Comments on: Reader story: 10 financial lessons I learned from my parents’ divorce http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/ Common sense advice on money saving tips, how to get out of debt, high interest savings accounts, cd rates, money market accounts, mortgage rates, money management and more. Sun, 19 May 2013 15:01:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jackson White http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3317325 Jackson White Mon, 22 Apr 2013 20:58:48 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3317325 One of the biggest reasons clients come to us is because of differences in spending habits. A lot of couples think think they can just tough it out because they love each other- but whether its pleasant to look at marriage in this way marriage is a financial decision just as much as an emotional one. One of the biggest reasons clients come to us is because of differences in spending habits. A lot of couples think think they can just tough it out because they love each other- but whether its pleasant to look at marriage in this way marriage is a financial decision just as much as an emotional one.

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]]> By: momo http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3279645 momo Thu, 07 Feb 2013 19:29:05 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3279645 KSR: I completely concur, society as a whole needs to accept prenups and postnups. I would like to hear your ideas, what are positive ways to raise such a delicate topic with a partner? I've read the book "Prenups for Lovers" and so far that book has interesting ideas. Do you have any other resources on prenups that you can share? Thank you! KSR: I completely concur, society as a whole needs to accept prenups and postnups. I would like to hear your ideas, what are positive ways to raise such a delicate topic with a partner? I’ve read the book “Prenups for Lovers” and so far that book has interesting ideas. Do you have any other resources on prenups that you can share? Thank you!

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]]> By: Tina http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3217562 Tina Thu, 10 Jan 2013 22:33:48 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3217562 Try having a gambler as your spouse. My DH had a problem before we got married and I didn't even know it until about 2 years into our marriage. He hid it well. But when things started to come unraveled, I went and got a job after being a stay at home with our kids. After many years of struggle and lapses, he is finally gamble free and has been for 6 years. We had to work hard, I had to be tough and give him no access to money. He regrets his actions and now is involved with our bills and he is even telling me to put more into savings and we both just increased our 401k. I am very proud of him for working so hard to get things right. In 2012 we cleared $50,000 of our debt!! We are looking for even debt elimination this year!! Try having a gambler as your spouse. My DH had a problem before we got married and I didn’t even know it until about 2 years into our marriage. He hid it well. But when things started to come unraveled, I went and got a job after being a stay at home with our kids. After many years of struggle and lapses, he is finally gamble free and has been for 6 years. We had to work hard, I had to be tough and give him no access to money.

He regrets his actions and now is involved with our bills and he is even telling me to put more into savings and we both just increased our 401k. I am very proud of him for working so hard to get things right. In 2012 we cleared $50,000 of our debt!! We are looking for even debt elimination this year!!

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3207492 Untemplater Tue, 08 Jan 2013 09:49:48 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3207492 Thanks! That's good that you've learned from your mistakes and are much more on the same page with your husband now. We all have the chance to get out of debt and get in control of our finances if we put our minds to it. Every little bit counts! Thanks! That’s good that you’ve learned from your mistakes and are much more on the same page with your husband now. We all have the chance to get out of debt and get in control of our finances if we put our minds to it. Every little bit counts!

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3207462 Untemplater Tue, 08 Jan 2013 09:45:39 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3207462 Thanks a bunch Kathleen! Nice to run into you here. Thanks a bunch Kathleen! Nice to run into you here.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3207452 Untemplater Tue, 08 Jan 2013 09:44:22 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3207452 Ha how funny. Perhaps we're sisters from another life. :) I'm glad to hear both of your parents remarried and found spouses that they're more compatible with financially. It's nice to be able to share similar financial goals with someone since money is such a big part of life whether we want it to be or not. Ha how funny. Perhaps we’re sisters from another life. :) I’m glad to hear both of your parents remarried and found spouses that they’re more compatible with financially. It’s nice to be able to share similar financial goals with someone since money is such a big part of life whether we want it to be or not.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3207412 Untemplater Tue, 08 Jan 2013 09:38:21 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3207412 Wow thanks so much Karen!! Wow thanks so much Karen!!

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]]> By: Kathleen, Frugal Portland http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3205202 Kathleen, Frugal Portland Mon, 07 Jan 2013 21:04:00 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3205202 What great insight you have, Sydney! I'm happy to learn more about you. This was eye opening. What great insight you have, Sydney! I’m happy to learn more about you. This was eye opening.

