Comments on: My New Year’s resolution: lowering the bar for happiness http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/ Common sense advice on money saving tips, how to get out of debt, high interest savings accounts, cd rates, money market accounts, mortgage rates, money management and more. Sat, 18 May 2013 18:34:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Ely http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3249132 Ely Tue, 22 Jan 2013 17:25:30 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3249132 Any time someone expects or demands something they haven't earned, that's entitlement. Kids graduate college and expect the lifestyle they had at home with their parents - that their parents spent 20+ years earning. People who demand acknowledgement for things they haven't put the least effort into. I have a teammate who expects prime position based on seniority, when in fact she rarely shows up for practice and hasn't improved her skills in the 10+ years she's been paddling. Entitlement. (Lots of people think welfare etc is 'entitlement' and for some it probably is. For many, it's a last resort and I hate to see those unfortunates lumped in with the fraudsters.) Any time someone expects or demands something they haven’t earned, that’s entitlement. Kids graduate college and expect the lifestyle they had at home with their parents – that their parents spent 20+ years earning. People who demand acknowledgement for things they haven’t put the least effort into. I have a teammate who expects prime position based on seniority, when in fact she rarely shows up for practice and hasn’t improved her skills in the 10+ years she’s been paddling. Entitlement.
(Lots of people think welfare etc is ‘entitlement’ and for some it probably is. For many, it’s a last resort and I hate to see those unfortunates lumped in with the fraudsters.)

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]]> By: Ely http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3249092 Ely Tue, 22 Jan 2013 17:18:51 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3249092 Edward, I love seeing people like you at conventions - the dedication, creativity, and talent that people put into their costumes is really inspiring. Last year I started volunteering at the library in my neighborhood. Just a couple of hours a week, helping manage the hold shelf, it doesn't seem like much. But EVERY TIME I go, EVERY SINGLE staff member I speak to thanks me for being there, sincerely from the heart. It's a wonderful boost. Edward, I love seeing people like you at conventions – the dedication, creativity, and talent that people put into their costumes is really inspiring.

Last year I started volunteering at the library in my neighborhood. Just a couple of hours a week, helping manage the hold shelf, it doesn’t seem like much. But EVERY TIME I go, EVERY SINGLE staff member I speak to thanks me for being there, sincerely from the heart. It’s a wonderful boost.

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]]> By: Budget and the Beach http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3241102 Budget and the Beach Sat, 19 Jan 2013 16:34:31 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3241102 I think there must be something in the air this week because I just wrote a post about choosing happiness over sadness this week. And I've seen other similar posts. We have a negative biased brain. It so easy to ruminate about our mistakes, like you said. And I do the same thing too. But you're right in that it's too easy to dismiss all the wonderful thing in life. That's why practicing gratitude is so important. It helps remind you of the good things and keep them present with you. So last night I had THE BEST pizza for dinner. It was a last minute decision to get one but I savored every last bite-then tweeted about it. :) #happy I think there must be something in the air this week because I just wrote a post about choosing happiness over sadness this week. And I’ve seen other similar posts. We have a negative biased brain. It so easy to ruminate about our mistakes, like you said. And I do the same thing too. But you’re right in that it’s too easy to dismiss all the wonderful thing in life. That’s why practicing gratitude is so important. It helps remind you of the good things and keep them present with you. So last night I had THE BEST pizza for dinner. It was a last minute decision to get one but I savored every last bite-then tweeted about it. :) #happy

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]]> By: Debra http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3240482 Debra Sat, 19 Jan 2013 11:03:35 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3240482 This was an awesome article! It made me think about 2012 when I had three major accomplishments: lost the 10 pounds I have been trying to lose for years, passed my professional certification exam that I have been thinking about for years and won a national wellness award. I didn't really celebrate any of these things and what a shame! After I read your post I decided that it's time to do that and get into the habit of doing it. This was an awesome article! It made me think about 2012 when I had three major accomplishments: lost the 10 pounds I have been trying to lose for years, passed my professional certification exam that I have been thinking about for years and won a national wellness award. I didn’t really celebrate any of these things and what a shame! After I read your post I decided that it’s time to do that and get into the habit of doing it.

