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I don’t spend lavishly on clothes, hair appointments, or travel. I drive a 12-year-old Honda Civic. I got into debt by trying different business investments, including real estate and selling refurbished tablets. I also took out a student loan that I really didn’t need but couldn’t turn down the money I automatically qualified for. Those are the main sources of my debt.

My debt payments began to total more than $1,100 a month. I moved in with an aunt and uncle to make ends meet. When they wanted to raise the rent, it was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I was fed up with my situation. I couldn’t even afford to rent a room anymore.

I took a drastic measure, which I know most people won’t agree with. I decided to move into my car. But that wasn’t all. There was no way I was going to live in my car for any length of time and come out in the same situation.

I buckled down and reviewed Dave Ramsey’s system. I was familiar with his program but had never really studied it or applied it. I made a commitment to live differently from that month on (September 2013). It took two months to save up $1,000 for an emergency fund and to pay off my seven smallest debts. The third month, I brought current a credit card that was three months behind. Life felt so much more manageable. I could answer the phone again without trepidation. Eight months later, I paid off all three credit cards.

It wasn’t just living in my car that did it, though. After I made the commitment, I got an insurance payout for damage to my car, a refund from the doctor, and some other small financial blessings here or there. All of that “extra” money went toward my debt. Before, it would have gone toward … who knows?

For the winter months, I moved in with a friend and rented a room for less than what my aunt and uncle charged me. She has been really understanding and was helping me out. However, in one month, she will need her room back. Since starting this journey, I’ve lost a job, faced medical emergencies and car breakdowns, and learned new survival skills.

Only two of my friends know about my situation. I’ve worked hard to keep it hidden from coworkers and family members. They will only worry about me, and they can’t give me the help that I really need. I have blogged about my experience anonymously. I’m bracing myself for the negative backlash from readers – “You’re stupid. That’s dangerous!” Still, I am excited to be on this temporary journey and just thankful that I have the independence, the mental fortitude, the creativity, and the good health to make this happen for myself. I am $10,000 richer so far in less than one year!

[Editor’s Note: This is an amazing story; but we wanted to understand Livinginmyhonda’s reasoning on some things, so we asked:

Q. Why did you take out a student loan that you didn’t need?

A. I took the student loan because it was free money and I also wanted to continue investing in real estate -- ultimately it helped me sell the two properties I owned. I had to bring money to the table. Not what I had in mind originally. Dave Ramsey would call it a stupid tax, and so would I.

Q. Where are you living in your car? Do you live in a WalMart parking lot?

A. I park my car in hospital parking lots (lots of security cameras, guards on patrol, and employees coming and going all hours of the night). I also park on the street outside an apartment complex that I used to live in. There are no parking restrictions there and I feel relatively safe in that neighborhood. (I know that no neighborhood is perfectly safe).

Q. Are you currently working?

A. I'm a teacher. Three months after I started this debt-free journey, I was blessed to lose my job. It turned out to be a blessing because I got a job that pays 35 percent more (even though I loved the first job dearly).

Q. How do you manage grooming, etc., to go to work each day or to go to job interviews?

A. I got a gym membership so I would have a place to shower. After leaving the gym, I go to my storage unit and change clothes. Then I go to work. I spend the rest of my time in parks, libraries, fast food restaurants, or staying late at work.

Q. You say you are $10,000 richer. What do you mean? Is it because you have paid off your loans or by saving money in an emergency fund?

A. I feel richer because of the debts paid off so far and because of the security that a starter emergency fund gives. After paying off credit cards this past spring (three months ahead of schedule due to the new job), I started a car replacement fund. My car is 12 years old, and I consider this fund to be my way of paying off debt in advance.

Q. Do you plan to find a place to live?

There was no answer to this question, so we have to hope that Livinginmyhonda will once again find a stable and safe living situation.]

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This article is by staff writer April Dykman.

My personal finance education began here at Get Rich Slowly. I went from owing more money than I had to being debt-free (although now I have a mortgage). And along the way, I learned about money on websites and blogs. I used Mint to get my spending aligned with my goals and to track debt repayment. I opened and started managing my husband’s and my Roth IRAs online too.

