Find a place or get rid of it. That is pure waste.
I agree with you, but do you think that's an overnight process? And would you then also be chastising me if I told you that he had quit his job and took a week or a month to devote entirely to cleaning up the house and the yard before looking for work again, just to suit your timeline of finding a place or getting rid of it? You do realize when they spend an entire week doing this on TV, they have a crew of about 20 people cleaning out a house, complete with psycho-therapists around for helping the packrats/hoarders cope with their stuff getting thrown away. Doing this with one and a half people with two people thwarting us every step of the way is not an instantaneous process.
Would you instead recommend that we spend $500 or more a month on rent for an apartment, thereby giving us room for our own belongings in our own home and not a storage locker, plus our own utilities, and perhaps in this case the $60 of gas per trip to drive 6 hours weekly to help them a few days at a time to take care of this mess, having not moved in?
Neither of those seem like fiscally responsible alternatives.
* Lose all income while still having bills to pay,
* an additional $700-940 a month in expenses, or
* $80 a month for a less-than-infinite time-frame.
If those were your options, which would you choose?
I came here because I remembered this forum being a place where people came for help, when I was a regular here before. I remember this forum being full of people who were kind and helpful, people who read the entire post before responding to it, people who didn't call others names, people who had good advice, and others who had bad advice but could be called on that bad advice without resorting to name calling but instead would simply learn something new. I see now that it has been populated by a bunch of temporarily able-bodied folks who would prefer to break people down rather than build them up or help them find some light at the end of what is assuredly a long, dark tunnel for most folks who come here seeking help.
I was sad to find the GRS blog had become elitist and back-biting (and I'm not just talking about the comments), but I had been hoping the forums here were still a haven for folks in need. Apparently I was wrong. I wish I had the time and energy to devote to frequenting here and making this a better place, but with my situation right now that's simply not possible, so I'll have to stick to occasionally stopping in. I can only hope that the next time someone asks me for help, I can keep this experience in mind, and be gracious and kind to them instead of giving someone else the treatment I've found here.
Sincerely thank you to those who were helpful and gave me things to think about. If in the future anyone has any further suggestions or clarifying questions that could help, please feel free to contribute. As soon as we have gotten ourselves out of this mess, I'll try to remember to come back and post a success story outlining what we did.