for professional development.
I think it’s good to stop and review your spending priorities every once and a while — and put it in writing!
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I struggle with this sort of thing all of the time. My 85 y/o house needs a lot of updates, repairs, etc., but I would rather save my money for something that makes me blissfully happy: travel. I do have two separate savings accounts for home repairs and travel, but I find myself stashing more into my travel fund. I need to update my electrical system, but doing so won’t bring me any life satisfaction like travel does. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to sell the house, but I’m not sure that I could in this market!
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Sierra, I have a lot of repairs that “need” to be done around my house, too, and as my house won’t fall to the ground because I don’t have a new fridge or whatever (fingers crossed), I think I’m ok. (And you are, too!)
I like the idea of a maintenance budget – we have one in our budget for home improvement. It could be something small, like getting new lightbulbs, or it could be for something major, like a new water heater – but it’s there!
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The only thing I would say about repairs is to take care of things that can cause larger problems- like leaks or bugs(or mice). I have friends who have let stuff like this go and things get seriously worse. Home improvement is a lot different than home maintanence- I think.
As to DIY- it depends. My husband tried to repair a toilet- the materials were not cheap- he made a mess/broke the seat, too! and we had to call a plumber anyway. Now he pretty much agrees to call a repairman- realizing that there are some things we just can’t do.
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We’ve been pretty successful with home repairs *except* plumbing. DH has even fixed the circuit board on the clothes washer and replaced the engine on the dishwasher. But getting the shower not to leak always ends up worse than before trying, so we call the plumber.
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Ha! You mean the motor? I am pretty sure it doesn’t have an engine
or maybe that’s what I am missing for power in my dishwasher.
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Could you please tell me more about the mice thing? We have some issues we’ve been trying to ignore for too long . . .
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I like the ideas presented. And in thinking about my own, do you have ideas of what the item “A great Education for the kids” includes? Music lessons, extra curricular activities such as sports, scouts, etc? And here is an interesting one (because I am facing it). I think my maintenance category might include upkeep on some critical computing components. While Hubby and I have work laptops we bring home and the older son had a laptop as part of his tuition, the younger son needs access to a device to write papers/power point presentations and access internet data for his homework. (6th grade). The Netbook he has been using has seen better days and my 10 YO desktop got fried in a lightening strike. I need to start that fund.
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Accountability is the reason I started my blog – PF blog readers are not shy about letting you have it when they think you’ve screwed up and they can pose really valuable questions about why you’re doing things. I’m glad you can sort the wheat from the chaff in the feedback and pull something valuable from it. I hope to do the same.
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To look at the “what is happy” from a different perspective, you might look to Bhutan where they are measuring the “Gross Domestic Happiness” instead of the “Gross Domestic Product” as a measure of success.
http://www.grossnationalhappiness.com/GNHSurvey/gnhquestionnaire.pdf is the questionnaire.
Results can be found at
http://www.grossnationalhappiness.com/gnhIndex/resultGNHIndex.aspx
or generally http://www.grossnationalhappiness.com
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290 questions and they still don’t tell you the “right” answer.
I think that sums up the path to happiness quite well….
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Sierra- I like the idea of a home maintenance fund. I think it should be in the Laying the Foundation section.
Have you thought about a car repair/car purchase fund? We save the equivalent of a car payment every month, about $200. When it’s time to buy a car, in 5-8 years, we have cash. We started out with reliable beaters that were easy and inexpensive to fix (My husband kept them running longer than they had a right to.) and now drive newer model yet modest cars.
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This is the best idea I have heard all year. You are to be commended. We have saved tens of thousands of dollars over the years by not buying super expensive cars. Once we were a two Taurus family in the midst of all sorts of foreign car families. People lose a lot of money on ego. Ann
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My parents do the same thing! Mostly anyway. They don’t buy beaters, but they do keep putting a car payment in savings whenever the old loan is paid off and they drive their cars for a long time. Over the last 28 years, they eventually got to a point where they just pay cash for their new cars – no loan needed.
I would, except I bought a fixer-upper and all my car payment savings go to the house. Now that my car is 5 years old now, I’m feeling that I need to bite the bullet and start saving for a new one in a few years. I’ve had 2 years loan free, but that won’t last forever and if I don’t start saving soon I’ll be in a car loan again in 5 years (or less).
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My car is 16 years old and going
strong, you may still have plenty of time!
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My car is also 5 years old, and I can’t believe how quickly those 5 years flew by. But I have started to feel a sense of urgency in saving for my next car. I’m hoping to be dedicated in my savings so that I have the amount I need saved ahead of time.
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I agree with you about devoting some finances to things like exercise classes, etc. I have a stack of fitness DVDs I rarely use because I am unmotivated to do them by myself. For me, I am much more successful if I go to a Zumba class, etc., that I have paid for and that I can do with a group. Knowing what works and doing it is smart, not a waste of money.
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“There should be some cash devoted to fitness in our budget.”
I relate really well to this point. I’m a grad student (so technically poor) but I’ve always been really good at saving and managing money. I’m just not a spender (or a shopper).
