Comments on: The Fear of Missing Out http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/ Common sense advice on money saving tips, how to get out of debt, high interest savings accounts, cd rates, money market accounts, mortgage rates, money management and more. Thu, 23 May 2013 00:17:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jen G. http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2870202 Jen G. Thu, 19 Jul 2012 03:09:07 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2870202 When was the term "FOMO" apparently coined? Liam Finn put out an album called "FOMO" last year and referred to it in interviews as an acronym for Fear of Missing Out? I'd like to see the timelines on this FOMO-business and who exactly coined it!? :-) When was the term “FOMO” apparently coined? Liam Finn put out an album called “FOMO” last year and referred to it in interviews as an acronym for Fear of Missing Out? I’d like to see the timelines on this FOMO-business and who exactly coined it!? :-)

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]]> By: Michele http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2706552 Michele Tue, 15 May 2012 13:05:17 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2706552 Eight miles outside of a good-sized city in the midwest, we still don't have cable in our county, and cable service is dial-up. Otherwise, it's a nice, peaceful place to live. Eight miles outside of a good-sized city in the midwest, we still don’t have cable in our county, and cable service is dial-up. Otherwise, it’s a nice, peaceful place to live.

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]]> By: Linda http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2540552 Linda Sat, 31 Mar 2012 00:52:31 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2540552 FOMO is the reason why I do NOT have a Facebook account. I do not want to know what any of my acquaintances and friends are doing because I do not want to compare myself to them, which I know will be inevitable if I knew what they were doing with their lives. Out of sight, out of mind. FOMO is the reason why I do NOT have a Facebook account. I do not want to know what any of my acquaintances and friends are doing because I do not want to compare myself to them, which I know will be inevitable if I knew what they were doing with their lives. Out of sight, out of mind.

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]]> By: Allie http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2511572 Allie Thu, 22 Mar 2012 18:18:00 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2511572 "And in case missing out on the party wasn’t enough, some people post photos of their group spelling out “FOMO” with their arms and hands (think Y-M-C-A, but F-O-M-O) to remind others that they’re missing out. Ouch." This is a joke, right? People don't actually do that? Because that's maybe the dumbest thing I've ever heard. “And in case missing out on the party wasn’t enough, some people post photos of their group spelling out “FOMO” with their arms and hands (think Y-M-C-A, but F-O-M-O) to remind others that they’re missing out. Ouch.”

This is a joke, right? People don’t actually do that? Because that’s maybe the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.

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]]> By: Krishanu http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2498982 Krishanu Mon, 19 Mar 2012 19:12:37 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2498982 Apple's whole campaign, their whole focus is based on FOMO. "You are not cool until you get the latest iMoon", or whatever product they are launching, even though iMoon next version will just have a brighter halo. Apple’s whole campaign, their whole focus is based on FOMO. “You are not cool until you get the latest iMoon”, or whatever product they are launching, even though iMoon next version will just have a brighter halo.

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]]> By: Carl Lassegue http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2495472 Carl Lassegue Mon, 19 Mar 2012 03:24:59 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2495472 I must admit I have a pretty bad case of FOMO. I have done a decent job of keeping it managable though! I must admit I have a pretty bad case of FOMO. I have done a decent job of keeping it managable though!

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]]> By: Dave Hilton http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2490272 Dave Hilton Sat, 17 Mar 2012 17:22:42 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2490272 I suffer from this occasionally. Especially when it comes to cars. My truck is 13 years old, has nearly 300k miles on it and I see my friends posting pics of their new cars all the time. My only respite is knowing I don't have a payment & they do. That doesn't mean I don't want a shiny, new Corvette...I do! But I don't want a $1200/month car payment. I suffer from this occasionally. Especially when it comes to cars. My truck is 13 years old, has nearly 300k miles on it and I see my friends posting pics of their new cars all the time.

My only respite is knowing I don’t have a payment & they do. That doesn’t mean I don’t want a shiny, new Corvette…I do! But I don’t want a $1200/month car payment.

