Fridays are typically “Ask the Readers” days at Get Rich Slowly, but today I’m doing something a little different. I’ve made a couple of big revelations lately, and those have generated a lot of questions. Today, I’ll answer a handful of these questions in order to give an outline of how I’m managing my money.
There’s a lot to be said about the discipline it took to be conscious spender (and saver) even after a windfall. How did you do this?
In a way, conscious spending became easier after the sale of Get Rich Slowly. But it also became more difficult. Let me explain.
When I sold GRS, Kris and I paid off our mortgage. This freed $1000 per month that I could use for whatever I wanted. (That $1000 was my half of the mortgage payment.) My spending on the Needs part of the Balanced Money Formula essentially dropped to zero, leaving me lots of room for Wants and Saving.
Plus, because I followed my own advice about spending a small portion of a windfall on things you really want, I didn’t feel deprived.
That said, it’s easy to become complacent when you have a large nest egg. It’s easy to start spending a little more here and a little more there because you know you have plenty of savings to bail yourself out. Though I never came close to spending more than I was earning, I did begin spending more than I ought to have. That’s why I started preaching the virtues of conscious spending; I needed to remind myself of the concept.
Lately, I’ve become more of a conscious spender. That’s because I don’t allow myself to touch the money from the windfall. Instead, my goal is to live on my current income, which is a little lower than it had been when I was working at the box factory.
I haven’t totaled the numbers for 2011, but leaving aside money related to the sale of the blog, I probably earned about…calculating…$48,000 from all sources, including speaking, magazine articles, book royalties, interest income, and writing for this blog. That’s roughly the median income for an American worker household (albeit I have an enormous nest egg).
Now that I’ve moved out of the house and am renting an apartment, my expenses have increased substantially. Remember that $1000 I freed by paying off the mortgage? Well, I’m now paying that again in rent and utilities. Meanwhile, I still have the other expenses I was carrying before, including gym fees, soccer tickets, and Spanish classes. Unless I find some way to boost my income — and I aim to do so — I’ll have to cut back hard on some things. Most likely travel.
If you had such a major windfall, why did you still feel compelled to give up comic books?
I felt like I was collecting comics out of compulsion. I don’t read everything I buy. I want to, but I don’t. So why buy more? Besides, I haven’t given them up completely; I’ve just reduced my comic spending radically. (As in $0 so far in 2012, though that’ll change soon.)
Also, as I’ve mentioned, I don’t want to touch the nest egg. If I’m going to buy comics, I have to do so within the constraints of my current income. Again, this is the notion of conscious spending that I write about all the time. I would much, much rather spend that comic money on Spanish lessons right now. I love learning Spanish much more than I enjoy reading comics. That may change in the future (and probably will), but for now, the Spanish is a priority, and that’s my focus.
What’s your asset allocation?
I covered this in detail last April when I wrote about rebalancing my investment portfolio. You can see my target asset allocation there. But my current asset allocation looks nothing like that. Because of market movement, and because Kris is receiving some of these funds as part of the divorce settlement, my asset allocation is a mess. It’s very heavily weighted toward broad market index funds (which is a good thing, I suppose) with very little in bonds. If the market were to crash today, I’d be hurting.
One of the challenges I now face is balancing things without incurring tax liability. If I sell stocks to buy bonds, for instance, I’ll owe long-term capital gains tax (15%) on any profits. This is why I have an investment advisor I meet with regularly. He can hold my hand as I try to navigate this. And it’s definitely something I’ll be looking at once tax season is over.
You’ve often talked how you’d like to move into your “dream” apartment and start over, so I’m wondering if you’re now following that wish at your new place? How are you doing with your war on Stuff?
I was wondering how long it’d be until somebody asked this. This is one of those chances for me to practice what I preach. How am I doing? I’d give myself a B-.
In some ways, I’ve done an amazing job of shedding layers and layers of unnecessary Stuff. It’s all sitting in the workshop at the house, waiting to be sold. (Yay! Extra income I can use to save for travel!) That said, I still moved a lot of things.
My closet is full of clothes. Not as many clothes as I used to own (all of these actually get worn), but still too many. I feel like I could benefit by intentionally pruning one quarter of my wardrobe. It’d hurt, but wouldn’t make me feel deprived.
I also own a hell of a lot of computers and gadgets. No man needs this much electronic eqipment! Plus, I keep tonds of paper. I need to get over that obsession.