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]]> By: Wm http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3240122 Wm Sat, 19 Jan 2013 07:15:35 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3240122 I agree with Kristin's thoughts. And, my favorite way to celebrate my success is replaying the good moment in my mind and sharing it with my family. It makes me immensely happy and confident. But I am also the kind of person who does the same with my so-called failures. I keep replaying it in my mind to see where exactly I went wrong. Although it's really painful to examine one's own failures, being brutally honest with myself helps me to learn from my mistakes and stop living in denial. So, in a way I am my biggest critic AND my biggest fan. This is how I keep myself balanced. I agree with Kristin’s thoughts. And, my favorite way to celebrate my success is replaying the good moment in my mind and sharing it with my family. It makes me immensely happy and confident. But I am also the kind of person who does the same with my so-called failures. I keep replaying it in my mind to see where exactly I went wrong. Although it’s really painful to examine one’s own failures, being brutally honest with myself helps me to learn from my mistakes and stop living in denial. So, in a way I am my biggest critic AND my biggest fan. This is how I keep myself balanced.

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]]> By: Jacq http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3237592 Jacq Fri, 18 Jan 2013 12:38:40 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3237592 Kristin, you might find the book "The Tao of Abundance" by Laurence Boldt helpful. Here's an article that discusses the principles: http://www.soulfulliving.com/tao_of_abundance.htm Kristin, you might find the book “The Tao of Abundance” by Laurence Boldt helpful.

Here’s an article that discusses the principles:
http://www.soulfulliving.com/tao_of_abundance.htm

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]]> By: Ed Hoffmann http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3236372 Ed Hoffmann Fri, 18 Jan 2013 02:09:47 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3236372 I think we neglect to celebrate those successes because we expect them - our "plan" is to achieve and be rewarded, so when that happens, well that's what we expect. When we have setbacks, they take away from our "plan" and they sting harder. Essentially, your reverse entitlement, but more along the lines of not what we deserve, but of what we expect our efforts to produce. Thanks for making me stop to think and celebrate the wins, expected or not! I think we neglect to celebrate those successes because we expect them – our “plan” is to achieve and be rewarded, so when that happens, well that’s what we expect. When we have setbacks, they take away from our “plan” and they sting harder. Essentially, your reverse entitlement, but more along the lines of not what we deserve, but of what we expect our efforts to produce.

Thanks for making me stop to think and celebrate the wins, expected or not!

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]]> By: Daniel http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3236362 Daniel Fri, 18 Jan 2013 02:09:35 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3236362 I hardly ever comment on this GRS blog these days, but I was truly touched by the sentiments expressed in this post. I'm going to save it and file it in my "inspiration" notebook. I think it's just a great idea that enjoying the "little things" is being frugal. I hardly ever comment on this GRS blog these days, but I was truly touched by the sentiments expressed in this post. I’m going to save it and file it in my “inspiration” notebook. I think it’s just a great idea that enjoying the “little things” is being frugal.

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]]> By: Jo@simplybeingmum http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235682 Jo@simplybeingmum Thu, 17 Jan 2013 22:15:26 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235682 Absolutely love this post. These days I rarely read something that makes me have a lightbulb moment. Sincerely I hadn't realised how much I play down things as I grow older. There's a great scene in 'Knocked up' where Ben and Pete observe Pete's Kids blowing bubbles. Pete wishes he could be as excited about anything as much as his Kids are about blowing bubbles. Ben comments 'I get it'- every time I watch that movie I think I wish I got it also. But I'm going to try. Thank you. Absolutely love this post. These days I rarely read something that makes me have a lightbulb moment. Sincerely I hadn’t realised how much I play down things as I grow older. There’s a great scene in ‘Knocked up’ where Ben and Pete observe Pete’s Kids blowing bubbles. Pete wishes he could be as excited about anything as much as his Kids are about blowing bubbles. Ben comments ‘I get it’- every time I watch that movie I think I wish I got it also. But I’m going to try. Thank you.

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]]> By: Cat http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235412 Cat Thu, 17 Jan 2013 20:46:04 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235412 I agree with what you say about setting the bar for happiness too high. It's so easy to freak out about little mistakes and then when something happens that is good just expect that it should be that way or that it's small. I need to get back into appreciating the small things. I agree with what you say about setting the bar for happiness too high. It’s so easy to freak out about little mistakes and then when something happens that is good just expect that it should be that way or that it’s small.

I need to get back into appreciating the small things.

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]]> By: Megan E. http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235402 Megan E. Thu, 17 Jan 2013 20:45:58 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235402 I agree with this, being in the same boat. For us, learning how to make bacon wrapped dates at home was a big thing - and easy to celebrate after (just eat them)! I think being a foodie is recognizing the value of what you just put in your mouth. In other words, remembering it 5 minutes later. I think it also means people who enjoy the work someone else put into giving you that food (or your own work). Foodies don't have to spend a lot or only eat "weird foods" - they just have to appreciate food as more than fuel. I agree with this, being in the same boat. For us, learning how to make bacon wrapped dates at home was a big thing – and easy to celebrate after (just eat them)!

