I suppose that's true.
I guess I was reacting to the idea that "what's yours is yours and what's mine is mine" idea that Jericho put out there. It seems eminently fair, and I suppose that if it applies specifically to what both parties bring into the marriage as it starts, it's pretty reasonable.
But if the couple has kids, and most do, that almost invariably puts the woman in a vulnerable position, financially as well as otherwise. It's way too easy for things to evolve that the money is regarded as his and the kids are regarded as hers. These are common dynamics/tensions even in otherwise happy marriages and it almost always comes into play when marriages split up.
I strongly have to disagree there. I pay over $500 alone on child support per month....for one kid. I don't hear my ex-wife complaining about anything, just watching her use the money for personal gain. And the ironic thing is the grandmother takes care of our child, not the mother (drops off our daughter at her grandmother's before work, picks her up after work).
My own mother used the child support that was supposed to go to my sister and I to fund her IRA for many years. So please, don't use the "woe is me" because I don't buy it.
I would rather have custody of my daughter and get $500 a month, than to have to worry about my future job security because child support enforcement doesn't care if you were laid off or are going through hardships. They want the payments like clockwork.
If you start to miss payments, they'll warn you. Then suspend your DL. Miss some more, jail time.
In the state of Florida, you'd only have to miss 2 consecutive payments for them to suspend your license... It sucks cause I work in IT, where most of the field is going overseas to outsourcing. So I constantly have to excel in my career but yet try not to ask for too much because of fear of termination or being replaced by a H-1B visa worker who is willing to work for 1/3 of my salary.
On top of that, child support is based on income. The more I make, the more money they take.
I think my ex-wife sleeps a whole better at night than I do.
Back on topic:
I totally agree on desertjims' closing paragraph.