Basically, I did it all via the Internet, no human contact involved. That really worked for me, both because I’m a research-nerd and because, as a perfectionist, I wasn’t about to tell a soul that I had credit card debt. And even when I had the money to start putting toward retirement, I still didn’t get advice from an adviser because I didn’t think the amount I was investing was significant enough. I thought only people with real money hired advisers. Also, I just preferred to set up a target date fund and be done with it, rather than risk hearing a sales pitch or feeling pressured.

I guess when it comes to personal finance, I’m a Lone Wolf McQuade, if you will. (Sorry, I’ll stop now.)

But according to a new Gallup poll, I’m in the minority, at least for now. “Even as access to the Internet has become ubiquitous in the U.S. and data analytics is highly touted for use in finance, U.S. investors are more likely to have a dedicated financial adviser than to use a financial website to obtain advice on investing or planning for their retirement, 44 percent vs. 20 percent*,” writes Lydia Saad for Gallup.

Furthermore, 35 percent of investors use a financial advisory firm with an advice call center and 29 percent rely on a friend or family member. So using financial planning and investing websites comes in dead last. Shocking, I know!

And of course, it’s not like investors are getting advice from one and only one source.

“Overall, 79 percent of investors report using at least one of the four financial advice resources tested, while 21 percent don’t use any of the four,” writes Saad. “The largest percentage of investors — 40 percent — rely on just one source, but almost a third (30 percent) rely on two, 7 percent on three, and 2 percent on all four.” (Wait — 21 percent of investors polled don’t use any of those four sources for investing and finance information? I’d sure like to know more about that!)

Who’s afraid of online investing?

Not surprisingly, there’s a good reason why most investors are weary of the web even though everyone you know uses it for everything they do.

According to the Gallup poll, it’s investors with significantly more invested ($100,000 plus) and retirees who are most likely to use a financial adviser human. They have more money at stake, for one thing. Also, a lot of it is generational. Among non-retirees, 66 percent were somewhat or very comfortable investing and getting financial advice online, compared with just 35 percent of retirees.

Help! I need somebody…

At least for now, the majority of investors want advice from an expert to help them and give them advice.

“Despite lots of buzz about online financial tools that allow users to submit their portfolios to computer algorithms, most investors still feel more comfortable involving a human, whether in the form of a dedicated personal adviser or a financial advisory firm that gives them access to live counselors in a call center,” writes Saad.

But ideally, investors would use a combination of methods. “[This shouldn’t be an either-or situation,” she writes. “Investors who want the best of both worlds can probably get it by seeking a partnership with financial advisers who are tapping into the same powerful analysis tools being offered to consumers online. In fact, such a marriage of humans and computers could be a strong selling point for the financial services industry — bridging consumers’ reluctance to go it alone online with their desire for a human connection and the best possible performance for their investments.”

*Poll findings are based on a sample of U.S. investors with $10,000 or more in stocks, bonds, mutual funds, or in a self-directed IRA or 401(k).

So, readers, are you Team Human, Team Robot, or do you use a combination of the two? And if you prefer to go it alone online, would you change your mind if you had $100,000 invested or were near retirement?


When we asked you how to improve Get Rich Slowly, you told us you’d like an article on “The horrible, terrible, no good, very bad reality of paying for fertility treatments.” We can’t fit all of that into one post, but we did ask Joanna Lahey, who gave us a series on health insurance, to give a broad overview of the issue in this guest post.

Joanna Lahey is an associate economics professor at the George H. W. Bush School of Government and Public Service and a faculty research fellow at the National Bureau of Economic Research. The opinions expressed in this post do not necessarily reflect those of the aforementioned institutions.