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]]> By: eileen http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3204882 eileen Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:41:50 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3204882 Please bring back copy editing. Thank you! Please bring back copy editing. Thank you!

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]]> By: Shari http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3204232 Shari Mon, 07 Jan 2013 16:21:16 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3204232 This sounded so much like my parents that I actually had to check and see if my sister was the author! My parents were the same way, and the divorce was the best thing for them. My mom found someone who doesn't mind her crazy spending habits, and my dad found someone as frugal as him. I think their second marriages are much happier than their first. This sounded so much like my parents that I actually had to check and see if my sister was the author! My parents were the same way, and the divorce was the best thing for them. My mom found someone who doesn’t mind her crazy spending habits, and my dad found someone as frugal as him. I think their second marriages are much happier than their first.

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]]> By: KSR http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202662 KSR Mon, 07 Jan 2013 05:30:12 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202662 You're right. It may take another 10 years. I can't tell you how many times I've had a shaken up spouse feeling guilty for signing on the dotted line! But, that same person wouldn't think twice of paying the extra warranty add-on of 49.95 for the purchase of an Ipad. I guess I think of things very differently. You’re right. It may take another 10 years. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a shaken up spouse feeling guilty for signing on the dotted line! But, that same person wouldn’t think twice of paying the extra warranty add-on of 49.95 for the purchase of an Ipad. I guess I think of things very differently.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202652 Untemplater Mon, 07 Jan 2013 05:19:17 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202652 You're right that finances really do get complicated and entwined after marriage. It will be interesting to see if society's views on prenups change at all in 5-10-15 years. I think a lot of people feel offended when the word prenup comes up. You’re right that finances really do get complicated and entwined after marriage. It will be interesting to see if society’s views on prenups change at all in 5-10-15 years. I think a lot of people feel offended when the word prenup comes up.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202642 Untemplater Mon, 07 Jan 2013 05:05:08 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202642 I'm glad you're happier now and that's fantastic to hear that you found someone new in your life! I’m glad you’re happier now and that’s fantastic to hear that you found someone new in your life!

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202612 Untemplater Mon, 07 Jan 2013 04:49:45 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202612 Sorry to hear that. How frustrating that must have been to find out things weren't as you expected, especially since you two talked about money before getting married. People and relationships sure can be incredibly complicated. Sorry to hear that. How frustrating that must have been to find out things weren’t as you expected, especially since you two talked about money before getting married. People and relationships sure can be incredibly complicated.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202602 Untemplater Mon, 07 Jan 2013 04:29:58 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202602 Oh my gosh how awful that must have been. I'm glad you don't have to deal with that anymore! Oh my gosh how awful that must have been. I’m glad you don’t have to deal with that anymore!

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]]> By: Evangeline http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202532 Evangeline Mon, 07 Jan 2013 03:43:29 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202532 My story: Althrough dating and the engagement my boyfriend/fiance was the epitome of finacial responsibility. We talked,planned and dreamed of the future and made wise money decisions. Then we got married and the burden of carrying a facade was too much for him. Within days, I cleary saw not only were we not on the same page, we never would be. Mistrust combined with differen money philosphies makes for a difficult marriage. My only addition to your observant and wise post would be that once you've gotten to know your future spouse, get to know them a little more. My story: Althrough dating and the engagement my boyfriend/fiance was the epitome of finacial responsibility. We talked,planned and dreamed of the future and made wise money decisions. Then we got married and the burden of carrying a facade was too much for him. Within days, I cleary saw not only were we not on the same page, we never would be. Mistrust combined with differen money philosphies makes for a difficult marriage. My only addition to your observant and wise post would be that once you’ve gotten to know your future spouse, get to know them a little more.