I think being a foodie is recognizing the value of what you just put in your mouth. In other words, remembering it 5 minutes later. I think it also means people who enjoy the work someone else put into giving you that food (or your own work). Foodies don’t have to spend a lot or only eat “weird foods” – they just have to appreciate food as more than fuel.

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]]> By: Edward http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235352 Edward Thu, 17 Jan 2013 20:34:23 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235352 Entitlement is when somebody HASN'T worked to achieve or earn something yet they think it's their God-given right to have it anyway. Entitlement is when somebody HASN’T worked to achieve or earn something yet they think it’s their God-given right to have it anyway.

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]]> By: Edward http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235342 Edward Thu, 17 Jan 2013 20:33:04 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235342 As always, Kristin, really good article! Your area of expertise seems to be a very unique look at the psychology behind money and success. I always enjoy reading these from you. I'm also of the anti-entitlement group and it took years for me to realize that some folks think along the "this is what I deserve to have" line as opposed to my own "this is what I'll work to achieve" mindset. And I also never gave proper recognition to my achievements while mentally uplaying the failures. (Though I never saw them as "failures" so much as things I hadn't yet completed properly.) One small "life suggestion", if I may? Occasionally (and just occasionally) you should seek out a goal which will automatically get you recognition from the masses. Now everyone knows that happiness comes from within and chasing the praise of others is a fool's errand, but sometimes getting the "Well done--you're awesome!," slaps on the back can boost your self-esteem and it will thrive on that for years to come. The first time I had this as an adult was when I band I was in suddenly (and unexpectedly) started to become very popular. But I have a better, more recent example. Several years ago my best friend and I started to attend science fiction conventions. It wasn't long before we started making our own costumes to attend. (I know, strange hobby, right?) As a bit of a perfectionist freak who pays attention to detail, I obviously put tons of work (usually over the winters) into my different outfits. When I show up at a convention in full gear and see the smiles (on adults and kids), hear the "Awesomes!", have people ask to have their photo taken with me, tell me I'm dressed as their favourite character, ask me to dance with them. Seeing how happy I'm making them is just, well... Super! (Okay, one of the costumes is a superhero, but I digress.) And it's impossible to keep your "happiness bar" high when you see how happy you've made others. You hit the small milestone, it's actually a big deal, and you know it. So, while I never believe that people should constantly strive to seek out external affirmation (because that's part of what puts so many people in the financial toilet--they think that success is showing others purchased stuff and that's a never-ending spiral), occasionally (just occasionally) you should do endeavor to do something that shows the world, "BAM! Look at me!!" As always, Kristin, really good article! Your area of expertise seems to be a very unique look at the psychology behind money and success. I always enjoy reading these from you.

I’m also of the anti-entitlement group and it took years for me to realize that some folks think along the “this is what I deserve to have” line as opposed to my own “this is what I’ll work to achieve” mindset. And I also never gave proper recognition to my achievements while mentally uplaying the failures. (Though I never saw them as “failures” so much as things I hadn’t yet completed properly.)

One small “life suggestion”, if I may? Occasionally (and just occasionally) you should seek out a goal which will automatically get you recognition from the masses. Now everyone knows that happiness comes from within and chasing the praise of others is a fool’s errand, but sometimes getting the “Well done–you’re awesome!,” slaps on the back can boost your self-esteem and it will thrive on that for years to come.

The first time I had this as an adult was when I band I was in suddenly (and unexpectedly) started to become very popular. But I have a better, more recent example. Several years ago my best friend and I started to attend science fiction conventions. It wasn’t long before we started making our own costumes to attend. (I know, strange hobby, right?) As a bit of a perfectionist freak who pays attention to detail, I obviously put tons of work (usually over the winters) into my different outfits. When I show up at a convention in full gear and see the smiles (on adults and kids), hear the “Awesomes!”, have people ask to have their photo taken with me, tell me I’m dressed as their favourite character, ask me to dance with them. Seeing how happy I’m making them is just, well… Super! (Okay, one of the costumes is a superhero, but I digress.) And it’s impossible to keep your “happiness bar” high when you see how happy you’ve made others. You hit the small milestone, it’s actually a big deal, and you know it.