However, I still find it somewhat scary when I realize that each year I spend well over $1000 on fitness – climbing pass, gym pass, curling (yes, Canadian), new running shoes, etc.
On the plus side, from climbing alone, I am now able to do 3+ chin-ups in a row – and I love the time I spend there. And I manage my stress much better when I’m consistently exercising.
I think we sometimes get so focused on cutting things out of the budget, that it can be easy to forget to focus on the huge benefits the item may supply. I’m not a big tv watcher, but for some of my friends, that’s a large part of their stress relief, and so worth paying for cable and cutting out somewhere else.
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Definitely. Even a sport like running which seems like it is free requires good sneakers ($80+) and the motivation of signing up for race every now and then ($25 – $150). For me anyway, I have figured out this needs to be part of the budget.
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I don’t think your expenditures for fitness are scary, they are commendable. This category is probably a large part of your social life. If you are super healthy you can study longer and work harder. Cable costs are probably at least $600 a year. Drinkers probably spend $1500 a year on alcohol. You can’t delay living while you are getting an education, and being a well rounded person helps everything in your life. AnnW
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The things I see missing from yours (some are already pointed out) that I have in mine are:
Housing – for maintenance, repairs, and upgrades (ie, the sink faucet broke and we took it from this instead of living without one) – also includes insurance deductible
Cars – for auto expenses >$100 – this also includes our insurance deductible set safely aside and money for repairs, a new car, etc – having a dedicated fund makes it easier
Misc – this covers presents, new computer, special dinner out (ie anniversary) and other things that come up that aren’t “emergencies” or that don’t have a dedicated budget but you wish you could afford to do “x or y” and with this you can
I also think that if you feel healthy living is important, you should include a gym and exercise budget – this could also include camping, bike rides, hiking trips, climbing tours, etc.
Although I do have a “paper plan” as well, I think evaluating and updating it every 6 months to 1 year is worth a lot – your prioritizes can change so quickly (as in: our car broke, there goes the trip money).
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I keep adding more maintenance funds to my savings categories. I now have:
* car – gas and other upkeep, taxes and insurance, repairs
* house – I’ve heard one should save 1 – 2% of the value of your house each year; I’m saving about 1.5%
* health – I just added this one a couple of years ago. I can’t count on always being able to pay for my doctor visits and medicine out of my every day money; I hope to get quite old and can’t count on staying so lucky. So I’ve started putting a little away each month and will increase this later if I can.
In addition, I have these:
* next car – as many other people have mentioned, you can put your old car payments in this fund once you’ve paid off your cars. I took out a loan on my first car and have paid cash for the other three.
* big stuff – this is usually vacations, electronics and, before I had enough, furniture. Only things that are too expensive to cover in my monthly spending go here–so plane tickets will be here, but not food I buy in the grocery store while on vacation.
I have a new temporary one for renovations – now that my house is paid off, I want to get a dishwasher. And covered parking (we get hail, and intense sunshine). And a separate laundry room with both washer and dryer connections instead of just a washer in my kitchen.
I’m thinking of another one for gardening–hiring someone to landscape my yard with low-maintenance native plants. It turns out I despise yard work and never spend time in my yard. (I still like having a house instead of an apartment, though, because I can make noise at all hours.)
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Sierra, great post. You have inspired me to sit down with my other half and write up a priority sheet as well. We create our monthly budget together, but there are things that come up unexpectedly that we do not always have a category for. Making sure they are within our priority list with just a glance would be beneficial. I think we would have to update the priority list every 6 months or at least annually as our interests and priorities evolve.
Thank you for not letting those that critique prevent you from sharing as we can all learn from each other the more we share.
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I personally think families with good saving habits should have a separate “house maintenance” fund from an emergency fund.
House maintenance is always going to be there. Carpets get worn out. The roof gets old and needs replacing. Water heaters, dishwashers, and laundry machines break, etc.
You may as well have a regular fund you’re paying into for this, to make sure you ahve the money to cover it.
Meanwhile, your emergency fund can help cover these expenses if necessary, but is more allocated to if you lose your job, the car breaks down, last minute medical bills, etc.
You’d hate to spend all of your money fixing up the house and have somethng happen the next week and have no money to pay for it.
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Very brave of you to post your roadmap, but I like it! I think I’ll draft one for myself today.
As far as the critics go, it’s easy to be a critic on the internet. Yes, it was lazy to let the shower go that long. However, everyone does something silly like that. There’s no need for people to be Internet Tough Guys about it.
I’ve been intently reading about PF for the past year, and the one bit that speaks to me the most is that we all have our own priorities and values, and that we should spend our money accordingly. I love yoga, so I pay $80/month for unlimited classes. I don’t play video games or get my nails done, so I don’t spend money on those. When you spend in line with your values, everything else falls into place (something I have to remind myself often).
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I think some folks were perceiving a disconnect between priorities and values for the same writer across different columns. You said this in one column, but now you’re spending money on that instead.