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]]> By: KSR http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202452 KSR Mon, 07 Jan 2013 02:54:18 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202452 There is no shame in a Prenup or Postnup. As a retired attorney, there is only respect, decency, and rational forethought implied. The sooner, as a society, we get over it...the better off we (and any dependents) will be. If you don't have the forethought of a Prenup (so much easier), then seek a Postnup (a little more complicated due to entwined assets/liabilities/taxes). And go ahead and download the $19.95 version on the internet and fill it out prior to the appointment with an attorney. We appreciate (and acknowledge) that. We just alter it to suit the guidelines of the particular State and situation and make modifications for signature--- but it will cost you significantly less, a deep discount in our overall fee. Again--I'm retired, so I don't care and I'm not selling anything here! That $19.95 of internet download will save you about a thousand or more in dollars (Good GRS need-to-know) and possibly save you much more in drama and legal fees, if need be, down the road. The protocol varies by state (you may have no need for an attorney--- just a notary at your local bank will do--though I always advise an attorney), but it's always best to think of these things (and plan) when things are good---not after they get nasty. Ask any attorney if they love these contracts, we do--by percentage and complicated case. They aren't foolproof and there are time restrictions that apply. It should be the other way around: The people holding them should favor and advocate for them...to all others. Life happens, protect yourself. There is no shame in a Prenup or Postnup. As a retired attorney, there is only respect, decency, and rational forethought implied. The sooner, as a society, we get over it…the better off we (and any dependents) will be. If you don’t have the forethought of a Prenup (so much easier), then seek a Postnup (a little more complicated due to entwined assets/liabilities/taxes). And go ahead and download the $19.95 version on the internet and fill it out prior to the appointment with an attorney. We appreciate (and acknowledge) that. We just alter it to suit the guidelines of the particular State and situation and make modifications for signature— but it will cost you significantly less, a deep discount in our overall fee. Again–I’m retired, so I don’t care and I’m not selling anything here! That $19.95 of internet download will save you about a thousand or more in dollars (Good GRS need-to-know) and possibly save you much more in drama and legal fees, if need be, down the road. The protocol varies by state (you may have no need for an attorney— just a notary at your local bank will do–though I always advise an attorney), but it’s always best to think of these things (and plan) when things are good—not after they get nasty. Ask any attorney if they love these contracts, we do–by percentage and complicated case. They aren’t foolproof and there are time restrictions that apply. It should be the other way around: The people holding them should favor and advocate for them…to all others. Life happens, protect yourself.

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]]> By: One Day At A Time http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202202 One Day At A Time Sun, 06 Jan 2013 23:35:10 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202202 Excellent post. My husband and I have had some pretty serious issues in the past due to my profligate ways, thank goodness we are mostly on the same page now!! There were times as he was figuring out 0% transfers when he wondered if out marriage was going to work (while I was blissfully unaware and clueless of how much my spending was damaging our relationship). Excellent post. My husband and I have had some pretty serious issues in the past due to my profligate ways, thank goodness we are mostly on the same page now!! There were times as he was figuring out 0% transfers when he wondered if out marriage was going to work (while I was blissfully unaware and clueless of how much my spending was damaging our relationship).

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]]> By: Megan http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202192 Megan Sun, 06 Jan 2013 23:31:27 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202192 That sounds exactly like what my dad does. I try and explain it's not really a deal when you don't need a TV, but he buys it anyway. That sounds exactly like what my dad does. I try and explain it’s not really a deal when you don’t need a TV, but he buys it anyway.

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]]> By: Peach http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202172 Peach Sun, 06 Jan 2013 23:28:42 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202172 Good for you, Sydney. For me, it's spending time hanging out with friends and family at our homes. That beats shopping any day. Good for you, Sydney. For me, it’s spending time hanging out with friends and family at our homes. That beats shopping any day.

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]]> By: Peach http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202162 Peach Sun, 06 Jan 2013 23:18:28 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202162 So true, Beth. Been there, done that! So true, Beth. Been there, done that!

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202132 Untemplater Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:46:47 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202132 Believe me I've had my fair share of frustrating conversations with my mom, but I don't resent her. She raised me on a small salary and sacrificed a lot of things to give me a good life. I actually feel bad for not being more sensitive as a kid and wish I had gotten involved in helping her sort out her finances sooner. My dad had his own faults too like quitting jobs without having something else lined up and not being able to control his anger. In any case, there's always a decent amount of sadness and unfortunate circumstances in any divorce, and I don't think it's healthy to assign more blame on one person over another. What I am thankful for is that they were strong enough to recognize they needed to part ways for the benefit of all of us! Believe me I’ve had my fair share of frustrating conversations with my mom, but I don’t resent her. She raised me on a small salary and sacrificed a lot of things to give me a good life. I actually feel bad for not being more sensitive as a kid and wish I had gotten involved in helping her sort out her finances sooner.

