{"id":171219,"date":"2014-03-28T04:00:13","date_gmt":"2014-03-28T11:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/getrichslowly.org\/blog\/?p=171219"},"modified":"2023-09-18T12:06:53","modified_gmt":"2023-09-18T18:06:53","slug":"ask-the-readers-how-many-wedding-gifts-should-you-buy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.getrichslowly.org\/ask-the-readers-how-many-wedding-gifts-should-you-buy\/","title":{"rendered":"Do you bring gifts to a bridal shower or engagement party?"},"content":{"rendered":"
Earlier this week, I wrote about the problem with trying to buy the perfect gift. Sticking with that gift theme, there’s a question that’s been on my mind: If you’re invited to an engagement party, a bridal shower, and a wedding ceremony all for the same couple, and you attend all three, do you give a gift at each event?<\/strong><\/p>\n See, I’ve been invited to a few weddings this year. And it seems like the etiquette “experts” all agree that each event requires a separate gift, according to tradition. Here are some examples from around the web:<\/p>\n “If I bring a gift to the bridal shower, should I still bring a gift to the wedding?” a question <\/em>Peggy Post, co-author of the 18th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette is accustomed to answering. Her advice is, basically, that a shower gift is not a wedding gift. “I know some of these shower gifts are expensive, but be smart so you don’t have to break the bank.”<\/p>\n “I’m going to both the wedding shower and the wedding. Must I buy gifts for both?”<\/em> “Unfortunately, yes. ‘That’s part of the obligation you agreed to when you RSVPed for both,’ says [Mark] Kingsdorf,” bridal consultant at The Queen of Hearts Wedding Consultants — Real Simple’s The Essential Guide to Buying Wedding Gifts.<\/p>\n “According to custom, the answer to whether to give gifts for engagements, showers and weddings is: maybe, yes and yes.” — How Stuff Works<\/a>.<\/p>\n Hmm, exactly how is one supposed to “be smart” about expensive gifts? And calling gifts an obligation? It kinda puts a bad taste in my mouth, like it’s sucking the joy out of giving a gift in the first place.<\/p>\nBridal shower gift vs wedding gift<\/h2>\n
Guests Say, “Forget the Experts!”<\/h2>\n