So, while I never believe that people should constantly strive to seek out external affirmation (because that’s part of what puts so many people in the financial toilet–they think that success is showing others purchased stuff and that’s a never-ending spiral), occasionally (just occasionally) you should do endeavor to do something that shows the world, “BAM! Look at me!!”

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]]> By: M http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235332 M Thu, 17 Jan 2013 20:32:53 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235332 I don't know about anyone else, but Kristin's posting is wonderful! Brought a smile to my face today:) I don’t know about anyone else, but Kristin’s posting is wonderful! Brought a smile to my face today:)

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]]> By: trish http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235082 trish Thu, 17 Jan 2013 18:30:24 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235082 Just because a person writes about something in her life that isn't strictly financial, doesn't mean that the point she's making can't be applied to life in a financial way. In fact, while I was reading this post, I was thinking about the sense of accomplishment (and happiness) I feel when paying bills, now that I'm able to pay them in full each month. What used to cause stress (unhappiness) now feels pretty good. And how enjoying a Stroh's Lemon Custard or Blue Moon ice cream cone from my favorite dairy - at half the price of a cone from the more fashionable 'Creamery' place across town - makes me smile and giggle like a little kid. It's seriously good ice cream! And how there is joy to be found in doing simple things around the house, like caring for the garden, or cooking a good meal, or using the sewing skills my grandmother taught me to sew on buttons or repair a ripped seam so I can maintain our family's clothes or other belongings, instead of throwing them away and buying new. There are lots of seemingly small experiences that we have in our daily lives that can contribute to a sense of accomplishment and well-being and, yes, frugality. The celebration of these experiences doesn't need to be shouted from the rooftops - it can just be a quiet sense of accomplishment or pride in something well done. And when you're happy with what you have and who you are, it helps you realize that you don't need to go shopping for happiness elsewhere, on borrowed money. Just because a person writes about something in her life that isn’t strictly financial, doesn’t mean that the point she’s making can’t be applied to life in a financial way. In fact, while I was reading this post, I was thinking about the sense of accomplishment (and happiness) I feel when paying bills, now that I’m able to pay them in full each month. What used to cause stress (unhappiness) now feels pretty good. And how enjoying a Stroh’s Lemon Custard or Blue Moon ice cream cone from my favorite dairy – at half the price of a cone from the more fashionable ‘Creamery’ place across town – makes me smile and giggle like a little kid. It’s seriously good ice cream! And how there is joy to be found in doing simple things around the house, like caring for the garden, or cooking a good meal, or using the sewing skills my grandmother taught me to sew on buttons or repair a ripped seam so I can maintain our family’s clothes or other belongings, instead of throwing them away and buying new. There are lots of seemingly small experiences that we have in our daily lives that can contribute to a sense of accomplishment and well-being and, yes, frugality. The celebration of these experiences doesn’t need to be shouted from the rooftops – it can just be a quiet sense of accomplishment or pride in something well done. And when you’re happy with what you have and who you are, it helps you realize that you don’t need to go shopping for happiness elsewhere, on borrowed money.

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]]> By: krantcents http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3235022 krantcents Thu, 17 Jan 2013 18:21:24 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3235022 I used to be big on rewards, but over time I realized the accomplishment is the reward. Do I need an incentive to do some of the things I do not want to do? Sometimes, however those rewards are getting smaller and smaller. I think my mind games have taken over to provide the incentive. I used to be big on rewards, but over time I realized the accomplishment is the reward. Do I need an incentive to do some of the things I do not want to do? Sometimes, however those rewards are getting smaller and smaller. I think my mind games have taken over to provide the incentive.

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]]> By: DC Portland http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234952 DC Portland Thu, 17 Jan 2013 18:03:42 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234952 I am an "expert" in happiness science with a master's degree in applied positive psychology from Penn. There is A LOT of work being done on human well-being, and happiness in particular. A simple rule of thumb, consistent with your post today, is Expectation - Reality = Happiness. Of course, it's not that simple. Another key factor of happiness is to avoid connecting your well-being with extrinsic factors (e.g. accumulating things, being popular, image) and focus more on intrinsic factors (building community, expressing gratitude, health). Good luck with your resolution. I am an “expert” in happiness science with a master’s degree in applied positive psychology from Penn. There is A LOT of work being done on human well-being, and happiness in particular. A simple rule of thumb, consistent with your post today, is Expectation – Reality = Happiness. Of course, it’s not that simple.

Another key factor of happiness is to avoid connecting your well-being with extrinsic factors (e.g. accumulating things, being popular, image) and focus more on intrinsic factors (building community, expressing gratitude, health).