When I found out I suffered from infertility, I was lucky enough to be living in Massachusetts and was covered by a Massachusetts health insurance plan. Lucky because Massachusetts is one of the few states in the United States that mandates coverage of infertility treatment. Every test my husband and I went through and every treatment I underwent was completely covered by my insurance. After a year and a half of poking and prodding and medication and monitoring, I knew exactly what was wrong with me. My doctors were able to give the most conservative treatment options so I wouldn’t have to worry about risks with names like “overstimulation” or “rupture” or “triplets.” My only out-of-pocket costs were for HPT, OPK, and a fancy thermometer. [1]

That’s not the situation here in Texas, where it is mandated that infertility treatment be “offered” but not “covered.” What that means is that group insurers must offer at least one plan that has infertility treatment coverage as an option (at any price) and the employer may choose that plan or may choose another (usually less expensive) plan. What that almost always means is that insurers choose the less expensive plan that does not cover infertility. For the most part, people in Texas pay out of pocket for infertility treatment.

The Resolve website has a full listing of the states that mandate “coverage” or “offering” of infertility treatment for health insurance. Even if you live in one of the states that mandates coverage, you may still not be covered. State health insurance mandates do not cover firms that self-insure, so large companies (if they do not buy health insurance from an outside provider like Blue Cross/Blue Shield) don’t have to offer infertility coverage if they don’t want to. In some cases small firms are exempt from state mandates as well. Some states only require that HMOs cover infertility treatment. Some states put age limits on who can use the coverage or limit to specific treatments in their coverage. Even if you live in a covered state, the best thing to do is to check your employer’s plan to see what is and is not covered and what the rules are for that coverage before starting treatment.

How much does treatment cost?

As with all medical expenses, cost is going to vary tremendously with what the specific condition is, how intensive your treatment is, and where you live. In the case of infertility treatment, it also matters how much you can pay and who pays. That’s because if you can afford it or if someone else is paying, you may move to more intensive (read: expensive) treatments faster, whereas if you’re paying out of pocket and don’t have the money, you may wait and try less intensive treatments longer.

Sometimes insurance companies will cover parts of infertility treatments even if they don’t cover infertility. In general, if the diagnosis or treatment fixes a problem that’s not infertility, they are more likely to cover it, even if fertility is a side effect of the treatment. They may cover procedures that diagnose or treat endometriosis or amenorrhea. They may cover various surgeries. They may cover some medications but not others. They almost always cover medications related to thyroid, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), or diabetes, even if those medications may result in your becoming pregnant. The important thing is that the doctor’s office codes the treatment with the non-infertility-related code if one is applicable (so coded as “amenorrhea” if the problem is you’re not cycling, rather than “infertility”). Most doctors’ offices are good about this, but it’s something to ask about just in case.

For ovulation stimulation, the first-line treatment is generally Clomid. Clomid itself is not very expensive — it’s generic and you can generally get it for under $30/prescription (note: all costs are for the U.S.). Doctors often recommend 4-D ultrasound (u/s) monitoring with Clomid, and monitoring costs can get up into the upper hundreds to low thousands, depending on how much your clinic charges for u/s. Another popular drug for ovulation stimulation is Femera (note that this is an off-label use of an anti-cancer drug). This drug is more expensive than Clomid. If your insurance covers it, you only pay your co-pay; but if not, the cost is usually somewhere in the lower hundreds of dollars. These medications are sometimes combined with Intrauterine Insemination (IUI), which can cost from a few hundred dollars to the low thousands of dollars.

The most expensive Artificial Reproductive Technology (ART) treatments are In Vitro Fertilization (IVF), Gamete Intrafallopian Transfer (GIFT) and Zygote Intrafallopian Transfer (ZIFT). Costs for these procedures are generally $10,000 to $15,000 or more. When discussing these costs with your doctor, it is important to ask whether the medications for ART are included in the transfer cost or if they are an additional $3,000 to 6,000 in expenses. Additional costs will occur if you need to move to using donor sperm, donor eggs, or donor embryos. Genetic testing adds additional layers of cost, though these are often covered by insurance.

