Meanwhile, my husband has really gotten into early retirement blogs. He wants us to start saving 50% of our income. I am... mixed about this. When he first started reading these blogs, almost as a reactionary thing I started overshopping. I think I have settled down but it kinda rattled me. The weird thing is is that I am so excited to have him be involved and engaged with ideas about frugality and savings, which he never exhibited much interest in before. Yet I feel like every time he starts talking about reducing our fun money to almost zero, I panic a little.
Sometimes people need to experience things rather than have them explained to them. I tend to be one of those people. But, finding your "sweet spot" of saving will be an iterative process, it's just important to remember to keep the "swings" from being bigger than the last.
But, you should always remember that no one here knows when their time is up. So, do the things that are most important to you if you can, and continue to find that place where you strike happiness with a savings. Perhaps put a few of your husband's ideas into practice for a month or two and see if you actually miss the things you cut. Maybe you do, maybe you don't...