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]]> By: BD http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2488822 BD Sat, 17 Mar 2012 01:15:08 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2488822 Wallet: Who cares what color? Does it matter? It's inside your purse. Go with the color that you will enjoy seeing all the time. If it was me, I'd pick brown, because I seriously hate the color pink. FOMO: I don't have a Facebook. I don't have cable. I don't Twitter. I don't own a TV, or a car. I don't have an iPad, iPhone or any sort of Smartphone for that matter. My phone is a bottom of the line cell phone that just makes calls, and I do not text (too expensive). But while I don't have a *fear* of missing out, I do know that I *am* missing out on life (I'm very isolated with no friends who live near me, no family of my own, no spouse, no boyfriend or mate, and earn under poverty-level income), and that most people DO live happier lives than I do. It's just a fact, and I don't need constant reminders like Twitters and Facebook to know that. This fact doesn't make me overextend myself though. I just keep plodding on through life, trying to save what little I can and still survive. Wallet: Who cares what color? Does it matter? It’s inside your purse. Go with the color that you will enjoy seeing all the time. If it was me, I’d pick brown, because I seriously hate the color pink.

FOMO: I don’t have a Facebook. I don’t have cable. I don’t Twitter. I don’t own a TV, or a car. I don’t have an iPad, iPhone or any sort of Smartphone for that matter. My phone is a bottom of the line cell phone that just makes calls, and I do not text (too expensive).

But while I don’t have a *fear* of missing out, I do know that I *am* missing out on life (I’m very isolated with no friends who live near me, no family of my own, no spouse, no boyfriend or mate, and earn under poverty-level income), and that most people DO live happier lives than I do. It’s just a fact, and I don’t need constant reminders like Twitters and Facebook to know that. This fact doesn’t make me overextend myself though. I just keep plodding on through life, trying to save what little I can and still survive.

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]]> By: Panda http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2486582 Panda Fri, 16 Mar 2012 13:11:42 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2486582 I had to conquer my own FOMO issues during college. Not about buying things or spending money, but about making sure I got enough sleep. I've always been an 8 hrs/night girl. It's what I need to function well. It took me a while to accept that YES, I was likely going to miss out on some things by going to bed before everyone else, but we're all different and it's what I need. Still true to this day... I very rarely catch the end of whatever the big game is if it's at night. I have to sleep. I had to conquer my own FOMO issues during college. Not about buying things or spending money, but about making sure I got enough sleep. I’ve always been an 8 hrs/night girl. It’s what I need to function well.

It took me a while to accept that YES, I was likely going to miss out on some things by going to bed before everyone else, but we’re all different and it’s what I need.

Still true to this day… I very rarely catch the end of whatever the big game is if it’s at night. I have to sleep.

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]]> By: Each Peso Counts http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2486542 Each Peso Counts Fri, 16 Mar 2012 12:53:49 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2486542 I've always felt the FOMO when i was in college. It's true that I can afford to go with my classmates every time they decide to "have a drink", eat out and enjoy the night - this dragged on even after 2 years of working as a speech and language pathologist in the philippines. However, I've learned that even if there will always be people who may seem to live "the life" with all the Stuff that they have, the intrinsic level of happiness that only I can provide myself still matter more (than what other people will commend me for). I’ve always felt the FOMO when i was in college. It’s true that I can afford to go with my classmates every time they decide to “have a drink”, eat out and enjoy the night – this dragged on even after 2 years of working as a speech and language pathologist in the philippines. However, I’ve learned that even if there will always be people who may seem to live “the life” with all the Stuff that they have, the intrinsic level of happiness that only I can provide myself still matter more (than what other people will commend me for).

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]]> By: Louise http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2486172 Louise Fri, 16 Mar 2012 08:25:11 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2486172 Also keep in mind that the "sunlit sides" on Facebook can hide those shadows. A friend posted vacation photos and it was ironic to see people commenting "You two look so happy!" when I know that this couple is hardly even speaking to each other. Take it all with a grain of salt. Also keep in mind that the “sunlit sides” on Facebook can hide those shadows. A friend posted vacation photos and it was ironic to see people commenting “You two look so happy!” when I know that this couple is hardly even speaking to each other. Take it all with a grain of salt.

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]]> By: Lois http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2485612 Lois Fri, 16 Mar 2012 03:56:51 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2485612 I work full-time, have a part-time business at home, and attend 1 class per semester. I check my emails everyday and rarely go to Facebook. I don't need to see what is happening to everybody, and they don't need to know everything about me either. I didn't get cable until about 8 years ago, and mostly watch ME-TV or other basic channels, when there is time. I don't miss most of the TV shows that people talk about; I'd rather read a great book. Also, Go Pink! Anybody can go brown, but get the one you keep going back to. You will be happier with the one you love. I work full-time, have a part-time business at home, and attend 1 class per semester.
I check my emails everyday and rarely go to Facebook. I don’t need to see what is happening to everybody, and they don’t need to know everything about me either.
I didn’t get cable until about 8 years ago, and mostly watch ME-TV or other basic channels, when there is time. I don’t miss most of the TV shows that people talk about; I’d rather read a great book.
Also, Go Pink! Anybody can go brown, but get the one you keep going back to. You will be happier with the one you love.

