Facing and Fighting Financial Trolls
Money is more about mind than it is about math — that's one of the fundamental precepts of this site.
If you improve your self-esteem, if you improve your mental attitude, if you improve your knowledge, you will improve your finances. To this end, it's important to avoid negative messages about money. It's difficult to improve your mental attitude when you're besieged by financial trolls.
What are financial trolls? In a recent article, Steve Pavlina shared five wealth lessons, the last of which was: financial trolls must be shown no mercy. Pavlina writes:
A financial troll is a close cousin to the forum troll, except that financial trolls strive to sabotage your financial pursuits. These trolls can be internal or external. They're the people who make comments like, “Wealthy people are so greedy. They only care about themselves and will take advantage of anyone to make money.” Financial trolls are also the internal voices that say, “If you make too much money, people will judge you harshly for it. They'll assume that's all you care about.”
Coping with external trolls
When I started Get Rich Slowly, I wanted people to like and agree with everything I wrote. Any time I received a negative comment, I took time to exchange e-mail with the person who left it. Here's an example of an actual criticism I once received: “I would love [this site] if only the privileged would acknowledged how lucky and privileged they are and how their ‘advice' applies to only other privileged kids.” I tried to carry on a conversation with the commenter, but nothing I could say would satisfy him — in his mind I was a rich jerk and nothing could change that.
I realized that 95% of these people aren't interested in a rational exchange of ideas. They're external financial trolls. They have chips on their shoulders, they're clinging to preconceived notions, or they just want to argue. They're not worth my time. Other examples of behavior you might see in external trolls include:
- You might have a goal, and have a plan to pursue it despite the risk involved. The troll in your life focuses on the obstacles, on the reasons you can't achieve it: “You don't know what you're doing”, “Think of all the things that might go wrong”, etc.
- Perhaps you admire other successful people. Trolls often resent success: “Warren Buffett go rich on the back of others”, “Bill Gates is a crook”, “Rich people don't work for their money”
- Some trolls complain all the time. They complain about their jobs, they complain about their lives, they complain that they don't have money. They complain, but they rarely take action. Complainers are poisonous.
Defeating most external trolls is straightforward. Because they're not internal, you can usually just remove yourself from the situation. Ignore the troll. Change the conversation. Leave the room. Hang up the phone. Do not argue — as Pavlina notes, any time you argue with a troll, the troll wins. Do not engage the troll.
Coping with internal trolls
Internal trolls are more insidious than their external brethren. Because they are a part of you, eradicating them takes self-discipline. Examples of internal trolls include:
- Self-defeating thoughts and behaviors: “I can't do this — it's too difficult”, “I'm not smart enough”, “It's too much work”, “I don't deserve to have money”
- Procrastination — “I'll start next week”, “I'll worry about this later”, I can start saving next month — this month I'll buy an XBox.”
- Rationalization — “Buying just one pair of shoes won't blow my budget”, “I'm out with my friends — I should join the fun”, “I should reward myself for how well I've been doing lately”
- Barriers — “I don't know how to open an IRA”, “It's too much bother to set up automatic deposits”, “Sure I could call around for lower rates, but I don't like talking on the phone”
Conquering internal trolls can be non-intuitive. Most are a product of self-doubt, which is best combated through exercise, discipline, positive social interaction, and a healthy diet. Seriously. The following can also help:
- Talk back to yourself! It makes sense to avoid arguments with external trolls, but confronting internal trolls is an excellent tactic.
- Set financial goals. Review them regularly.
- Read success literature: personal finance books, self-development manuals, and biographies of successful people.
- Educate yourself. Learn about money. I resisted investing for a long time until I learned just how easy it was to open an IRA.
- Find a mentor, a coach, or an advisor. Learn from others.
I have much more trouble with internal trolls than I do with external trolls. They're a constant threat.
Know when to seek help
Some trolls are difficult to defeat. What do you do about a spouse who insists on sabotaging your financial security? How do you deal with your own compulsive shopping? Problems like these may require the assistance of a trained professional: an accountant, a lawyer, or a psychologist. The important thing is to deal with them. Until you defeat them, they'll only hold you back, preventing you from achieving success.
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