The direct costs of fertility treatment aren’t the only costs that you should be considering. Estimates of the cost of infertility treatment per live birth range from $38,000 to $800,000. That top number includes the increased costs of birth complications and multiple births, both of which are more likely with fertility treatment. Once the baby has been conceived, most insurance will cover these costs — but you should look at your individual coverage to see what your out-of-pocket expenditures will be assuming these scenarios. Additionally, according to one study by Stanford University medical professor Michael Eisenberg and colleagues, infertile women seeking treatment spend a median of 51.5 hours on infertility-related activities over an 18-month period. Those hours aren’t consecutive, so you can’t just take a week-long vacation to get it over with. (Obviously, having a baby takes time too, but that’s true whether or not you use infertility treatment!)

Are there ways to lower the costs?

There are some ways that the costs of infertility treatment can be lowered. If your medical costs are more than 10 percent of your gross income, you can deduct the additional amounts on your taxes. That may also be something to think about as you time your more expensive treatments.

If you have to pay out of pocket, you can shop around for drug providers since different pharmacies often have widely varying costs. You can even shop around for sperm if you need it. Different reproductive clinics will also offer a variety of “deals” on fertility packages, but whether or not those are good deals is too complicated to address in this rather lengthy article. Another way to potentially save money is to get enrolled in a clinical trial. These trials will often pay for some or all of your expenses; but you generally don’t know if you’re in the treatment group or the control group — and if you’re in the treatment group, it could be the next amazing intervention or it may not work at all.

Is infertility treatment worth going into debt over?

Personally, having experienced the heartbreak of infertility and the joy of a much-desired child (or two!), I would lean toward “yes” in many cases. However, in an ideal world, you wouldn’t have to debt-finance infertility treatment even if insurance doesn’t pay for it.

When someone reaches that third stage of personal finance, doesn’t want to stop working, and wonders what’s the point of saving more, I always tell him or her to keep saving because unexpected expenses and opportunities will find you. Infertility treatment is one of those potential unexpected expenses. Being able to take the stress of debt-financing out of the equation because you’ve saved for a rainy day means one fewer stressor to deal with during a very stressful time. And it leaves you in a much better position if and when you bring home your bundle(s) of joy.


[1] For the uninitiated: HPT = pregnancy test and OPK = ovulation predictor test, which is kind of like a pregnancy test except there’s always two lines. The second line gets darker when you ovulate. Fun times.


This article is by staff writer Holly Johnson.

I just sat down to write this post a moment ago and literally stared at the screen for twenty minutes. I’m still ready to bolt out the door at a second’s notice, if needed, and the tears won’t stop rolling down my face.

But thankfully, these are good tears.

My mother told me I might feel this way on my daughter’s first day of kindergarten. Like it or not, the little person I gave birth to five years ago is no longer a baby, but a little girl.

A fearless little girl.

I looked into her eyes this morning and told her how much I loved her.

“I’m so proud of you,” I said, with tears in my eyes and a knot in my stomach.

“Stop worrying, momma,” she said.

“You know I can’t,” was all I could say as she beamed with excitement for her first day at school. Then the bus turned the corner and she smiled and took off without a care in the world.

Moments later, she was gone.

I’m so happy for her, but I’m also afraid. At home, I can keep her safe. I can protect her. But at school, she’s on her own — left to navigate a big, scary world without my help.

As a worrier, I also think a lot about what happens next — maybe too much. Her school career may have just started today; but we all know that, just like the last one, this chapter also has an end. And when that day comes, I will no longer have a kindergartener, but an 18-year-old young adult. I’ve been around long enough to know that it will be here before I know it. And as I plan for her future, I often wonder, “Am I doing enough?”

The growing costs of a college education

My oldest daughter was born in 2009 — a year when the average cost for an education at a four-year college or university came in at around $21,093 in today’s dollars. And now, just five years later, College Board statistics show that the costs of a four-year-degree skyrocketed to an average of $30,336 for the 2013-14 school year.

But these huge tuition rate increases aren’t exactly a new trend. A recent Bloomberg chart-of-the-day shows that the average costs of higher education have exploded over 500 percent since 1985 — the exact year I turned five-years-old. To put that number into context, medical costs grew 286 percent and the consumer price index increased 121 percent during the same time period. In other words, college costs grew faster than almost anything else.