My biggest battle, though, is against the books. (Surprised?) In the house, I had many many bookshelves devoted to books and comics. Here in the apartment, I have less space, so I have fewer books. But I still have a lot. Plus, there are still more to bring over. Every time I go see Kris (as I will tonight), I bring back at least one box of books (and sometimes several). Again, it might profit me to intentionally purge one quarter of my books.
After your trip to Africa, you talked about how you felt like it was your responsibility to do something to help, to contribute. Afterwards, you and Kris got a ton of school supplies but then decided not to mail them because it was too expensive. Have you changed your mind on that? Are you at least donating some of your money to some groups or charities that could benefit now that you’ve sold your site?
Over the years, the one financial choice that I’ve made that’s brought the most heat from readers is my decision not to contribute to charity. I’ve just never found a cause I want to support. That’s no longer true. Recently, I have discovered a couple of causes I’m passionate about supporting. But I’m going to start by contributing my time, not my money.
Since the start of the year, I’ve been contributing five hours a week to volunteer work. (This morning, for instance, I’ll spend two hours in a second-grade classroom helping kids learn to read and write Spanish.) Plus, I’ve been meeting with representatives from non-profits and charities. Part of this is related to actual work, but part of it is because I’m trying to find causes I believe in.
The causes I’m drawn to are all related to education (both adult and childhood), financial literacy, and immigration. And it looks like I may have found a way to combine all three! At the end of March, I plan to teach a personal finance class (in Spanish) to a group of 35 latina women. If that’s successful, I’ll try to build upon it.
So, I haven’t made any charitable donations…yet. But I’ve begun to contribute my time.
When you started GRS, did you imagine that it might end up making you a lot of money, and ultimately making you financially independent? Do you just think you got lucky, or could someone set up a blog today and emulate your success?
When I started Get Rich Slowly, I had no idea what it would become, financially or otherwise. I’ve always said that my goals were (in this order): to help me get out of debt, to help others get out of debt, and to make a little money in the process. That I’ve been able to exceed all of these goals amazes me.
Did I get lucky? Yes, of course. But luck isn’t the only element involved. I worked very hard to produce quality content. And I stuck with it day after day for years. Some folks don’t appreciate just how difficult this is. At the peak, I was working 80 hours a week on the blog. But as I’ve said in the past, hard work isn’t enough. In order to do what I’ve done, you also need some luck. In my case, I was lucky enough to catch the attention of some influential readers early on. They shared the blog with their friends, and it spread from there.
Could someone achieve the same success with a new blog today? Of course! And there are those who do. But I’m not sure what the right recipe for replicating this success is. There’s so much involved with it, and some of it seems difficult to define. I’ve started many other blogs, but none has caught on like GRS.
The Bottom Line
I make an average income. Because of some big life changes, at the moment I spend less than I earn — but not by much. Until I can find ways to make more money, my travel budget is going to suffer.
That said, I have a great job that gives me lots of flexibility to spend my time and money on the things I love. I also have a fat emergency fund. And, of course, I have a huge retirement nest egg. My aims for the coming months are both to increase my income and to continue exploring charity and volunteer work. In the meantime, I’ll share my progress with the readers of Get Rich Slowly.
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JD,
Can you please share for us what a day-in-the-life is like for you? Are you working every day? How do you bring in outside activities like volunteering, WDS, so forth? I’m very curious! Thanks! And, as a long long long time reader, I’m so proud of your blogging success!
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Elaine, you are a mind-reader. That post isn’t appropriate for Get Rich Slowly, but Kris was just asking me about this the other day, so I’ve decided that’s what I’ll write next at my personal blog. The trick is I have to find the time. That should happen this weekend. Check back because by Monday, there should be a “Day in the Life” post there. Short answer: No two days are the same. But they’re all filled with writing, Spanish, exercise, and friends.
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JD thanks for answering our questions. I know we haven’t been easy on you as readers these past few weeks.
I’ve had conflicted feelings about the divorce but I’ve been realizing that we don’t know your situation fully and haven’t walked in your shoes.
I do wish you the best though. Its cool to see your journey and how much you’ve grown, its amazing how much you can accomplish in a few years when you’re motivated. You’re a good example that anything is possible.
As for donating to charity, don’t feel bad, I grew up in a home where my parents didn’t care for charity either. I’ve been trying to change that as well, this Jan. I started donating to a charity that I believe in. You can start small.
Good luck JD
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JD –
I think that the reason you now clean up and have become unnerved if you haven’t washed the dirty dishes and the apartment is in disarray is because so many changes have been happening that it gives you a feeling of control and stability. What do you think??