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]]> By: Maria http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2485472 Maria Fri, 16 Mar 2012 02:53:48 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2485472 I vote for pink but that's the way I roll. Love the pink. :) My FOMO is when I have to miss a yoga class some times. I vote for pink but that’s the way I roll. Love the pink. :)

My FOMO is when I have to miss a yoga class some times.

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]]> By: Elizabeth Lukes http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2485292 Elizabeth Lukes Fri, 16 Mar 2012 01:40:43 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2485292 Brown is a very safe color, usually appropriate and it blends in with everything. A wallet is a small accessory that allows for a little flamboyance. Think pink! Brown is a very safe color, usually appropriate and it blends in with everything. A wallet is a small accessory that allows for a little flamboyance. Think pink!

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]]> By: whoisbiggles http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2485192 whoisbiggles Fri, 16 Mar 2012 01:02:23 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2485192 If anyone is interested borrow the following books from your local library: Status Anxiety by Alain de Botton - this book looks at the causes of Status Anxiety (or FOMO if you prefer) and looks at different ways the feelings of inadequacy can be addressed. The Idle Parent by Tom Hodgkinson - looked this book, challenges parents to spend time and not just money on children. The joy of making bread (not in a cursed bread maker) with kids is magic If anyone is interested borrow the following books from your local library:

Status Anxiety by Alain de Botton – this book looks at the causes of Status Anxiety (or FOMO if you prefer) and looks at different ways the feelings of inadequacy can be addressed.

The Idle Parent by Tom Hodgkinson – looked this book, challenges parents to spend time and not just money on children. The joy of making bread (not in a cursed bread maker) with kids is magic

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]]> By: chris http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484942 chris Thu, 15 Mar 2012 23:08:48 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484942 That helps! Also, for future reference, it is correct to spell out the words first then present the acronym, not the other way around. After you do that, you can just use the acronym in the body of the work. Sorry, but this is what I do for a living (English instructor), so these types of things always jump out at me. That helps! Also, for future reference, it is correct to spell out the words first then present the acronym, not the other way around. After you do that, you can just use the acronym in the body of the work. Sorry, but this is what I do for a living (English instructor), so these types of things always jump out at me.

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]]> By: bareheadedwoman http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484852 bareheadedwoman Thu, 15 Mar 2012 22:31:05 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484852 unless a monochromatic color choice extraordinarily pleases your visual aesthetic; otherwise, if a contrasting color choice... of course if you personally get no kicks from visual aesthetics then of course any either or that works will do.. but if you can get a free kick from a color choice on something you have decided to purchase anyway, why on earth would you turn down a kick? unless a monochromatic color choice extraordinarily pleases your visual aesthetic; otherwise, if a contrasting color choice…

of course if you personally get no kicks from visual aesthetics then of course any either or that works will do..

but if you can get a free kick from a color choice on something you have decided to purchase anyway, why on earth would you turn down a kick?

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]]> By: bareheadedwoman http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484842 bareheadedwoman Thu, 15 Mar 2012 22:22:50 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484842 a very brave statement to make a very brave statement to make

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]]> By: bareheadedwoman http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484832 bareheadedwoman Thu, 15 Mar 2012 22:15:23 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484832 ~chuckles~ oh poor kid, but good for you! ~chuckles~ oh poor kid, but good for you!

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]]> By: bareheadedwoman http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484792 bareheadedwoman Thu, 15 Mar 2012 22:06:06 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484792 uh oh, I really really didn't need to know Mad5 was gonna be on iTunes uh oh, I really really didn’t need to know Mad5 was gonna be on iTunes

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]]> By: bareheadedwoman http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484782 bareheadedwoman Thu, 15 Mar 2012 22:02:10 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484782 yah, i suppose i'm in the brown camp. tho' I think pink is great...specially if the purse is pink i'm not matchy about anything usually but for some odd reason a matching purse and wallet gives me a happy sigh...but that's just me. yah, i suppose i’m in the brown camp. tho’ I think pink is great…specially if the purse is pink

i’m not matchy about anything usually but for some odd reason a matching purse and wallet gives me a happy sigh…but that’s just me.

