When I look at the big picture, I know I don't have it bad with her. Actually I'm pretty lucky. She takes really good care of me, really good care of our baby, she's very easy going and easy to get along with. She doesn't nag or complain. She likes mostly all of things I like (or if she doesn't she does a good job of pretending). As a matter of fact this is the one and only thing that I have to complain about.
I just want to be clear that I'm not complaining about her not wanting to sit and discuss or debate current affairs or anything like that. I'm talking about not talking to me about things that have to do with us and our future. Or, the rare occassion when there is a little disagreement, she won't say anything about it when I'm home. She waits till I go to work and wants to talk about it through text messages.
For example, this is what prompted me to even write this post the other day. We went out to eat and while we were waiting on the food I wanted to talk about whether or not she was going to go back to work, and if so then what were we going to do with the baby (daycare or having her parents babysit). I tell her what I think about the whole situation and what I would prefer to happen. Then, I ask her what she thinks about it and all she says is "I don't really think anything about it". Just like that the conversation is over and we didn't speak the rest of the night.
This is nothing new though... she just doesn't like having face to face conversations about anything important. Earlier in our relationship she had some issue with her mom and instead of talking to her about it she wrote a long letter and gave it to her and nothing else was ever mentioned.
What brad said about no one person can provide everything you want or need in a relationship really got me thinking that maybe I'm really putting too much into this. Like I said earlier, this is the only thing I have to complain about and for most everything else she's perfect for me. This is just a big thing for me so it's going to take some work on my part to not let it bother me much. I don't need long, deep conversations about everything going on in the world, but I'd like her to have an opinion on what goes on in our life.