Interesting perspective Spiral. Thank you for your encouragement.
Thank you for updating the thread (so I can notice it) and for your post. I cannot resist to add my two cents about the ultimate (life goal). After a lot of thinking I came to the concussion that it's very hard and probably a bad idea to set a life goal. What if you cannot achieve that goal? How would you feel?
So I decided to set a life road (path, direction) instead of life goal. "Pointing others to Christ" is a good example. If it is a goal, you would not measure it, you would not know when you achieved it. But if it is a road, you will know you go in the right direction. To keep up your spirit going down the road you can set milestones.
I seee what you're saying. It is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all would you agree? Goals are just that. If there is no risk in a goal than perhaps the goal is not worth achieving?
I believe all three of my life goals are SMART - Specific, Measurable, Achievable , Realistic, and Timely. "My ultimate goal is to point others to Christ, be financially successful, and have my own family."
Pointing others to Christ can be measured by how much I invest in others and if God has used me lead any people to Jesus Christ. I believe that if God uses me to lead even just one person to Jesus my goal is accomplished. Even though my personal goal is attempt to lead 1-2 people a year to Him. Of course my job is only to point people to the truth. The rest is up to God's Holy Spirit.
As far as finacial success I plan on spending less than I make, living debt free, and buying a house one day cash.
As far as having my own family I wanted to get married and have kids. I had already determined to marry someone who was open to adoption in case either or both of the spouses were sterile. Our son was born this year but that doesn't close out the option of adoption.