Thanks for the comments. We had our first meeting with the mediator today and it went quite well under the circumstances. We are both being very careful to be fair to each other, because when all the dust settles we will still be friends, and we will still need to communicate to raise our children. We've already warned them not to try to play one of us against the other, lol. They know they can't do that now, but don't want them to be tempted to try it after we separate. Of course, we have to be communicating to prevent it from happening.
Still too soon for a more detailed budget, but it will come.
In Ontario, all the assets are split evenly except for what you brought in to the marriage and things like inheritances or gifts. We don't have any of the exclusions so it will basically all be split. Since he is staying in the house, he will have to take on a larger mortgage to give me my equalization payment.
Wow to be honest this is a great reflection upon you two. Keep this momentum going, you guys are doing great thus far. Try to schedule some time for you to hang out and get some fresh air.