Visited family. Opened my purse strings a couple times for activities, but the rest of the time people were either treating me or we were doing cookouts instead of going out to eat, I didn't spend as much money as I could have.
Dad's apartment is small and expensive.
Lil brother's house is now very crowded, but everyone seems upbeat and trying to making the best of the situation. It was nice to see everyone. New wife seems like a lovely person.
Mom, brother and sister's house. Whew. While mother says intellectually she KNOWS she needs to sell house (she cannot afford to live there, has deferred maintenance and upkeep, and is now eating up equity of house via heloc for daily expenses and to pay property taxes) from my interactions with her I can tell she simply does not have the mental fortitude to do it. Even just helping her declutter and organize her study, made her extremely stressed out. The idea of any kind of change frightens her. She made me cancel me having a realtor meet with her regarding her options. As she is embarrased by her house, she will not schedule any repair work that would involve the inside of the house, because she does not want anyone, even workers seeing the inside of her house.
She does not want my help (other than giving her money). My hands are pretty much tied. and right now looks inevitable within the 5 years (probably sooner) she will end up walking away from the house with no money, no housing, and no plan how to live on $500 a month.
As far as sister, she is also in denial. She says she just wants "5 years" of staying there, of no responsibility, such as to save up for a car. Her car does need to be replaced, but she has already lived there for at least 5 years, but has saved absolutely no money but instead incessantly internet shops. There was so much stuff there that some of the boxes weren't unopened and stacked. However even if she doesn't like something, as she hates to return things, brand new but crappy stuff is laying around in her room and my mother's office. She says it is her "right" to do whatever she wants to do with her money.
Needless to say all of these things are very sensitive topics. It made me feel a pressing need to change to a house with more room to deal with the inevitable situation when one or more family members are homeless.