How to build community relationships

We spend a lot of time talking about green here on Get Rich Slowly. But let’s direct our attention for a couple minutes to another color: blue.

I first read about the Blue Zones in a magazine a few years ago. These blue zones were identified after researching some of the longest living people on the planet. Although nine characteristics were associated with these blue zones, several are lumped into the social category. Having a healthy social life can extend your life? Who knew?

Maybe you don’t care about living until you are 100, but do you think that your social network could help improve your finances or decrease your stress level? I think it can. And so does the Blue Zones organization, but more on that later.

The Impact of Community

This isn’t the first time I have written about my community and how it has impacted my life. From supporting me and my family through the death of my father, our journey through cancer, foster care, adoption, and some other health concerns, we’ve had people. And they’ve had our backs. What they have done for my life is truly priceless.

I wish everyone had access to the kind of community I have. Life can be hard and lonely at times. Building a community, though, may be the silver lining when dark clouds overtake you.

I am the first to admit that I didn’t have to build my own community. At least, not the foundation. Since I have lived most of my life in rural communities, everyone knows almost everyone else. Almost everyone is connected.

For instance, my massage therapist’s mother was my mom’s Physical Education teacher. And now the teacher resides in the nursing home where my mom works. That’s just one example.

How to Build Community

But how do you build community if you moved into a town where you are the first-generation resident (and not the fifth generation)? Basically, you need to meet people. Better yet, find people with whom you share something in common. How do you find them? Here are a few ideas….

  1. Volunteer: One of my friends, who moved many miles away from family and friends, has struggled to connect with people. She applied to be a volunteer at a farm that works with kids from hard places. If you also love animals, check into walking dogs at your local animal shelter. Not an animal person? Maybe becoming a volunteer at the local hospital or nursing home is more your cup of tea. If your children are in school, ask their teacher how you can get involved.
  2. Exchange food: My sister is involved in a soup swap. Everyone makes a big pot of soup and packages it up. They get together and swap with other families. If you don’t have a lot of time, make a double recipe of your dinner one time. Swap with another person who did the same.
  3. Events: Once you have developed some relationships, try throwing an event. Recently, two of my sisters and I established a freezer meal club. We each invited others to join us. Every other month, we spend about four hours putting together 90 meals. We each go home with 10 meals each, but I have more than a full freezer when I am done. My heart is full from having adult conversation with old and new friends. If you don’t have the freezer space, how about hosting a neighborhood cookout?
  4. Join something: Find a church, a book club, join a MOPS group, or some sports activity. Again, find people with whom you have something in common, whether it is young children or a mutual love of tennis.
  5. Help others: As William Cowie mentioned in one of his recent posts, he scoops his neighbors’ sidewalks after snow falls. While William isn’t my neighbor (too bad for me!), our neighbors plow our huge driveway for us. That builds community for sure! Offer to rake leaves, pick up something from a store, or help with other outside work. (Incidentally, helping others was one of the attributes found in the Blue Zones.)
  6. Show hospitality: We frequently have guests over, some we know well and some we don’t know as well. Everyone brings a dish to serve, and we enjoy (er, well, most of the time — it’s not always successful!) each other’s company.

How Building Community Works in Real Life

When I started writing this article, I was thinking that maybe these tips could impact the life of an individual reader here and there. And then I remembered about the Blue Zones and did some additional research to refresh my memory. I hope you are as excited as I am about the financial implications of what I discovered.

As it turns out, the principles behind the Blue Zones are applied to Blue Zone projects, which is trying to help American communities get healthy. The first Blue Zone project community was Albert Lea, Minnesota. Because not all residents had Internet access, supporters were sometimes recruited by door-to-door contact. (That’s building community and relationships right there!)

According to the Blue Zones website, Albert Lea rented 46 new community gardens. The residents logged 75 million steps and dropped a collective 12,000 pounds. Most telling, in my opinion, was the city workers’ healthcare claims dropping by 49 percent. Other businesses who participated saw a drop in absenteeism — by 21 percent!

When the project hit California, similar results were seen. Smoking rates and obesity rates dropped. More people parked their cars in favor of biking and walking.

These communities united their residents with a common goal of becoming healthier. Did it open communication? inspire people to stick to their goals? decrease stress? enhance relationships? How about saving money by not smoking or decreasing transportation costs?

Maybe the link between building community and building your savings account is stronger than I first suspected.

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How do you think building community affects your health, financial and otherwise? Have you tried to build community and, if so, how?

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There are 9 comments to "How to build community relationships".