Good luck with your resolution.

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]]> By: Sam http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234942 Sam Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:59:55 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234942 $5000 is no small milestone. $5000 is no small milestone.

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]]> By: Amber http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234922 Amber Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:54:26 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234922 I appreciate this article. It's nice to remember that the journey is as important as the destination, and that the journey doesn't have to be all struggle and strife. Little wonders, little victories... I can have them often! I appreciate this article. It’s nice to remember that the journey is as important as the destination, and that the journey doesn’t have to be all struggle and strife. Little wonders, little victories… I can have them often!

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]]> By: Kristin http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234882 Kristin Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:30:22 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234882 Haha--I totally remembered your love of jalapeno cream cheese bagels when I wrote about the doughnuts! And congrats on paying off those debts! Definitely something to celebrate. Haha–I totally remembered your love of jalapeno cream cheese bagels when I wrote about the doughnuts!

And congrats on paying off those debts! Definitely something to celebrate.

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]]> By: Kristin http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234862 Kristin Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:26:30 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234862 Congrats on getting the volunteer position! Is it something that's lost over time? For me, yeah. I'm not sure why, though the obvious answer is that lifestyle inflation has paved the way for happiness inflation. Hate to admit that, but I think that's what it is. I'm not struggling as much as I used to, so I no longer appreciate the small breaks. And that needs to stop! Congrats on getting the volunteer position!

Is it something that’s lost over time? For me, yeah. I’m not sure why, though the obvious answer is that lifestyle inflation has paved the way for happiness inflation. Hate to admit that, but I think that’s what it is. I’m not struggling as much as I used to, so I no longer appreciate the small breaks. And that needs to stop!

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]]> By: Jen http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234852 Jen Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:25:51 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234852 That's not how people are using it, I don't think? Entitlement here seems to mean people who whine about their personal circumstances but want to work or put forth effort to change it. That is, someone who is upset that someone else has -- fine wine, clothes they never wear, etc. -- but makes no effort to get it because they feel they should just have it. What you're describing is, well, I don't know, someone who's worried that someone else might whine about them? That's a whole different kind of annoyance! That’s not how people are using it, I don’t think?

Entitlement here seems to mean people who whine about their personal circumstances but want to work or put forth effort to change it.

That is, someone who is upset that someone else has — fine wine, clothes they never wear, etc. — but makes no effort to get it because they feel they should just have it.

What you’re describing is, well, I don’t know, someone who’s worried that someone else might whine about them? That’s a whole different kind of annoyance!

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]]> By: Allyson http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234832 Allyson Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:23:53 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234832 I was also intrigued at the juicer-pulp-scones idea. I don't even have a juicer but this sounds like a great idea! I was also intrigued at the juicer-pulp-scones idea. I don’t even have a juicer but this sounds like a great idea!

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]]> By: Kristin http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234812 Kristin Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:15:29 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234812 Thanks for the kind words, Chasa! Glad you got something out of it. I also write for MSN's "The Heart Beat." It's a dating/relationship blog. Not as subjective as my GRS posts, but still fun to write. :) Thanks for the kind words, Chasa! Glad you got something out of it.

I also write for MSN’s “The Heart Beat.” It’s a dating/relationship blog. Not as subjective as my GRS posts, but still fun to write. :)

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]]> By: Kristin http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234802 Kristin Thu, 17 Jan 2013 17:01:33 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234802 Hi Jane! Well, the moment I'm referencing in the post happened while I was living in Texas, but you're still right. Because when I go back to visit now, I'm even more excited about Shipley's. In fact, over Thanksgiving I even bought a Shipley's tumbler. It was only a dollar! Funny aside. My old boss had a client who wanted to open a Shipley's franchise, and he met with "Mr. Shipley" to discuss. Mr. Shipley turned him down, however, telling him: "You don't look like a doughnut man." Hi Jane! Well, the moment I’m referencing in the post happened while I was living in Texas, but you’re still right. Because when I go back to visit now, I’m even more excited about Shipley’s. In fact, over Thanksgiving I even bought a Shipley’s tumbler. It was only a dollar!

Funny aside. My old boss had a client who wanted to open a Shipley’s franchise, and he met with “Mr. Shipley” to discuss. Mr. Shipley turned him down, however, telling him: “You don’t look like a doughnut man.”