But all of that is out of my control. Try as I might, there is literally nothing I can do to keep spiraling tuition fees in check, or ensure that a college degree is within her reach when she comes of age. When it comes to the cost of college, I can only watch in despair as the news goes from bad to worse.

But I do have some control on my end. I can do what I do best, which is to save, save, and save some more. Other than that, I can only hope and pray that things will be better for her than they are for today’s generation of aspiring students.

College savings: What we’re doing so far

I’m glad I realized how important this issue would be to me so early in my daughter’s lives. The truth is, I’ve been socking money away for them since they were babies. It all started with money they received from relatives when they were born, or “free money” as I saw it.

Money that was likely meant for diapers and formula always made its way into my children’s savings accounts so fast their little heads would spin if they knew it. Then, once my second daughter was born, I started a 529 account in each of their names. And that’s when the savings really started to grow.

Since then, we’ve socked away any money they’ve gotten for birthdays and holidays, and contributed small amounts monthly ourselves. It all adds up.

In fact, it really is amazing how small amounts of money can grow over the months and years of a child’s lifetime. It’s hard to believe it, but my children already have thousands of dollars saved for college at the young age of 3 and 5. Still, I’m afraid it won’t be enough. That’s why, a couple of years ago, we started looking for other ways to grow the amount of money we would have available to pay for their college. And we didn’t need to look far.

Using rental income for college tuition

My husband and I became unlikely landlords in 2007 at only 27 years old. Our first rental was a small brick ranch home we chose to buy on somewhat of a whim. Shortly after its purchase, we turned our first home into a rental and upgraded into a slightly larger, nicer home for ourselves.

We weren’t sure what we were doing all the time, but we’ve always been happy to learn as we go and fly by the seat of our pants. And mostly through trial and error, we have learned a lot since then — so much that I’ve come to see our inexperience as a good thing. In a lot of ways, we were just too dumb to be afraid, which is probably the only reason we became landlords in the first place. In a strange twist of fate, it appears that our lack of awareness might have led to our best financial decision so far.

Regardless, we were making plenty of progress on the home’s respective 30-year mortgages by late 2011, but we still had many years left to go. But it was around that time that home mortgage rates began hitting record-lows and, as always, my wheels started turning.

I wondered if it would be possible to refinance our loans into loans with shorter, more-favorable terms. If we could, we might be able to move the process along and free up thousands of dollars of monthly income in the process. Even if we couldn’t refinance for some reason, I thought it was worth a shot.

Persistence pays off

Anyone who has ever refinanced a home knows what a huge pain the process can be. Well, trust me when I say that refinancing a rental home is an even more difficult experience then refinancing your primary residence. With both homes, the ordeal was somewhat of a nightmare.

Fortunately, after several months of trying and plenty of heartache, I was able to get both of our rental homes moved onto 15-year-loans. And amazingly, with a substantially lower interest rate, the monthly payments hardly budged. That means that our current rentals, while temporarily less profitable, will now be paid off in approximately twelve years — just in time for our daughter to turn 17. They currently rent for a little less than $2,000, but should rent for quite a bit more by then. And, if all goes as planned, most of that money will go straight into the college funds of my little girls.

Sometimes all we can do is save

The fact that the cost of a college degree has risen over 500 percent since I was my daughter’s age does not bring me comfort; but again, I can only control so much. I can’t change the fate of higher education any more than I can sit in my daughter’s school today and hold her hand.

I’m sure we’re all afraid of what kind of world our children might find when they graduate from high school. And if not, we probably should be. But we all know deep down that there is nothing we can do to soften this world for them. So we do what we can, and sometimes it means that all we can do is save for them and hope for the best.

On my daughter’s first ever day of school, I want her to know that I am proud of who she is and excited to see who she will become. And I want her to know that I’ll never stop worrying about her future, even if she asks.

I’m her mother, after all, and it just isn’t possible.

Are you worried about paying for college? Do you have any unconventional ways to pay for college?


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