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]]> By: Ash (in US) http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484772 Ash (in US) Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:59:06 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484772 Was it, "You Can't Do That on Television"? :) Was it, “You Can’t Do That on Television”? :)

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]]> By: Amanda http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484762 Amanda Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:55:23 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484762 no tv in the sun room. ;) no tv in the sun room. ;)

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]]> By: Ann http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484752 Ann Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:50:31 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484752 Nothing constructive to add...except posts like this one are why I love having April on GRS. Nothing constructive to add…except posts like this one are why I love having April on GRS.

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]]> By: Amanda http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484742 Amanda Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:44:54 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484742 Apple used FOMO with the iPhone advertising campaign "everyone can have one" when they were $99. Apple used FOMO with the iPhone advertising campaign “everyone can have one” when they were $99.

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]]> By: Karla http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484652 Karla Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:26:37 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484652 just buy the series on iTunes..you're only 1 day behind. and that's much cheaper. now if HBO would put out Game of Thrones in real time... just buy the series on iTunes..you’re only 1 day behind.

and that’s much cheaper.

now if HBO would put out Game of Thrones in real time…

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]]> By: Doter http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484642 Doter Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:23:48 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484642 I think one aspect that differentiates FOMO from "keeping up with the Jones's" is the fear part. Fear doesn't have to have any basis in reality. You don't have to see what your neighbours have to assume that they own things or are experiencing things that you aren't. With FOMO, there isn't anything specific that is being coveted... it's just a general feeling, or in this case, fear, of being left behind. When one "keeps up with the Jones's", jealousy or an increased desire to buy consumer goods is fuelled by visual examples. (S)he sees the neighbour's new care, manicured lawns, new toys and wants those specific items. In this case, specific goods are coveted. The former is quite similar to the "imposter syndrome". I see it all the time with grad students, and admittedly suffer from it myself sometimes. It's the idea thateveryone around you is smarter, that they are more "aware" of contemporary issues, and a general fear that someone will realize that you aren't smart, aren't talented, etc. In can be debilitating. I think one aspect that differentiates FOMO from “keeping up with the Jones’s” is the fear part. Fear doesn’t have to have any basis in reality. You don’t have to see what your neighbours have to assume that they own things or are experiencing things that you aren’t. With FOMO, there isn’t anything specific that is being coveted… it’s just a general feeling, or in this case, fear, of being left behind.

When one “keeps up with the Jones’s”, jealousy or an increased desire to buy consumer goods is fuelled by visual examples. (S)he sees the neighbour’s new care, manicured lawns, new toys and wants those specific items. In this case, specific goods are coveted.

The former is quite similar to the “imposter syndrome”. I see it all the time with grad students, and admittedly suffer from it myself sometimes. It’s the idea thateveryone around you is smarter, that they are more “aware” of contemporary issues, and a general fear that someone will realize that you aren’t smart, aren’t talented, etc. In can be debilitating.

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]]> By: Michelle http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484622 Michelle Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:12:52 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484622 I've got FOMO, fo sho! I think our society breeds this sort of mentality. That's the whole point of advertisements, right? You gotta have this car...and this body...and these shoes. Of course, you wouldn't know about those tempting ads on cable, right? Lucky you!! Ignorance is bliss. I've never decided I didn't want to be someone's friend because of their lack of cool stuff. I’ve got FOMO, fo sho! I think our society breeds this sort of mentality. That’s the whole point of advertisements, right? You gotta have this car…and this body…and these shoes. Of course, you wouldn’t know about those tempting ads on cable, right? Lucky you!! Ignorance is bliss. I’ve never decided I didn’t want to be someone’s friend because of their lack of cool stuff.

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]]> By: Doter http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-1/#comment-2484612 Doter Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:12:23 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484612 Serenity now! Serenity now!

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]]> By: j http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2012/03/15/do-you-suffer-from-fomo/comment-page-2/#comment-2484602 j Thu, 15 Mar 2012 21:06:57 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=126982#comment-2484602 Wallet color is immaterial...if it holds your cash and cards then color is optional. Marketing strikes again...matching is only important because you believed someone who said that because they wanted to sell more goods. good post otherwise... Wallet color is immaterial…if it holds your cash and cards then color is optional. Marketing strikes again…matching is only important because you believed someone who said that because they wanted to sell more goods.

good post otherwise…

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