I need some opinions and I can't ask people I know IRL So please give me your thoughts.

For a while now I have suspected that someone I know may have a substance use issue (rx pills). My DH was recently prescribed pain pills but doesn't take them and relies on Tylenol 99% of the time. Within the past 8 weeks, an entire bottle of pills has gone missing and another bottle has been almost emptied with the cap partially replaced. We noticed these pills missing both times shortly after the person had been in our home.

I didn't say anything to my DH about my suspicions b/c I have no proof. But he came to me last night with the same concern about the same person. Now that I have allowed myself to admit my thoughts, hindsight over the past few years makes the suspicion even stronger. i.e. things that in isolation would mean nothing, seem to establish a pattern now.

I'm not sure what, if anything, to do about it.

Who is DH?

I've had a situation similiar to yours. I'm a pretty strong-headed, stubborn guy, so I just went and talked point-blank. That...didn't go very well.

DH == Darling Husband

DH is Dear Husband.

I'm glad I didn't say anything at first to him about my suspicion. When he came to me on his own and brought it up, I knew I wasn't imagining things.

Yeah, I'm not sure I want to confront the person at this point. I know I have to let them make their own mistakes but I'm worried about them.

First, lock up the pills.

Second, tell the person that you are worried about them. Be as specific as possible regarding their behavior is of concern. (I've noticed you seem very agitated whenever you are here.) I don't know that you need to accuse this person of stealing pills, they will realize this when they find the pills are no longer accessible. Prepare to be rebuffed and hope you won't be.

Good luck.

RE: dh, the adjective starting with d changes based upon my mood, lol.

I think locking up the pills or simply removing them from the house if nobody uses them is the right first solution. Sometimes that may be all that's necessary.

When I was a kid my stepmother severely rationed my food (it was a control issue, we were not poor and I was far from fat, I was a skinny beanpole), and I was ravenously hungry all the time. I did a lot of yard and house maintenance work for various neighbors, and occasionally while they were out I would nip into the kitchen and steal a few cookies or slices of bread. They noticed, though, and put the food elsewhere so I got the message. They never said anything about it to me, nor I to them, but we all knew and I learned my lesson. That worked out fine.

Not sure how this would work out, but you could always set them up (leave pills available and catch them in the act). This leads to a confrontation/intervention about it.

Again, I would imagine this would go poorly and may not be the best idea, but just throwing it out there.