  1. Mrs. Frugalwoods says 06 April 2015 at 04:28

    I think having a community is vital! And it can definitely impact you financially. We’ve met a whole community of folks through our dog since we’re often out taking her on walks. It has helped us feel more connected to our neighbors and fostered friendships.

    Additionally, we swap dog-sitting with our dog community. We’ve actually never had to pay to board our dog because she’s always able to stay with friends for free. Likewise, we often babysit other people’s dogs for free, which makes it such a virtuous and helpful cycle for everyone. The dogs are happier, the humans are happier, and we all save money!

  2. Nick @ Millionaires Giving Money says 06 April 2015 at 07:32

    I’ve been through some highs and lows in life and having a loving family and a resilient community has helped me come through some pretty rough patches. I completely agree with this post, if you’re not part of a community then make it one of your priorities in life.

  3. RandyC says 06 April 2015 at 07:33

    Re: “Join Something”: I recommend Toastmasters to meet new people while improving your communication and leadership skills. Toastmasters is the world’s largest non-profit educational group. With 13,000+ clubs in over 100 countries, there’s bound to be a club near you.

  4. Laronda says 06 April 2015 at 08:55

    We’re lucky enough to live in a very active, interconnected neighborhood, and have benefited from it in numerous ways. We have three children who have plenty of playmates nearby as well as older neighbors who look out for and mentor them (and us). When we had our third child, who was colicky and quite challenging, our support network was a life-saver. Having trusted people willing to hold a screaming baby for even 10 minutes was sanity-saving, and many people took our older two for an afternoon to give us and them a break.

    And that’s not even touching the financial benefits of more outside fun activity keeping us healthier, being able to borrow and lend tools and specialized equipment rather than buying it, and, the biggie for us: trading or borrowing our kids’ clothing, cloth diapers, toys, bikes, etc. That alone has saved us thousands over the eight years we’ve been parents. Everyone in the neighborhood benefits as no one has to buy everything new, no one has to store a ton of bulky baby gear between children, and we all get to know each other better through these interactions. It’s a win-win-win!

  5. Vanessa says 07 April 2015 at 19:05

    I’ve moved around too much to foster any community ties so I’ve learned to be self-reliant. Having support would be nice, but I feel more secure knowing that I don’t need it.

  6. Cameron says 09 April 2015 at 12:51

    I have a good synonym for community in another word, Church.
    Let’s quick hop back 2 millenia ago and we can see a few evidences- (book of Acts Chp2: 44-47, ESV)
    44 And all who believed were together and had all things in common. 45 And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. 46 And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts.

    I’d like to note 3 items in specific, both from personal experience and from the historic writings of Luke.

    1) Common beliefs: far far easier to relate to those who already share core values across a wide spectrum. Easy to get along with (mostly :)- people who you can trust to watch the kids, people you can immediately discuss deep topics with without fear of offense. People who can challenge you to ‘do better’ and identify weaknesses, if you are able to receive the correction.

    2) Radical willingness to sacrifice for the needs of others both inside and out of the church. Besides providing for the material needs of those inside the church (as had needs), I find being in this kind of community likewise spurs us on to charity elsewhere- working together via Habitat for Humanity, Salvation army, or any number of local venues.

    3)Something unique about the joy of shared meals: It seems to me, I humbly submit, that food tastes better in the company of good friends and good conversation. Indeed, the very definition of the word ‘companion’ means someone ‘with’ (com-) whom you break bread (-pan). Enjoying such things together tends to increase gratitude, and decrease want or material fixation. If you are content, than what attraction has the expensive/shiny/new?

  7. Elliot says 14 April 2015 at 14:43

    I used to live in a small town with annual town meetings and bucolic views and people coming by with Thanksgiving dinners if you couldn’t afford one. Now I live in one of the bigger cities in the country and the last thing I expected to find here was community. But I did. I guess a big city is just a collection of communities.

    This resonates with me. Thanks. I hope you don’t mind that I cross-referenced it at

  8. Beard Better says 15 April 2015 at 07:32

    This all sounds great, but meeting people and forming lasting relationships has always been tough for me. I’ve been thinking about trying to get some coworkers together for a potluck dinner some night, and I think this post is going to give me that last bit of motivation to work up the courage and just do it.

  9. Patricia Collins says 13 October 2015 at 11:27

    Our church has contributed a lot to our community. We had dinners to raise money for much needed repairs to our church and when we started to have enough we changed it to a donation dinner accepting whatever a person or family could afford even if it was nothing. We have a food pantry come from the county and we distribute it for them. We have full funerals including the viewing for families who cannot afford the funeral parlors. We help out when there are sicknesses, or other needs in our church or village.

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