My dad had his own faults too like quitting jobs without having something else lined up and not being able to control his anger.

In any case, there’s always a decent amount of sadness and unfortunate circumstances in any divorce, and I don’t think it’s healthy to assign more blame on one person over another.

What I am thankful for is that they were strong enough to recognize they needed to part ways for the benefit of all of us!

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]]> By: tansy http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202122 tansy Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:32:59 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202122 Well, she did say her father quit his job without anything lined up "several times." That is financially irresponsible and also hints at some other possible issues (he could have been a hothead, or easily frustrated, or unwilling to compromise/work with others, none of which bode well for a happy marriage). I agree that her mother needed to learn to be mature and responsible with money, but it takes two people to make a marriage (good or bad). Well, she did say her father quit his job without anything lined up “several times.” That is financially irresponsible and also hints at some other possible issues (he could have been a hothead, or easily frustrated, or unwilling to compromise/work with others, none of which bode well for a happy marriage).

I agree that her mother needed to learn to be mature and responsible with money, but it takes two people to make a marriage (good or bad).

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202102 Untemplater Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:28:02 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202102 Thanks for the long comment! That's nice you got some of the giveaways before they went to Goodwill! Oh man I've donated so much stuff to Goodwill over the last several years it's crazy. Especially the multiple car loads out of my mom's house. I think all the time I spent cleaning out her house really helped her realize how out of control her spending was for so long. Thanks for the long comment! That’s nice you got some of the giveaways before they went to Goodwill! Oh man I’ve donated so much stuff to Goodwill over the last several years it’s crazy. Especially the multiple car loads out of my mom’s house. I think all the time I spent cleaning out her house really helped her realize how out of control her spending was for so long.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202052 Untemplater Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:21:37 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202052 As I mentioned in some of the above comments she's doing better but it took a long time and a lot of patience to get her where she is now. She lived most of her life depending on other people to sort out the finances and facing her responsibilities has been really tough. As I mentioned in some of the above comments she’s doing better but it took a long time and a lot of patience to get her where she is now. She lived most of her life depending on other people to sort out the finances and facing her responsibilities has been really tough.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202032 Untemplater Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:18:38 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202032 Thanks Rail. Yes, my grandparents were a big positive influence on me as well. I didn't get to see them very often, but it was nice knowing that not everyone in my family was constantly fighting. Thanks Rail. Yes, my grandparents were a big positive influence on me as well. I didn’t get to see them very often, but it was nice knowing that not everyone in my family was constantly fighting.

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202022 Untemplater Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:12:23 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202022 Thanks Peach! Yeah my mom is better now but she still struggles and it's taken a lot to get her to where she is now. She used to get so mad at me when I'd start talking to her about her financial situation. I didn't realize how scared she was to look at her numbers and that facing her finances made her feel really depressed. So I had to be really patient, supportive of her, and persistent. I had to help her find fun in saving, and talk her through a lot of things. What she learned from me through all of this was that I genuinely enjoy saving money, that it takes effort to plan for the future, that every little bit of saving helps, and that it's bad to have a lot of credit cards! Thanks Peach! Yeah my mom is better now but she still struggles and it’s taken a lot to get her to where she is now. She used to get so mad at me when I’d start talking to her about her financial situation. I didn’t realize how scared she was to look at her numbers and that facing her finances made her feel really depressed. So I had to be really patient, supportive of her, and persistent. I had to help her find fun in saving, and talk her through a lot of things.

What she learned from me through all of this was that I genuinely enjoy saving money, that it takes effort to plan for the future, that every little bit of saving helps, and that it’s bad to have a lot of credit cards!

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]]> By: Untemplater http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/06/reader-story-10-financial-lessons-i-learned-from-my-parents%e2%80%99-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3202012 Untemplater Sun, 06 Jan 2013 21:55:04 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=158412#comment-3202012 Yep. If a couple is too uncomfortable to talk about money before getting engaged they will be in for a nasty awakening after tying the knot. A successful marriage does require a lot of planning and open communication. Yep. If a couple is too uncomfortable to talk about money before getting engaged they will be in for a nasty awakening after tying the knot. A successful marriage does require a lot of planning and open communication.

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