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I think you’re right. At this very moment, the apartment is cluttered. Not messy or dirty, but cluttered. It’s because I haven’t been here much the past three days — I’ve been in and out, only stopping here to sleep. I don’t like the clutter. It’s making me tense, as if I’m out of control…
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Maybe it’s time to bite the bullet and hire a professional organizer to help you deal with your “stuff” problem once and for all. Think of it as a sanity investment.
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I just wanted to say that I think it is very, very important for you to find a charity that reflects the values that you believe in. I also feel like volunteering your time is the best way to determine if a charity is a good match.
I worked for a charitable organization, and I realized about a year into my job that I didn’t have a passion for the organization’s mission, even though it was a good mission. I ended up leaving eventually. The people who stayed were the ones who were passionate about the organization’s mission and goals.
I ended up going back to work for a corporation, but donating both my time and (a little) money to an organization that I felt a deep connection to… and still do today.
I don’t think giving money is necessarily better than giving time. Or vice versa. If you are passionate about a cause, you are more likely to devote whatever resources you can — and that makes the difference.
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I have a thought. It may be odd, and it’s certainly too soon. But it could be something to think about.
I wouldn’t be in any rush, but I would think about buying a place, for several reasons: to feel more settled, to lock in my housing costs, and to have extra space.
You could use that extra space for either a roommate (a relatively more permanent solution, albeit not necessarily long-term) or a guest room (for couchsurfers). This would fund your travels, whether it be through regular rent from a roommate, or through then being able to “couchsurf” elsewhere, thereby reducing your travel costs.
A couple of other thoughts: my DS1 is a humanitarian aid worker. When he was in college he spent two summers teaching English in Guatemala (which greatly improved his Spanish) and in Cambodia.
Have you ever looked into micro loans? You aren’t GIVING your money, you’re LENDING it. When your loan is repaid (it takes months) you can either take your money back, or re-lend it to somebody else. We are huge KIVA fans (a very popular micro loan network). You can choose who to loan the money to, where they live, what they will do with it, etc.
I know it is not perfect (what is?) but to me it embodies the “teach a man to fish” principle. I also know that some people believe that “charity begins at home” and are loathe to donate money abroad. But I love seeing the updates and “travelling around the world” on my KIVA page. Often we choose new loans where DS1 is working, but that’s besides the point.
I would also like to add that Kris is deeply in my thoughts.
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Actually, the organization through which I plan to do personal finance classes also does microloans to locally owned latino businesses. I may end up doing some work with that arm of the organization, too. WAY WAY too early to say this stuff is set in stone, though. I’m just beginning to talk with the group, and only have the one class planned for March.
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I find the prospect of more posts in this vein as you move forward very interesting.. With respect to charitable giving, i feel strongly that you should wait until you feel strong urge to help someone or something, and i am confident that it will happen for you. I do however have a suggestion for you. Keep your mind (and your heart) open to the possibility of a “big gift”. With a small portion of the money from the sale of the blog, you could do something lifechanging that will probably have a greater effect on you personally than writing out a bunch of checks to various organizations. Look for the opportunity when you travel especially (life changing gifts can be made for less in developing countries). It could be building a school, library, medical clinic, or well in a village you visit that doesnt have one, building a sports field, paying for the higher education of one or more village children through a scholarship, fully sponsoring a habitat for humanity build in your favorite travel country, etc. The costs vary obviously, but a well or very simple school can often be built for $10k or so (prices obviously can be substantially higher). You should definitely go through a well-vetted charity (to ensure accountability and a tax deduction), but this could help you connect with a charitable gift more personally. My husband and i are moving in this direction (fully funding bigger gifts, but with less frequent giving, and we are enjoying brainstorming about possible gifts and where we could make an impact.
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I love this idea. Thanks, Aqua. I’ll keep my eyes open for opportunities like this.
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Also, it sounds like your apartment is pretty well located in portland. Have you looked into doing an apartment swap with someone in another country for a weeks (or longer) at a time? Since you can blog anywhere that would be a cost effective way to see the world on a tight budget. I know that there are web sites dedicated to matching people up.
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Can I just say JD, I truly sympathize with you, and I’m happy for you. While your news of your divorce was sad, the tone of your articles is different-like you’re happier now that the decision is made, and a huge weight is off your shoulders.
I completely relate to the not knowing, or caring, about the direction you are going. I was always so goal oriented, and after a friend passed away, I stopped going-going-going, and focused more on just BEING for a while. It just was a vast shift in my priorities and outlook.
Like the saying goes….I don’t know where I’m going, but I know I’m going somewhere.
Best of luck to you, and congratulations on your success.