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]]> By: Kristin http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234772 Kristin Thu, 17 Jan 2013 16:52:57 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234772 Hey Holly! I found the recipe at the below link. You might notice that there is no recipe for scones in the link. There is, however, a recipe for muffins that I attempted and screwed up, accidentally making scones in the process. Haha! Actually, the muffin recipe mentions that the consistency is similar to scones, and mine ended up being very similar so I just went with it. http://www.all-about-juicing.com/recipes-using-juicer-pulp.html Oh! I also made a soup base out of the veggie pulp. I just froze the pulp, and then when I was ready to make chicken soup, I added it from the freezer. It was really good. I'm hungry. Hey Holly! I found the recipe at the below link. You might notice that there is no recipe for scones in the link. There is, however, a recipe for muffins that I attempted and screwed up, accidentally making scones in the process. Haha! Actually, the muffin recipe mentions that the consistency is similar to scones, and mine ended up being very similar so I just went with it.

http://www.all-about-juicing.com/recipes-using-juicer-pulp.html

Oh! I also made a soup base out of the veggie pulp. I just froze the pulp, and then when I was ready to make chicken soup, I added it from the freezer. It was really good. I’m hungry.

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]]> By: denise http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234762 denise Thu, 17 Jan 2013 16:39:46 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234762 I have a real problem with entitlement being used as a negative term to describe someone who works for a pleasure, whether it be a fine wine, great pair of shoes that may never get worn, or a fancy sports car, if they can afford it. That is not shameful! What is shameful is expecting an entitlement just because you are existing! If you WORK for it and can AFFORD it then you should have it and ENJOY it. I AM entitled because I WORK for IT!!! I have no outside debt. I even own my home free and clear! I have a child in college and two in Catholic School. I am moving into a house that is double the size of what I have now and I WILL NOT feel guilty and I will enjoy every moment that I spend. I will also be buying a new car in the next month because I want it not because I need it. I have a real problem with entitlement being used as a negative term to describe someone who works for a pleasure, whether it be a fine wine, great pair of shoes that may never get worn, or a fancy sports car, if they can afford it. That is not shameful! What is shameful is expecting an entitlement just because you are existing!

If you WORK for it and can AFFORD it then you should have it and ENJOY it.

I AM entitled because I WORK for IT!!! I have no outside debt. I even own my home free and clear! I have a child in college and two in Catholic School. I am moving into a house that is double the size of what I have now and I WILL NOT feel guilty and I will enjoy every moment that I spend. I will also be buying a new car in the next month because I want it not because I need it.

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]]> By: Juli http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234752 Juli Thu, 17 Jan 2013 16:34:59 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234752 I guess I'm not the hard-core financial guru that some people are on here, but it really bugs me how often lately people are complaining about what GRS used to be and how it was so much better than it is now. I think it is pretty clear that GRS is not just about playing the stock market and building your 401k. So I'm not sure why people feel the need to do their little hair toss about how boring/useless GRS is now, so they are leaving and never coming back. I really enjoy reading the variety of things that come up on here, and if it was all strictly boring financial stuff I wouldn't be here. Enjoying the little things is an awesome way of getting rich slowly! I guess I’m not the hard-core financial guru that some people are on here, but it really bugs me how often lately people are complaining about what GRS used to be and how it was so much better than it is now. I think it is pretty clear that GRS is not just about playing the stock market and building your 401k. So I’m not sure why people feel the need to do their little hair toss about how boring/useless GRS is now, so they are leaving and never coming back. I really enjoy reading the variety of things that come up on here, and if it was all strictly boring financial stuff I wouldn’t be here. Enjoying the little things is an awesome way of getting rich slowly!

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]]> By: Pauline http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234722 Pauline Thu, 17 Jan 2013 16:28:30 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234722 I just wrote a post about that. While I am not the happy jump around person, I appreciate the small gifts life sends once in a while, and find being content with what I have and happy about little things very fulfilling. Great post. I just wrote a post about that. While I am not the happy jump around person, I appreciate the small gifts life sends once in a while, and find being content with what I have and happy about little things very fulfilling. Great post.

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]]> By: Matt at Healthy N' Wealthy http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2013/01/17/my-new-years-resolution-lowering-the-bar-for-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3234692 Matt at Healthy N' Wealthy Thu, 17 Jan 2013 16:25:58 +0000 http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/?p=159292#comment-3234692 I am elated that yesterday I won 3 months of free membership at my gym, even though my gym is free because my health insurance reimburses me. I think I'm setting the bar too low! Great article as always, Kristin. I am elated that yesterday I won 3 months of free membership at my gym, even though my gym is free because my health insurance reimburses me. I think I’m setting the bar too low! Great article as always, Kristin.

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