So it makes sense to sit down and think explicitly about those priorities and values (and if they’ve changed over time) and whether or not spending matches those lists. It’s one of the exercises David Bach recommends in his “Smart X Finish Rich” series. http://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.com/2011/04/18/how-do-your-values-guide-your-financial-goals/
And, while I’m at it, do financial bloggers have to be perfect? http://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.com/2010/10/17/is-it-ok-for-personal-finance-bloggers-to-be-balanced/
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Good introspective article, bloggers should always be able to cast a critical eye in their own direction as well as the world around them.
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I make savings a priority and live on what is left. For physical fitness, I ride a bicycle and use a treadmill. In addition, I lift weights. This works for me!
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I agree. I guess I do not have it as a big priority but I do not think I could go over $5 a week to exercise. As it is, I pay $15 for an annual pass for the local college pool and I go swimming at least once a week. I also do a lot of bike riding and walking. The same goes for diets…..some people spend huge amounts of money on them but still do not lose weight. For most it is a waste of money.
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I have a set amount to spend weekly. I don’t microcategorize- if I can afford it out if that $ (for me often eating out, Sierra rockclimbing?) then I’ll do it. I’m not going to take away savings to change fun things to higher on my priority list. I think it allows me to be rewarded if I’m good at the grocery store, etc.
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I like this whole idea. It is important to set out goals and dreams. One of the hard things about living an adult life is budgeting for the things that are not fun. Don’t forget your AAA dues, they are worth every penny and save lots of money buying other things. You should budget for maintenance, both short term and long term. It’s hard to not spend money so you can save to replace a roof or paint the house, but things like that are needed. Keeping up to date with homeowners and life insurance is important also. Some categories you might not have thought about are summer programs for the kids, special savings for once in a lifetime kid expenses like special travel or programs, music lessons, tutoring, piano purchasing. The Nester at the Nesting Place blog got fed up renting, so she started treating her rental places as homes she owned. She allows for a certain amount of furniture purchases and decorating a year. You haven’t mentioned courses for new skills or career betterment. You might have to think of getting extra income or bartering to pay for some of the things you want longer term. A life conscientiously lived often reaps its own benefits and what people call “luck.”
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It sounds like you are doing the right things. You have all the sound values in place. I particularly like living sustainably and having the right insurance policies just in case. But, sometimes events lead us to re-evaluate and maybe that’s a good thing.
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I am putting all my savings into two pots, retirement and other. The idea of discrete accounts for different purposes sounds interesting though – it may help me budget in the future, such as planning for vacations and such.
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Um, I acknowledge the irony of saying this, but I think you’re giving way too much credence to your readers’ opinions.
Who cares what we think about your showerhead? You were perfectly happy before when it was broken. You’ll be perfectly happy once it’s fixed. What’s the difference?
And now you’re asking us to critique the most basic goals you’ve established for your life? Dude, *why*? We don’t have the same values as you do. Everyone is different. Why change your life by what random strangers say?
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I think the repair category falls into a general category of anticipated expenses.
What do you think you will spend money on in the next year? What about the next five years? You may not know what repairs are coming, but you know there will be repairs.
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It can be so hard to put yourself out there- especially because YOUR values aren’t necessarily MY values, so it’s easy to criticize. I came up against the same thing when I blogged about our budget quandary once- everyone said cancel the martial arts lessons (which we didn’t, because they were very important and served many functions.)
You asked what was missing- I think “continuing education/self improvement” is missing. Even as adults it’s important to grow and learn, expanding our horizons. It might be a hobby, or a course for personal/professional development, or even a class at the craft or home improvement store.
Maybe you want to learn how to swim, or take a creative writing class, or take a photography course from the local college.
These shouldn’t be ‘splurges’ (within reason) and personal development should be accounted for in the budget.
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I don’t exactly prioritize like you do. But I have noticed that I have to pay attention to eight categories to be happy. Whenever I’m not feeling happy, it’s usually pretty easy to figure out which category is lacking and put some more time and effort into that. My categories are:
* intellectual – learning things, reading interesting books, watching interesting movies, etc.
* social – having fun with my friends
* physical – nutrition, exercise, maintenance (annual check-ups, etc.) and fixing problems (medicine, etc.). (I’ve further broken exercise in to four categories–whenever I’m deciding what to do, I’ll pick one I haven’t done in a while: aerobic/endurance, strength/speed building, balance/coordination, flexibility
* creative – making things, designing things, singing, etc.
* spiritual (for me that’s helping others)
* domestic – keeping the house picked up, cleaned, and maintained
* career-related – having a job I like, doing a good job all day, improving my skills, etc.
* financial – earnings, savings, frugality, good cash flow, investing.
Obviously, many activities fit into two or more categories (craft night with friends, ballroom dancing, etc.)
These days, I’m most lacking in the career-related and social sectors; I have to really focus on prioritizing at work to get the most important things done well and keep my stress low, and I’m saying yes to more social invitations.
As far as financial priorities, I re-evaluate those every time my salary changes plus whenever I notice that one of my savings categories has gone negative for too long, that something is really starting to bug me (like lawn care), or that I really don’t need so much for a category anymore (my big-spending category for electronics and vacations) in comparison to other ares.
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