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Some of my more perceptive friends have been recommending books to me lately. Many are books I would have dismissed as pop psychology trash even a year ago, but now I’m enthralled by them. In each, I find a core of truth.
For instance, I’m now reading “The Power of Now” (or, rather, listening to the Spanish audiobook version). The section I just read/audited completely nailed one element of my personal philosophy that I’ve adopted since late September. That is, I try to be completely in the moment whenever I’m with somebody else. I put away my cell phone. I put away my computer. I focus only on them and on the conversation. This seems simple, but it has completely revolutionized how I deal with people. I am present in the moment. I am now. And that’s part of what’s going on with my change to a goal-less life. (Leo from Zen Habits is doing something like this too, I think.) I’m focusing on who I am now and what I need now. Sure, I still have a mind for the future, but most of my efforts are tied up with making sure I’m happy and healthy in the present. Because, as Eckhart Tolle (and Juleita Venegas) says, the present is the only thing there is.
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Good call on teaching 35 Latina women. I’m sure at least one of them will want a date! Smart move!!
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It takes a lot of will power to not spend a windfall, glad to hear you’re doing the right thing, looking forward to future posts
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JD, I’m with you on the charity thing. A few years ago, I was profiled in a financial makeover article. Fortunately, there wasn’t much to makeover. But the newspaper made me say I donated a certain amount to charity each month. I do donate to charity. But I primarily invest my time. I believe my time is very valuable. But the newspaper would not accept this. So I had to say I donated X% a year. Really, I donate time that is probably worth around 20% of my income a year, were I to calculate it at my consulting rate.
The other thing I do is to quote full price on work I do for charity and then donate back, rather than giving them a discount. It makes it clear that my time has value and it also gives the organization help in making their financial numbers.
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JD,
Thanks so much for being so forthcoming these past few weeks. I actually strayed from GRS for a while but have been coming back daily now because I’m really interested in what you are going through.
I would also like to hear a lot more about handling the “nestegg” my husband and I have been…er… incubating? one for a while and it is getting surprisingly big (although I know it doesn’t compete with yours).
I’d love to read and discuss more of this, but there are some inherent difficulties – 1, I know some readers find it difficult to relate to and 2, it’s okay to talk about your debt and financial struggles online, but I believe there’s a lot of baggage (some very valid, some not so valid) associated with talking candidly about wealth. I think there are some bloggers out there who do it, but few who do it well. I hope you continue to talk candidly (ideally even more candidly!) about your current perspective.
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You know, I don’t have any friends that I can discuss financial stuff with so this blog really does a great job of demistyfying having money. Thank you.
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If and when you find a charity that you want to donate $$ to you might think about donating appreciated stock. You do it w/o selling the stock and therefore avoid capital gains. That could help a little with your asset allocation problem.
Fidelity has a Gifttrust fund that faciliates this. I’m sure other brokerages do also. They facilitate turning the stock into cash and giving the cash to the charity of your choosing
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Enormous nest egg huh? From that statement it seems like you sold for 8 figures. Congrats, its a great time to be an internet entrepreneur, even better than the 90s.
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Because charity came up… well, I just want to draw your attention to an organization that changes the lives of suffering children… and that made an orphan a son. (Actually, they made an orphan MY son once, but they’ve made orphans part of families over 600 times since 2005) Reece’s Rainbow bridges the financial gap between orphans with special needs who are being mistreated and neglected in orphanages… and families. Because of Reece’s Rainbow – our son is no longer forgotten and destined to a mental institution at age 5. He is a cherished and thriving son.
http://www.reecesrainbow.org
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I used freedom filer to file 28 years of family paper clutter in one weekend. It is a self-purging filing system that takes the guess work out of it. I don’t have any affiliation to them, I just love the result. The one area I still need to process for paper is “memory” stuff. I’m not going to scan in my college diploma and there are some photos I want to have tangibly, not just digitally. Working on that.
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Every time I see your blog, I think of your pending divorce. I wish you would write a post (but don’t publish it) telling everything that led up to this decision. You’ll be in your public, transparent voice and the thoughts will just spill out. Tell everything from your side. Then invite Kris to do the same.
Come back in a few days and reread the drafts editing if necessary. Let Kris read yours and read Kris’ too.
I just got an eye opening experience writing on my blog and a message board (some is unpublished) and I learned more from that than I think years of counseling could have given me.
I think there’s something powerful in our audiences – I see things differently writing on line than even in my own private journals. Thankfully I get to decide whether I hit “Publish” or not.
I wish you two the best and my heart goes out to you both.
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