I agree with giving to those in need through personal giving rather than tax dollars. I didn't know that was part of the discussion. I was merely pointing out that we are a compassionate society that wants people taken care of, and misguided tax and spending policies have led us to a place where there are more single mother households.
Regarding abstinence I find your comments highly offense.
Well, I did not mean to offend you. But you probably made your choice because of some kind of religious ideals. Perhaps that helped you. But people in general do not share those beliefs. Telling them to be celibate is just pointless. Condoms are better than 97% effective. I bet less than 97% of those taught to be abstinant actually comply. We call those that don't "parents." I really don't see anything wrong with your personal choice. And maybe you made it just because you are smart. But as an effective strategy for society in general, abstinence is an impractical choice.
As for your comments about compassion, I happen to give a lot to a charity that supports homeless teens. I do have compassion for them because they got there through no fault of their own. It was usually their parents poor choices. So, I do believe in helping others. But I would not want my tax dollars doing that.