I assure you with time and practice the small, house chores don’t seem as foreign! I know of someone who made a similar “tiny house” to live in when their retirement funds weren’t comfortable enough to live on with their current housing situation. They sold the house, built a smaller one for around $30,000 and can now live debt-free with plenty of money to sit back on and travel the world.

Best of luck in your new journeys.

I’m sorry to hear about the divorce. Best wishes to both of you guys.

Sorry to hear about this. Most other people’s relationships are a mystery to me even with people I know in person, and I don’t know enough about the situation to be able to offer much advice, but it sounds as though you’re at least dealing with things in as calm and reasonable a way as is possible in such an emotional situation. No matter what happens, I wish both of you well.

Matt

Kris is fully capable of making her own decisions as to what is in her best interest. For J.D. to completely cut her off while she’s going through this without consulting her is paternalistic and could be cruel. She is not a child, she is not “emotionally incapable of acting rationally” because her husband asked for a divorce.

The fact that J.D. recognizes this and seems to be getting a little offended on her behalf says more about his character than anything else I have read on this post or in the comments. It also says that some of these projections and soap opera narratives people are berating him for in the comments are completely unrelated to the actual situation.

I just found out about the sale of this blog and your decision to ask Kris for a divorce. I’ve read every single comment on this article. It took me several days, but I was looking for insight.

What advice can you give to others to avoid falling into the same trap? Pre-marital counseling? Outsourcing the unpleasant household tasks? More “date nights”? Professional money management services? What would you do differently in your next relationship? Was this inevitable or could it have been prevented somehow?

I know you don’t want to publicly discuss the reasons for your divorce, but I think it would be helpful to those readers who feel their own relationships are vulnerable, if they are able to learn from the failure of your marriage. Otherwise, we’re left to wonder if this could happen out of the blue to us, with no rhyme or reason.

I’m sure you’ve thought about a lot of this yourself, and if you could share some insights into how one can minimize the risk of a long term relationship falling apart given your hindsight, I think it would be a tremendous resource for your readers. Remember, sometimes we learn a lot more from our failures than we do from our successes.

Meanwhile, I wish you an Kris all the best.

Becka,
Jesus Christ was judgmental. He told all who would listen not to sin or kill or commit adultery or steal…… Would you look down on him for being judgmental?

In a word, and I’ll only say it in one word because it can simply be said that one word covers it: SELFISH!

I second the earlier commenter: Give it 6 months for some new chick to surface whom he just happened to meet ‘after the divorce.’

At least Kris wasn’t dying of cancer or just diagnosed with MS like the cases of our politician role models.

Maybe he hasn’t cheated yet (or hasn’t done anything he *considers* cheating), but I just don’t buy the “don’t have my eye on anyone else”.

I don’t expect to read about it here or in his blog, but I give it 6 months before he unveils a romance that just “happened”, but it was “definitely after the divorce”.

It’s cliche, but it’s true that when one one door closes, another opens. I suspect that after healing has occurred, both JD and Kris will find something wonderful in their lives that would never have happened if they had stayed together.

It may perhaps feel “confusing” for both for awhile, and yes, JD should be sensitive to sending mixed messages. On the other hand, a slower departure from one another offered my ex-husband and me a greater sense of security – that though we were moving foward apart from one another, we could still count on each other. And in some ways that was very helpful.

He is now in a new relationship (I am not) and I am glad that he’s getting the things that I couldn’t give to him, and yet we still have a connection that is important, but very much secondary in our lives.

I wish you all the best, JD and Kris.

I stumbled across this news (though it wasn’t that surprising to me, just sad) via the “other” big, 5+ year old personal finance blog by a male author who recently posted openly about his own selling of the blog, final debt freedom, and credit and love he gives to his family and especially his wife for getting him to this point, as well as dedication to following a mutually fulfilling path from here. I always favored GRS over TSD for many many reasons. I will continue to be a regular reader here but my formerly clear preference for this site over the other has been graying and blurring recently.

And just to throw in a plug for the “new generation” of PF bloggers, my absolute favorite right now is Mr. Money Mustache!

I loved the conversation toward the end about the “hots”, I needed the LOL…

Whether I like it or not -since I only know you as the “characters” of JD and Kris and you don’t know me at all- you both will be in my thoughts.